A-Game Consultancy

Obsessed with helping men avoid a life of quiet desperation.

Our mission is help men go alcohol-free, rebuild their habits, and create alignment between their life and business.

Co-Founder

Alcohol Reset Challenge

Discover A Whole New Side Of You By Making This One Simple Change And Become The Happiest, Most Productive And Healthiest Version Of Yourself.

The Alcohol Reset Challenge is a 30-Day program created by Adam Mayhew to reset your relationship with Alcohol. Join Adam as he guides you with a daily video program through your alcohol-free journey and how powerful this one simple change can have in transforming your life, health, wealth, love and happiness.

Founder

Adam Mayhew Consultancy

Owner

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Embed is a worldwide supplier of point of sale and revenue management systems for the amusement, entertainment and leisure industries. As a leader in the market, Embed delivers a well rounded set of tools designed to manage all areas of any entertainment facility. Our focus is on enhancing site revenues through the use of cashless payment systems, value-added packages, guest membership and loyalty programs, full redemption management, access control, integrated and automated reporting to provide operators full control of their locations.

By offering location operators a full portfolio of revenue management systems, point of sale solutions, debit card and ticketing solutions, FEC business reporting and redemption counter solutions in addition to connections for electronic locker systems, amusement games, video games, redemption games and arcade games Embed is able to deliver a high level of satisfaction across many consumer touch points. 


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Support Manager - Europe, Middle East and Africa

BlackHorse IT | IT Support Dubai

BlackHorse IT is a British owned and managed IT Support and Solution Provider supporting businesses in the UAE and based in Dubai. We will provide high quality service complemented with a personal, loyal approach to understanding your business IT needs.

BlackHorse IT Services and Solutions are designed to help companies optimize their IT capabilities. We can manage a variety of engagements of all sizes, structures, and technology. The benefits for you are: Improved quality of delivered systems, Cost optimization of quality control and quality management.

Specialties:
IT Solutions, IT Project Management, IT Support and Maintenance, IT Infrastructure, IT for Healthcare, IT Business Analysis, Website Design

Technical Account Manager

Welcom

Leading the IT Service Desk and Client Services teams for a diverse multi company supporting powerful bespoke Financial Software, Supply Chain Management Software, e-commerce solutions and cloud-based digital signage for national and international brands including Brammer, HSS Hire, The Construction Industry Training Board (CITB), Goodwin PLC, The Conran Shop, Le Creuset, Dorling Kindersley, Hallmark, TKMaxx, Home Retail Group and Ryman.

• Responsible for ensuring the smooth day to day running of the Service Desk, acting as the first point of contact and escalation point for analysts and multiple client support groups. Ensuring Service Desk coverage, call levels and SLA’s are achieved and that client expectations are met or exceeded.
• Coordinating and managing client Incidents, Problems and Changes with other teams including consultants, designers, developers, infrastructure and offshore teams in India.
• Implemented new processes and procedures on client support, significantly increasing incident response and resolution times and improving overall customer service.
• Designed and ITIL incident management, problem management and best practice procedures within the Service Desk team and client services department, ensuring SLA compliance.
• Assisting in the strategy, design and change of e-commerce websites and solutions. Working with Agile project development teams and clients to deliver to their roadmap.
• Contributing to the success of the business and assisting in improving the overall experience of the clients within the team.

Service Desk Supervisor

Reef Business Systems Limited

Reef Business Systems Limited was formed to provide bespoke software and consultancy in all areas of sales and process control.

• Responsible for the implementation, support and management of bespoke CRM and profit optimisation software to motor dealerships across the United Kingdom and Northern Ireland. 
•  Responsible for the IT Infrastructure servers including application and web servers, exchange and 
database servers. 
• Gathering, understanding and analysing client’s business processes and requirements. 
• Implementation of solutions and the configuration of bespoke solutions to match client’s needs and identifying improvements to management and developers.
• Software demonstrations for existing clients and new prospects and identifying, building and maintaining strong customer relationships to ensure the renewal of contracts.  
• Designing and developing CRM, Profit and business reports helping clients identify key factors of their business environment.

IT Support Manager / Business Development Executive

The British Library

• Responsible for providing hands on and remote desktop support and assisting users with the installation, configuration and on-going usability of desktop computers, peripheral equipment and software.
• Building, configuring and maintaining desktop computers, laptops, printers and scanners.  
• Management of incident and requests and change resolutions maintaining close liaison with support teams and senior managers over the implementation of major changes. 
• Use of Active Directory, Zenworks, SMS and GPO’s for configuration and deployment of applications and re-imaging computers across users on multiple sites. 
• Network surveys to allow for office reorganisations to take place.
• Support of all HP printing devices from maintenance to installation, use of Web jet admin for configuration.

Desktop Support Technician / Service Desk Administrator

Wolseley UK

• Providing remote and desk side support on a daily basis to users of the business and 1500 branches. 
• Supporting in house applications, Windows operating systems and software. 
• Working on second line incidents and taking ownership until resolution.
• Analysing and resolving incidents within accepted timescale or assigning to other relevant IT groups.
• Liaising with third parties in relation to outsourced services and with other IT specialist services.

IT Support Analyst

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From the outside, your business looks successful. Inside, you’re exhausted, stressed, and relying on alcohol to take the edge off. 

It works in the moment, but it’s costing you your health, your relationships, and the clarity you need to lead.

We help male founders and CEOs break that cycle. Through Sobriety, Alignment, and Self-Mastery, we rebuild your energy, sharpen decision making, and create a business and life that actually fit together.

This isn’t theory. We’ve worked with founders who’ve gone sober, rebuilt their marriages, doubled their revenue, and finally felt in control again. 

Success on paper is meaningless if you’re falling apart behind the scenes.

If you’re ready to stop sacrificing yourself for the business and start building one that fuels your life, let’s talk.

👉 DM us “Ready” or book a Founder Call today.

🎙️ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/bw/podcast/a-game-unfiltered/id1708189512

📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@a-gameconsultancy

Adam Mayhew

You don’t drink alcohol because you like it, 

You drink because you saw your parents drinking. You looked at adults and became aware you weren’t allowed it.

You drink it because you wanted to fit in when your friends started drinking in your teens. 

You then either went to uni and it became the norm or, you started work. Most industries have a bad drinking culture. 

Then life gets more complicated and stressful in your 20’s. Bills to pay, climbing the corporate ladder, talks of engagement and kids etc etc. 

You drink for different reasons and your priorities shift. It’s now become the done thing to drink after work/on a sunny day/when you feel stressed.

You start using language like “I need a drink” or “I deserve a drink, I’ve had a hard week”.

This leads to massive problems ranging from weight gain to your marriage falling apart. 

Sound familiar? This is roughly 90% of the people that come to me but they aren’t even aware where it began. Most people that I receive messages from want to stop drinking but they’re fearful. 

Will my friends disown me? 

Will I become boring? 

How will I deal with stress? 

All normal thoughts to have but they aren’t helpful. If you’re sick of alcohol running the show and you want to perform better at work and at home, message me.

P.S. Join us tomorrow at 12:00 pm GMT for our next line workshop for founders and high-achievers. Link in comments 👇

You’re thriving in business but sabotaging your health and home life. Through sobriety, accountability, and action, you rebuild trust, strength, and purpose to become the man your family deserves.

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It’s hard to tell the truth when you lie to yourself, 

6 pints of water a day? Impossible. 
6 pints of beer in 3 hours? No brainer. 

60 minutes of exercise? Don’t have the time. 
60 minutes of scrolling? Easily achieved. 

30 minutes of walking? Too tired. 
3 hours of Netflix? It’s a reward. 

You’re keeping yourself stuck because of outdated and faulty systems. 

The good news is it can all change. How? 

Gaining clarity on what you want, figuring out what isn’t working, setting goals, having accountability and then taking action. 

I offer all of these things. If you’re sick of lying to yourself and want to make lasting change with a team of experts, message me the word “Ready”.

P.S. We are hosting a free workshop for founders, execs, and business owners who are ready to remove what’s holding them back and finally thrive in life and business - Link in comments.

I can’t imagine having children and being hungover, 

This isn’t to judge. I’ve always been a sober parent and it just makes life so much more manageable. 

I have 2 kids under the age of 4. It’s challenging to say the least. 

Prepping everything, cleaning the house and organising meal times can seem like a military operation at times. 

Adding a hangover or brain fog to that seems unfathomable. 

If you want to take a break from alcohol, here is where I would start:

- Opt for alcohol free alternatives instead. That way, it doesn’t feel like you’re missing out on anything. 

- Avoid pubs and bars for a while. If you were trying to lose weight, you wouldn’t hang around in McDonald’s. 

- Channel your energy to something else. You will get so much time back when you’re not hungover. Get a new hobby, join a gym or running club etc. 

- Do it with a friend. Doing it alone can seem very lonely and having an accountability buddy will help massively. 

Are you alcohol free? Comment below

Life and Business Strategist for Founders. Become the man your family is proud of and your business can rely on. You don’t need more information. You need clarity, implementation and accountability

Most business owners don’t realise the real cost of their lifestyle until it hits them in the face,

I spoke to a client recently who built a successful company from nothing.
Team of twenty.
Great money.
Beautiful house.
On paper, he had won.

But behind the scenes, his life was held together with duct tape.

He told me he could barely remember the last time he’d had a proper night’s sleep. He lived on caffeine, shortcuts and the hope that tomorrow he might somehow feel better.

His son stopped asking him to play because the answer was always "not now".
His wife started going to bed earlier because she was tired of waiting for him to switch off his laptop.
He noticed it all, but he didn’t know how to stop the momentum of who he had become.

The scary part is that he thought this was normal. That this was the cost of being a high performer.

Until one morning...he woke up, looked in the mirror and didn’t recognise the man staring back.
He saw the exhaustion, the weight gain, the tension in his jaw, the spark that had disappeared.
Not because he didn’t care, but because he’d spent years caring about everything except himself.

That was the moment he realised the truth. 
His business wasn’t the problem.
His habits were.

Once he started changing the way he operated, everything shifted.

He blocked time in his calendar for training and actually stuck to it.
He started eating like a man who gives a sh*t about his future.
He created boundaries around his phone so his family got the version of him they deserved.
He reconnected with his partner.
He became intentional with his time instead of being a hostage to it.

And the irony?
His business grew faster.
Not because he worked more, but because he finally worked from a place of clarity instead of chaos.

Every ambitious man knows the feeling of losing himself on the climb.
But the ones who turn their life around are the ones who pay attention before they hit the wall.

So ask yourself:
What is this current version of you costing you? And what becomes possible when you stop surviving and start leading with intention?

If you’re done watching yourself drift, send me a message.

You don’t have to burn your life upside down to rebuild it.
You just have to stop pretending everything is fine.

Founders hire me to transform their mindset, health and performance so they think clearly, lead with confidence, increase profit and stay present at home while building a life of real freedom.

I needed to stop drinking alcohol as it was making my life worse, 


I wasn’t an addict. 

I wasn’t scrambling for empty cans of beer. 

I just knew I was sick of feeling like sh*t. 

You don’t need to be at rock bottom to make positive changes in your life. I work with high-performers, Senior Execs and Business Owners.

People that know they are meant for more and despite their success they feel empty and void of fulfilment.

They have the car, the house and the nice things but still something is missing. 

That missing piece is sobriety. 

You gain more time for family, you appreciate what you already have, you challenge yourself physically due to having more energy, you become less stressed, you start to put in boundaries and feel freer. 

It’s the single best gift you can give to yourself and your family. 

You don’t need to have a problem with alcohol to stop but perhaps ask yourself if alcohol is causing your problems. 

Life can be amazing when you stop screwing yourself over each weekend. 

If you want to get off the bullsh*t hamster wheel then message me. 

Are you alcohol free? Comment below 

P.S. Live workshop for founders, business owners and high-achievers on 19th Nov. Save your seat 👉 Link in comments.

Five years in business and we thought we had it all figured out.

Then two months ago, Adam Smith and I joined Phil Graham's Expansion Partners and it’s been a complete game-changer.

Not just because of Phil’s guidance and mentoring, but because of the power of being surrounded by other business owners all pushing for more. That environment forces you to raise your standards, face the hard truths, and make the moves you’ve been avoiding.

If you’re a founder or coach you are the ceiling of your business. When you stop growing, so does everything else.

Most people fear investing in themselves but think nothing of spending money on things that give zero return. But when you invest in someone who’s already where you want to be and put yourself in rooms where growth is the norm, everything changes.

That’s been one of our biggest lessons after five years in business and I’m pumped about this next chapter.

How are you investing in your growth right now? Got anything exciting in the works? Comment below

It’s Sunday night. You’ve spent the whole day trying to keep your head above water, not just as a dad, but also as a business owner. The inbox is full, the week ahead already feels heavy, and the pressure of running a business hasn’t left your mind once.

My latest article is out now 👇

It’s Sunday night. You’ve spent the whole day trying to keep your head above water. Not just as a dad, but as a business owner too. The inbox is full,

Open article: Why Becoming a Sober Dad Is the Best Thing You’ll Ever Do for Your Family and Yourself by Adam Mayhew • 4 min read

Why Becoming a Sober Dad Is the Best Thing You’ll Ever Do for Your Family and Yourself

“I’m thankful for how you changed yourself to be a better Dad for me”

Someone chopping onions? 

This was a message from my client. 

He’s a VP of sales out in the US. 

He came to me like most men do. 

Successful by most people’s standards. The house, the car, the great lifestyle, supportive partner, 2 lovely kids but something was missing.

That missing piece? Identity and alignment. 

If you aren’t aligned with your success than you will always feel inadequate and unfulfilled. 

The first thing we looked at was sobriety and mindfulness. This gives you a level of clarity and awareness that is beyond comprehension. 

Once you become more aware you realise what an awful impact your drinking is having on your health, relationships and performance. 

For most of our clients this is enough of a motivator to remove alcohol completely. 

In the last 11 months he’s removed alcohol, meditated everyday, completed a triathlon, got promoted at work and healed problems that have held him back for decades. 

These results are amazing but not uncommon in our programe. 

His new identity? Super Dad, super husband, Ultra athlete, successful VP and overall nice guy. 

If you want your kids writing notes to you and thanking you for changing your life, message me.

In 2018, I told people that I didn’t want to drink anymore. Many laughed at me, questioned me, and rolled their eyes.


In 2025, I tell people I am 7 years sober and that one decision became the foundation for a profitable business, a healthier body, a clearer mind, and a life I’m proud of. 

Now, they congratulate me and ask how I did it.

Never feel judged for the choices you make. The best person to believe in is yourself. The rest will catch up.

If you’re ready to back yourself and create a life that you enjoy, then message me the word “Ready”.

I wore a mask for most of my life, 

I was called "Mayers" and "Big Ads". 

I spent most of my teens and twenties wearing a mask. I was just hoping that people would like me, so I went along with what I thought everyone wanted me to be. 

I went out every weekend because I didn’t know how to socialise without drugs or alcohol. 

Doing stupid sh*t on a regular basis to please others. 

Alcohol was a familiar crutch. I knew the pain involved in a hangover and hating myself. 

I got to the breaking point when I was living in Dubai, chasing the dream and hoping I would finally feel validated. I had the car, the watch, the great job and the Instagram lifestyle. 

Yet still I was miserable. So what do I do now? How do I fill this void? 

I began a meditation practice just to explore my curiosity around it. 

From there, I decided to take a break from alcohol. (That break has lasted almost 8 years) 

The clarity that meditation and sobriety brought me was something I didn’t think was physically possible. 

Since starting that journey, I have achieved the following; 

- Meditated every day for 8 years 
- Alcohol free for 7+ years
- Completed Marathons & Ultra Marathons 
- Got married and had 2 kids 
- Set up a business that has turned over 1.3 million 
- Coached over 500 people 
- Worked with brands like Amazon, Dell and Team GB
- Got in the best shape of my life 
- Started a podcast, which is 125 episodes and counting 

So while I’m still flawed and it hasn’t been the smoothest journey, I can assure that I have overcome my own hardships along the way and come out of the other side. 

It all started with awareness. As a starting point, ask yourself the following questions...

Am I fully fulfilled?
Am I present with my family?
Am I hitting my physical goals?
Am I happy in my career? 
Am I being the best version of myself?
What would need to happen for me to change? 

Holding up the mirror isn’t peaceful, but it will bring you peace. 

How do you perform at your best every day? Comment below 

P.S. If you haven’t already, give our podcast a listen using this link 👉  https://lnkd.in/eeaXNKzT

You don’t need to be a better man. You need to be an honest one,


Maybe you’ve built success and ticked all the boxes. But deep down, you know something’s missing.

You’ve been wearing a mask for years, pretending to have it all together while quietly falling apart inside. It's not that you’re not a bad man. You’ve just lost touch with who you really are.

You drink to escape and overwork to avoid things.  You tell yourself “it’s fine” when it isn’t. And every day that passes, you drift a little further away from the man your family deserves.

I see this time and time again with the men that we coach. It’s time to stop running and sit with the truth instead of hiding from it.

Because when you do, something changes. You stop reacting to life and start leading it. You become calmer, clearer, more grounded. 

It doesn't end there because your kids feel it, and your partner feels it. And for the first time in years, you feel proud of the man in the mirror.

You say you’d do anything for your family. Would you face yourself for them?
 
P.S. If you want to learn more about this, then Adam Smith and I are hosting a free masterclass on November 19th @ 12:00pm GMT - Link in comments.

“I would do anything for my kids” Would you go sober for them? 


Would get healthy for them?

Would you put your work laptop away at the dinner table for them? 

Would you be present for them? 

You’re chasing more “success” due to insecurity and the fear of not being good enough. It’s exhausting isn’t it?

I experienced this before my children arrived. I was out in Dubai living the high life but it was all a mask. 

I was pretending to be happy and kept chasing more things in the hope it would validate me. 

I began meditating everyday and the clarity that gave me led to taking a break from alcohol. That break has lasted 7 years.

In that time I’ve;

- Got in the best shape of my life 
- Set up a multi 6 figure business
- Coached over 500 people 
- Had 2 beautiful children 
- Worked with pro athletes 
- The most peaceful I’ve ever been 

This all came from being sick of my own bull sh*t and taking action. 

You’re only one decision away from changing your life, if you want my help, message me. 

P.S. How do you look after yourself each day? Comment below

Before I became a dad, I quit drinking for me, for my mental health and because I was sick of it. 

Now, I stay sober for my kids. Parenting is fu*king hard. It’s the sleepless nights, the meltdowns (theirs and mine!). I honestly can’t imagine doing any of it hungover.

Because a hungover me would get irritated so easily, snap at them and feel anxious and ashamed. It’s already hard…why make it any harder by pouring fuel on the fire? 

Being a sober dad means I get to…

✅ Be fully present, even on the tough days. 
✅ Keep calm when they are tearing the house down  
✅ Wake up with a clear head and be grateful instead of feeling like sh*t and full of regret. 
✅ Model the kind of self-care I hope my sons will choose for themselves one day. 
✅ Remember the moments that matter the most.

I see parents struggling all the time. Not because they’re bad parents. But because they’re trying to do the hardest job in the world while pouring a depressant into their system most nights.
 If you’re a parent wondering whether drinking is still serving you, let me say this:

The best gift I’ve ever given my family is sobriety. And the best gift sobriety gave me was being the dad my kids deserve.

Are you a sober parent? How different does life look now?

P.S. Save your seat for our free upcoming workshop for Founders, Business Owners and Execs 👉 https://lnkd.in/eH4R7vxM

“I bet you’re really boring now because you don’t drink”, 

Well, it depends. 

Is waking up feeling fresh most days boring? 

Is being more present at family events boring?

Is saving thousands of pounds boring? 

Is having more energy and time to prioritise your health boring? 

I wouldn’t say so. 

You can always find a reason just painful enough not to take action. 

“Life is stressful at the moment, I’ll make changes when things slow down”

“Eating healthy meals is really expensive”

“I’ll stop drinking alcohol after Christmas”

It feels good to create these false narratives for yourself, as it means you get a justification for your behaviour. 

Nothing is boring about looking after your health and becoming a better version of yourself for you and your family. 

What is boring is waking up with another hangover, arguing with your spouse, sleeping like sh*t, and your kids not wanting to spend time with you.

Are you alcohol free? Comment below

P.S. - Live workshop this Wednesday, 19th at 12:00 pm GMT for founders, executives, and business leaders who are ready to remove what’s holding them back and finally thrive in life and business- LINK IN COMMENTS.

Sobriety gives you so much and I wish more people knew about it,

I’m a millennial. There are many people I know my age and older that are set in their ways. 

Still going out and sinking 6-8 pints on a weekend and they’re over the age of 35. 

I just wish more people could realise the benefits of sobriety. There's so much more to life than being hungover for days and feeling like sh*t. 

“Bore off, nothing wrong with a few beers with the lads”

Perhaps not. But is it really helping you? When the bravado stops and you’re not surrounded by the pressure to be “jack the lad”.

Are you really performing at your best?

Is your family life thriving or surviving? 

How’s your career/business doing? 

“I drink and all of those areas of my life are fine”

Ok, but they could be EVEN better. Also, ask your family how it’s impacting them. Speak to your friends about your drinking. 

I couldn’t care less if you drink or not. But if you do remove it, it will change your life. 

- You’ll get more clarity 
- Your sleep improves 
- Your energy goes up
- You’ll be more present 
- You’ll save money 
- You’ll lose weight 

You get the picture. 

If you want to break free from this watch my live from last week (in comments).

Your family doesn’t need your money, they need you


“I do everything for my family”

Yet you get home after spending another 5 hours on a deal and now they’re in bed. 

“I would die for my kids”

Would you go sober and get healthy for them? 

Look, I get it. I’m not attacking you, I have a deep level of empathy for where you’re at and want to hold you to a higher standard. 

You’re holding back from being truly fulfilled due to the guilt you’re carrying around like a dead weight. 

You don’t feel worthy of happiness, so you start to sabotage it. You avoid the gym yet again. 

You promise yourself it’s the last glass of wine before reaching for a bottle. Again. 

You tell your kids you’ll play with them after work, but you don’t get home until 10 pm. Again. 

It’s exhausting, isn’t it? 

Just for a moment, picture the following:

- Your business still thrives but doesn’t demand every minute of your time. 
- Your partner has never been more drawn to you and wants to have sex with you. 
- Your kids are excited for you to get home. 
- You’re hitting fitness goals that you didn’t think would be possible after you turned 40. 
- You can sit with your thoughts and not feel anxious or dependent on alcohol to numb them. 

This is exactly what I’ve helped 500+ high achievers do, and you could be next.

I'm just one message away, and I'm ready for you when you are.

Are you a FaceTime father? 


Sitting on your hotel bed after another painful day of pretending to like people in order to “win the deal”.

You tell everyone you do everything for your family before dialling in and hoping your partner answers so you can say goodnight to your kids via FaceTime again. 

The sinking feeling like you’re not doing enough. 

The guilt is real. 

The kids don’t want to say goodnight tonight. They want you there in person and they’re mad at you. 

You’re more mad at you than they could ever be. 

I get it. There are certain careers that mean you have to be away from home more than you would like. 

But this isn’t about you working away. This is about a much deeper issue. 

You not showing up when you’re actually at home. 

Ask yourself honestly; “am I present when I am at home?” 

What does being fully present mean? 

I can tell you what it’s not. 

Having your phone on the table but having it flipped upside down while it vibrates like a butt plug. 

Half listening to your kids while doing emails. 

Asking questions and not caring about the answer. 

Snapping at them at a minor inconvenience. 

Drinking alcohol to escape your thoughts because you’re miserable as f*ck.

Imagine a life where your kids run up to you when you walk through the door. 

Your partner can’t wait to have sex with you. 

Your career is still thriving. 

You’re smashing it in the gym. 

You have the confidence to put in boundaries at work. 

“You’re a dreamer Adam”

Nope. 

These are just some of the wins you can see in my programme. 

If you’re sick of being a FaceTime father and want to create a life you don’t want to escape from, message me. 

How do you put in boundaries? Comment below 👇

Most men already know they need to change, 

The real question is who they trust to lead them through it.

A client closed a £1.25m deal and walked through his front door buzzing.
He thought he’d finally cracked it. He had no idea what was waiting for him.

His wife looked at him and said, "Your daughter asked me today if you even like her?"

He spent the last four months negotiating the deal.
The Late nights.
Trains down to London.
Strategy meetings.
Pressure.
Stress.
He gave all of himself to the business.

That same week, he spent about six minutes with his daughter. And this is where it hits high-achievers the hardest.

Because deep down, you know you are capable of more than this.
Not just professionally but personally.

Here is the pattern I see with men at the top:

You’ll spend hours preparing for a board meeting. Yet you won’t spend three minutes asking your child about their day.

You’ll track revenue KPIs to the decimal. But you don’t know what your wife actually needs.

You’ll obsess over the next level at work. But avoid the hard conversations at home.

Then you sit there wondering why success feels hollow.

This client asked me, "Is it possible to feel accomplished in my personal life the way I do professionally?"

Of course it is. The skills are already there. You only use them in the place where you feel most competent.

The difference is that he decided to apply those strengths to his actual life, not just his business.

He hired me, and we built a plan.

He scheduled family time like board meetings and treated it as a Non-negotiable.
He asked his wife what she needed instead of guessing.
He learned what his kids cared about.
He showed up consistently.

Six months later, his daughter runs to the door when he gets home. He told me the buzz he felt watching her score a goal was bigger than closing that deal.

Most men say they are doing it for their family.
No mate. You’re doing it for yourself.

Your family doesn’t want the bigger house.
They want you. Present, grounded and connected.

So here is the choice:

Are you willing to apply the same intensity to the people who actually matter?
Or do you keep building empires while your family quietly falls apart?

Reading my content won’t change your life.
Working with my team and I will.

Message me the word "Ready" if you want clarity, strategy and accountability.

Friday Mojo…Ginseng going in 🌱

Going live with Adam Smith at 12:30pm GMT today to talk about the Drama Triangle.

Are you playing Victim, Rescuer, or Persecutor today?

Most people don’t realise they’re stuck in a script they wrote themselves. We’ll show you how to get out ot it! 

See you at 12:30pm.

Making positive changes means that everyone else around you benefits as well,

Our client (let’s call him Joe) came to use a few months ago with the following challenges. 

❌ Drinking most days due to low self esteem and wanting to escape his emotions. 

❌ Out of shape and making poor food choices due to poor time management and not organising his meals. 

❌ Not exercising due to a “lack of time”’when in reality his was wasting countless hours scrolling.  

❌ No boundaries at work led to being on his laptop until 9pm most nights. 

His self esteem was on the floor and something had to change as his relationship was strained, his boss was getting pissed off and he had never felt lower. 

In just 3 months he’s now achieved the following;

✅ Lost 8kg of fat (18lbs) and back in the gym 5 times a week 

✅ Over 90 days alcohol free and removed himself from toxic people that were trying to keep him stuck where he was. 

✅ Killing it at work by being more intentional and actually working less so his boss is buzzing. 

✅ Relationship thriving with his partner and being more present than ever with her. 

He’s happier, more relaxed and focussed than ever. 

So while he’s made the changes to better himself and rightfully so, everyone else is benefitting as well. 

Change is only a message away so if you’re wanting to get results like this, I’m only a message away and we can have a chat. 

What positive changes have you made recently? Comment below

P.S. There's still some spaces left for our upcoming workshop on 19th November - Link in comments.

My own company (I am self-employed)

I help you make a shitload of money. But if that’s the only reason you want to work with me, don’t.

Money flows naturally when your business is built in alignment. When who you are, what you believe, and what you create all speak the same language. What I care about is impact. Influence. And stories that actually stick.

Personal branding isn’t a nice-to-have. It’s non-negotiable. And I genuinely believe every founder, coach, and entrepreneur who wants to make an impact needs to show up. Now more than ever.

Not just for the money. 
Not just because people do business with people.
Not just because if you don’t show up, your dream client will choose someone else who does.

But because your voice has power. Because your story, shared through social media, can inspire, heal, and change lives. And not by presenting a polished image or flaunting fancy numbers. But by sharing the messy middle. The breakdown before the breakthrough. The stories that made you who you are today.

What you’ve built.
What you’re still figuring out.
What you dare to share before it’s perfect.

In a world full of noise, authenticity is what truly cuts through. I help you show up online exactly as you are in real life. So your audience doesn’t just read your story, they feel it, like you’re having a real conversation with them.

“But I hate LinkedIn.”
“I don’t know what to say.”
“I want to make impact, but it feels awkward.”

I get it. That’s why you hire me.

Ghostwriter & Personal Branding Strategist

Healing with Ari (Launching end 2025)

Mental health struggles aren’t private battles, they’re a global crisis we need to confront.

So many people are struggling in silence. And that’s exactly the problem. We live in a world where depression, burnout, anxiety, addiction and even suicidal thoughts are more common than we want to admit. The world is on fire. And inside, many of us are too. I know what it’s like to be stuck in the dark. I wasn’t suicidal, but I was severely depressed for years. 

Everything felt heavy. Pointless. I couldn’t see a way out. Until I did. What changed? A spiritual awakening, followed by years of deep inner work. Therapy. Breathwork. Letting go of trauma. Rewriting limiting beliefs. Learning to accept who I truly am. And what started that journey?

Not a doctor. 
Not a book. 
But social media and mostly, podcasts.

Listening to guests on shows like Jay Shetty and Lewis Howes, people who seemed to have it all figured out… but had walked through fire too. It made me realize: I’m not alone. Those stories didn’t just resonate, I’m convinced they saved my life.

So, if you ever feel like I did, Healing with Ari is for you. And maybe, selfishly, it’s still for me too. Because healing doesn’t happen all at once. It happens in waves. In conversations. In quiet moments when someone says, "Me too.”

Right now, I’m recording new episodes and building season one, launching later this year.

Podcast Creator & Host

Millionaire In The Making

New age millionaires don’t just build businesses. They break patterns. Heal bloodlines. Shift entire realities.

Not by being perfect, but by being honest. Visible. Loud in their truth. They turn their story into a catalyst. Their voice into medicine. And the tool that makes that kind of impact possible? Social media. Social media is not just a platform, it’s a portal. To visibility, connection, millions of people, millions of euros and massive impact.

That’s why I’m building Millionaire in the Making an online community for founders, coaches & creatives who want to grow their visibility, their business, their brand and, most importantly, themselves.

Because here’s the brutal truth no one tells you: building a presence online will confront every part of you.

The fear.
The self‑doubt.
The imposter syndrome.
The shadows.

If you’re not willing to face what’s under the surface, you’ll never build something that matters. Serious growth demands showing up fully — no sugarcoating, no running away. This isn’t just about content strategy or polished messaging (though we include both). It’s about energy, identity, who you are when you show up and what you believe you’re worthy of receiving.

This is for you if:

+ You’re building from scratch and want to do it aligned with your truth
+ You already have a business but feel invisible online
+ You know your voice can change lives, but don’t know how to show up
+ You’re done playing small and ready to be seen, fully

Here’s what to expect inside Millionaire in the Making:

+ Monthly expert-led masterclasses
+ Real-time challenges
+ A community that actually gets it

If you’ve read this far, this is your invite. To heal the trauma response that says you have to do this alone. To stop trying to figure it all out by yourself. To build, grow, and heal with a community that challenges you, and holds you accountable every step of the way.

You in?

Randstad

At Randstad, I led high-volume recruitment campaigns with speed and heart — hiring 40+ people per day while keeping the candidate experience personal.

This work sharpened my intuition, strengthened my skills, and confirmed my belief that great recruitment is both efficient and human.

Recruiter

Multiple Companies

Before I moved into recruitment and coaching, I learned the art of connection on shop floors — helping people feel seen, heard, and confident.

Retail taught me that real service isn’t about the sale — it’s about the experience someone carries with them.

Retail Sales Associate

Hi, I’m Arianne.

Lightworker. Empath. Self-proclaimed healer. Mental health advocate. Multidimensional. Loud about my worldview and done playing small.

I believe your voice is medicine. That content can heal. That community can shift the course of someone’s life. And that social media is not just a platform, it’s a portal.

To visibility.
To wealth.
To deeper purpose.
To the new world we’re here to build.

We’ve been taught to polish ourselves before we show up. To wait until we’re perfect. But perfection is a cage and it’s keeping too many powerful voices silent. Fuck that. The world doesn’t need perfect. It needs real. It needs leaders who are brave enough to be seen mid-process. Mid-healing. Mid-rebuild.

And right now? I’m building.

1. Building my podcast – Healing with Ari, a deeply personal mental health podcast for people who’ve felt stuck in the dark. I’m still looking for raw, honest guests who are done pretending they’re fine.
2. Building my community – Millionaire in the Making, an online space for conscious founders, coaches & creatives who want to grow their visibility, their brand — and most importantly, themselves.
3. Working with clients as a ghostwriter – helping powerful voices turn their story into magnetic content that moves people and money.

The world is waking up. And the leaders who are meant to guide that shift? They need to show up. 

Loud. 
Aligned. 
Unapologetically.

If you’re one of them, we should talk.

Arianne van Rijn

To everyone trying to pay their bills through content creation.

There’s this place, called the internet, where supposedly anyone has the potential to earn millions. So logically, everyone wants a piece. And I get it. I really do. I used to be exactly that. That’s why I started on LinkedIn in the first place.

But what if, we’ve got it all wrong?

When content creation becomes your job, when your bills depend on it, something shifts. It stops being something you enjoy. It becomes pressure. Performance. Expectation. You have to post because you need to pay the bills. And suddenly, something that once felt like passion starts to feel like a burden. 

The internet, and especially LinkedIn, has turned into this cold, transactional marketplace where the loudest message is basically: “I don’t care what you love. I just care what sells.” A place where the loudest voices win, where millionaires tell you how “easy” it all is, and passion gets drowned out by people shouting about funnels, hooks, and growth hacks. And I hate that.

So maybe… we should take money out of the entire equation for a moment.

Because, isn’t it sad? Creators who start with so much fire end up digging for “tricks,” “systems,” and lists of 20 hooks. They strip their entire personality out of their posts and replace it with tips, tactics, and “knowledge.” Because somewhere they convinced themselves that their original content “doesn’t pay the bills.” So they force it. They adjust. Strategize. Optimize. They create lists instead of stories. And something that was once so unique and deeply personal becomes impossible to distinguish from every other creator.
 
What if, we simply create because we want to? Because we’re genuinely passionate about it? That’s what I’m going to do. I love writing. And of course, I still hope one day it will pay my bills. But I refuse to let unpaid invoices turn my biggest passion into something I end up hating.

You can follow my lead if you want. And maybe more people should.

Recruiter by day, writer by accident | Helping people get jobs & oversharing on LinkedIn

Let me de-influence you as a woman in her 30s.

It’s okay not to have your career “figured out.” You can still be growing, exploring, and chasing something new. Your dreams don’t expire at 32, 35 or 39. And just because you wish you had started earlier doesn’t mean it’s too late. 

It’s okay to still be waiting for “the one.” You’re not behind if you’re not married, not engaged, or not in a long-term relationship by a certain age. Love can come later, and when it does, it can be deeper, healthier, and more aligned with who you’ve become.

It’s okay to have a small circle, by choice. To not belong to a “friend group.” To have just a few true friends. And to actually enjoy not feeling the pressure of ets van endless birthdays, events, or constant socializing. 

It’s okay if your weekends aren’t exciting. If they’re slow, simple, or uneventful. If they’re filled with groceries, laundry, errands, or nothing at all. You don’t have to “make the most” of every weekend. And your worth isn’t measured by busy schedules or anyone else’s expectations.

It’s okay if you’d rather go to bed early and don’t enjoy parties or social events. Choosing what feels right for you doesn’t make you boring. It just means you’re living life on your terms.

It’s okay not to be fully healed. To still be working through old patterns, past pain, or stories you thought you were done with. Healing is messy, slow, and ongoing. You’re allowed to grow at your own pace.

It’s okay to doubt yourself sometimes. To have imposter moments. To feel like you’re not enough, even when you are. That voice doesn’t magically disappear with age. 

It’s okay to lose your spark. To feel sad, tired, disconnected. To not always be positive or inspired. Life isn’t always bright, and you don’t have to pretend it is.

What’s one lesson you want add and to pass on to the next generation?

Have you ever realized your brain is feeding you lies? 

When someone recently told me, “I hope you’re well,” I didn’t believe her. But then, almost instantly, I stopped myself and thought, Wait… what if she does mean it? That thought challenged my brain and it didn’t have an answer. Except for a logical one: Maybe she does. And in that moment, I was reminded of something I know, yet so easily forget. 

Our brain lies.

It lies so convincingly that we don’t even notice it. It feeds us stories that sound true. It runs programs so old, we start to think it’s who we are. And without even realizing it, we get consumed by the negative. We believe things like:

I don’t matter. 
The people don’t like me. 
Everyone will eventually leave me.

But is that actually true?

Sometimes, yes, our thoughts do reflect reality. But most of the time? They’re just thoughts. And we’ll never really know if they’re true.

This reminds me of one Sunday afternoon. I was home alone, wallowing in self-pity. Thinking to myself, “I’m all alone. Nobody cares.” Then, for some reason, I asked myself, Is that actually true? And for the first time, I saw clearly. It wasn’t true. It was just a thought. And the moment I saw it for what it was, it lost its power.

We’re all trapped in patterns we didn’t choose. Stories some people believe their entire lives. Until, if we’re lucky enough, we finally wake up. Then we start to question our thoughts instead of obeying them. Because we realize, we’re the ones who get to choose them. 

So next time your mind tells you:

They think you’re dumb.
They don’t like you.
You don’t belong here.

Ask yourself: Is this actually true? Or is my brain lying to me?

Solo traveling completely changed me. And if you’ve ever considered, I would suggest, just go for it.

Six years ago, I went solo traveling for the very first time. And I still remember every detail. That awkward moment when a guy asked if he could join me for dinner… and I said yes. How he didn’t speak a single word of English, and how unbearably uncomfortable it was. How he kept rambling about how much he hated solo traveling, while he was literally solo traveling. And how hard it was to shake him off afterward.

I remember crying in the taxi on my way to Ubud, hoping the driver wouldn’t notice. Because I hated the idea of going to the rice fields all by myself. I remember being completely overwhelmed by the amount of decisions you have to make in a day. Where to eat. Where to go. What to do. To the point where I was completely done with deciding anything at all.

But I also remember.

How incredible it felt when I realized I was actually okay, on the other side of the world, completely by myself. I remember my second solo trip in Thailand, and how completely different I felt. How proud I was, sitting at dinner with two people I had just met, completely sober, fully comfortable in my own skin.

I remember almost crying on the sky train to the airport in Bangkok at the end of that trip, looking out over the city thinking: I fucking made it. How talking to strangers suddenly became the easiest thing in the world. And how I laugh now when people tell me they're scared of feeling lonely while traveling alone, because I’ve never felt more connected or understood than that one morning in Lombok, sharing grief and crying over coffee with two women I’d met only hours earlier in a yoga class.

I still remember the belly laughs over nothing, being completely present. How nothing seemed to matter. And how those were some of the happiest times of my life.

All I’m trying to say is: 

If you’ve ever thought about solo traveling: do it. Because nothing will stretch you, confront you, or shake you the way traveling alone does. But nothing will grow you, open you, or transform you quite like it either.

Everyone who has awakened, knows it’s not easy to find our people.

With most people, I don’t have a lot in common. They will probably think I’m weird. Because I don’t drink, or do drugs. I’m a Vegan. I don’t watch the news. I question authority every chance I get and have my own views of the world. This means I don’t fit into most workplaces. I’ve sat across from so many managers, watching my life flash before my eyes, knowing that saying yes to that job would feel like making a deal with the devil.

And most of the time, I’m the one who ends up walking away.

So imagine my excitement when, last week, when I met someone like me. Someone who just gets it. Who sees the world the same way. Who runs a company and believes in partnership, not hierarchy. Who hates authority, refuses to micromanage, and believes we should build together and share profits equally. Someone who also dreams of living abroad and is just as excited as I am to make it happen, together.

And today… we’re meeting for the first time to actually make it happen. Thank God I never settled. To anyone who has awakened and is still searching:

Don’t stay in places where you don’t belong.
Don’t settle when your gut says, this isn’t it.
Keep searching for the people, the work, and the places that feel good.

And of course say hi in the comments. Just to encourage others and letting them know, we’re out there!

Yesterday, someone went on a public rant, trashing ghostwriting. And and as ghostwriter, I feel offended. 

I came across a post where someone said they would never hire a ghostwriter, that it’s one of the dumbest ideas, worse than using AI. And as a ghostwriter… I feel offended. 

I get it. We all have strong opinions. But just because something doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean it’s wrong or lacks value. And publicly disrespecting an entire profession? That’s not okay.

A good ghostwriter doesn’t steal your voice. They amplify it. Make it sound more you than you ever could. Because not everyone knows how to write. And professional writing isn’t just a hobby. It’s a craft. Years of experience and hard work go into it. So there is no shame in hiring someone who loves it and knows how to do it well. 

Sure, other people can write, but they hire ghostwriters because they simply don’t have the time or energy to do it themselves. We all know time is money. Not every ghostwriter is perfect just like not every chef or doctor is great. And yes, AI can be misused. But that’s true for any tool. 

We all have different strengths and weaknesses. But there’s no need to disrespect an entire profession just because you feel entitled to judge. Especially when LinkedIn is the platform where many ghostwriters build their careers, attract clients, and make a living. Where we showcase the value of our work and demonstrate how we help people communicate effectively.

If you don’t understand or appreciate the value of professional writing, that’s fine. But don’t tear it down. We’re all just trying to do our best.

And just a final note.

Publicly disrespecting others doesn’t make you superior, it makes you rude.

Once upon a time, there was a girl who had to rebuild her entire life at 28.

After seven long years of trying to finish uni, she dropped out. Burned out. Moved back in with her mom. And searched for a new job. That’s how she ended up in recruitment. She lasted 2.5 years in that company. Until she burnt out, again. And started resenting recruitment, because she hated everything corporate stood for. The fake smiles, controlling culture and endless meetings that never led to anything. 

There she was. Living the exact life she already knew, 2.5 years earlier, she needed to escape. But she stayed. She told everyone she was fine. And everyone told her to just hold on for at least five years, because “it’s good for your resume.” But deep down, she knew better. She knew she was never meant for a 9 – 5. Not after everything she’d learned. Not after her spiritual awakening.

That girl had a dream.

Of earning big checks. Living on a tropical island. Walking barefoot, wearing linen dresses and drinking fresh coconuts on the beach. Turns out, this girl went to corporate for a reason she now finally understands. Because her experience in recruitment, led her straight to an incredible freelance opportunity that will allow her to make that dream come true.

And she finally understood, those 2.5 years had been guiding her all along toward the life she once only dreamed of.

Growing up, it always felt like everyone else was part of a club I didn’t belong to.

I still remember those popular girls in primary school. The ones with thick, long hair, slim figures, and expensive clothes. Always surrounded by other girls. And how I desperately wished I could be one of them.

I remember how the boys had crushes on them, while no one ever seemed to like me. I remember those early days of the internet, fighting with my brother just to get a turn on the computer, just to log into MSN. Hoping someone would want to talk to me. And I still remember that no one did, and how isolated that felt.

I remember those birthday outfits I would wear to school. How carefully I picked them out, how excited I was to show everyone, hoping they’d notice me. Only to come home crying, swearing I’d never wear that outfit again.

I remember feeling like I was never part of anything. And how lonely that felt, as a little girl. Like I wasn’t really there. Like I had zero control of the circumstances. How I used to hate myself for all of this. And how angry I would get at myself if one more thing went wrong. 

Always the alien. Always the outsider.

At a young age, I learned something I wasn’t prepared for. That I wasn’t like everyone else. And that crushed me. Because all I ever wanted was to be like them. So, I spent years believing I was the problem. That if I could just fix myself, I’d be enough. Until, after years of therapy, healing, and self-help books, I finally learned to accept myself. And realized that being different, wasn’t something to fix. It was something to honor.

And if I could tell that little girl one thing, it would be this:

You are part of a group, maybe even the biggest one of all. You're part of the ones who once felt like outsiders. The ones who never quite fit in. The ones who spent years believing they didn’t belong. You just haven’t found them yet. But you will, much later in life, when you finally stop pretending.

And when you do, you’ll realize you were never alone.

Are we doomed, as a society?

After leaving my corporate job, there was a time I was convinced I was never supposed to work behind a laptop. And I was as equally convinced being behind a screen caused at least half of my problems. You might think I’m being dramatic. But those first days working with my hands, making sandwiches, felt so mindful, almost meditative. Healthier than work had felt in years. In that moment, I realized how restorative it actually felt to be away from my laptop. 

Within weeks, I was sleeping better than ever. I woke up at 5:30 a.m. without an alarm, a miracle for someone who had always struggled with fatigue. But as time passed, ambition quietly returned. Jobs away from the laptop seemed to pay far less and suddenly I was back, spending all day behind a screen. And with that ambition came a raging headache, a restless mind, and nights spent utterly exhausted yet unable to sleep.

A better salary, but am I paying with my health?

At this point, it's been years of ‘battling this addiction’. And every period of time I'm spending less time on screens I feel much better. Yet in day-to-day life, I still don’t know how to find balance. Over and over, I realize we live in a dangerous world. A world addicted to technology. Where most people spend entire days, and sometimes nights, behind screens. While no one really knows what this is doing to our brains, our mental health or our wellbeing. And no one seems to have control.

How will we fix this?

I don’t have a solution. Just a fried brain and big concerns for our future, including mine.

What happened to MSN?

I spent most of my teenage years smoking cigarettes behind a screen, “talking” to people until three in the morning, only to skip the first few hours of high school the next day. It was always a mix of strangers who later turned into online flings, and people I actually knew. At first, I would just be talking. Later I would take “selfies” with thick black eyeliner, eyebrows thinner than I would ever admit, foundation either too pale or way too orange, and lips the exact same color. 

And those selfies would turn into video chats that lasted for hours.

I would change my screen name a few times a week. Usually a mix of emojis, symbols, my name, some profound quote or a lyric from whatever song I couldn’t stop listening to. Send buzzers when someone didn’t respond. Text friends to come online. And, ofcourse, change my email address all the time, usually with princess in it. Because I wasn’t a horse girl. But like everyone I knew at least one person who was.

I would lose track of hours just being there, the same way I lose hours now, behind my laptop. I would go offline and online twenty times when I had a crush, as if he hadn’t already noticed I was there. And I swear, I could lose all my memories one day, and I’d still remember that MSN sound.

For years, that little box in my bedroom, filled with cigarette smoke and that program called MSN, was my whole world. Until, suddenly, it wasn’t. And to this day, I still don’t know what happened.

So if you were there with me in that era... tell me. What did happen to MSN?

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