Amber Deibert Coaching

I help driven people get out of their own way and find success.

I specialize in helping with Impostor Syndrome, Management Skills, Time Management, Habit Change & Formation, and Personal Performance.

Schedule a consultation at amberdeibert.com/consult

Founder, Performance Coach

The Achiever's Podcast

The Achiever's Podcast is for anyone who feels like they have untapped potential. On this podcast I teach you actionable steps to get out of your own way and achieve the success you're looking for. The podcast is available wherever you get your podcasts.

Host

Get Your Mind Right Podcast

Get Your Mind Right - Conversations with Life Coaches - is a podcast I co-host with Stephanie Pickle. We're both certified life coaches, and we discuss topics that cover every aspect of life. From relationships, to motivation, to how you see yourself. This podcast is available wherever you get your podcasts.

Co-Host

The Coaching Collective

As the Director of Client Success, I helped the clients of The Coaching Collective get the most out of the program that they could. Including giving daily quick tips for their elite clients.

I streamlined the backend systems that the organization used, implemented new software and tools to improve efficiency, and advised on marketing strategies.

Director of Client Success

Skuid

At Skuid I was responsible for training and coaching new sales managers. 

I built the onboarding program for new Account Executives. 

I streamlined the meetings and communication across the sales organization for better retention of information. 

I developed and orchestrated a weekly skills training for the Business Development Team. 

I also designed and facilitated the annual 3-day Sales Kickoff.

Manager of Sales Enablement

Zenefits

Responsible for Business Skills Training, and Manager Training. I live for the moments when I see that ah-ha look in one of my student's faces. Sometimes it's because they just learned how to save themselves time in their inbox through a Google Apps training, and other times it's because they feel better equipped to motivate their team.

Senior Learning and Development Manager

Managing the Client Support training team to build and deliver engaging, all-encompassing training to support over 3000% annual growth on the Client Support Team at Zenefits. 

Zenefits is an all-in-one HR partner providing an easy interface for small companies to manage their benefits.

Training Manager, Client Support

Davisbase Consulting

Delivered impactful, enthusiastic multi-day trainings about how to become Agile and use the Scrum methodology.

Agile Coach & Trainer

Serving an in-house contract as a Scrum Master for Backcountry.com. Working with three scrum teams, and one Kanban team. Focusing on instilling Agile best practices, building teams, removing impediments, building an organizational Agile culture, and empowering individuals.

Scrum Master at Backcountry.com

FranklinCovey

Served as Scrum Master and did the first implementation of Agile methodologies for the operations IT development team & IT infrastructure team.

Scrum Master

Sole Administrator, managing and customizing all aspects of the 360 user Salesforce.com CRM international instance.

Salesforce.com Administrator

EDCUtah

Manage the behind the scenes of the Business Development team including coordinating site visits, arranging administrative functions, and serving as the database administrator / resident guru of salesforce.com. Additionally, serving as assistant for Vice-President of Business Development. Handling V.P.’s scheduling, organization, and calendar.

Business Development Coordinator

Performance Coach to Enterprise Sellers | I help you drop the mindset trash, and optimize your daily routines to eliminate procrastination | AI Obsessed | Favorite movie: Hunt for the Wilderpeople

I'm Amber, a Performance Coach dedicated to helping elite enterprise tech sellers break through their mental barriers, upgrade their habits, and skyrocket their success.

With over 800 paid coaching sessions under my belt, I’ve helped hundreds of top-performing sellers to exceed their quotas and reclaim control of their workdays. I understand the unique challenges faced by enterprise tech sellers. 

Having climbed from a blue-collar background to the fast-paced world of tech, I've experienced imposter syndrome firsthand.

I worked my way up to find myself living and working in downtown San Francisco for a unicorn tech startup. I felt like a major Imposter -- At any minute people would realize that a person with my background was not supposed to be there.

One of my favorite quotes is by Ricky Gervais: “The best advice I've ever received is, 'No one else knows what they're doing either.” If other people can make it up, we can too.

I came up with my own system for overcoming self doubt, and I’ve used it to help thousands of people overcome their own imposter syndrome and mindset junk.

It drives me nuts to see someone with massive potential standing in their own way. I’m obsessed with finding the right tactics that work for every different kind of person. There’s nothing more rewarding for me than seeing someone break through their barriers and realize what they’re capable of.


Outside of coaching, I enjoy:

🏊 Swimming
🚴 Mountain and road biking
🏃 Running
📽️ Documentaries - specifically about top performers
📚 Avid reader of non-fiction -- business and self-help
🏆 I’m a 2x State Champ:
💃 Once for Competition Dance (we won with a routine on Pogo Sticks!)
🎭 The other for the State Drama Competition - we won in Pantomime (professional hand talker)
👯 I love a good dance party
🎶 Constantly on the hunt for new music 
🧠 Diagnosed with ADHD later in life 
🤖 Obsessed with AI and the endless possibilities it brings


My personality:

✅ Strengths Finder: Woo, Developer, Empathy, Individualization, Competition

✅ StandOut: Provider, Advisor (I can intuitively see how someone feels, and I’m a wealth of information from experts)

✅ Kolbe A: 3-3-9-4 (Simplify, Adapt, Innovate, Restore)

✅ Myers Briggs: ENFP (Enthusiastic, Creative, and Sociable Free Spirit)

✅ Enneagram: 3 - The Achiever

Amber Deibert

Spring 2025: I finally understood why Ian Koniak’s clients rave about him.

I've worked in the same Sales Performance Coaching space as Ian since 2020.

From a distance, sometimes I wondered if he was just another "bro sales coach." And I was surprised at how much he talked about his addictions. 😳

But then I started seeing the receipts. His business is growing faster than any coach I have ever seen.

He and I have had a lot of client crossover in the last few years, and everyone I know who went through his program RAVED about it.

It wasn't until I got invited to be a guest speaker at his mastermind in Spring 2025 that I saw what's really happening.

What I witnessed was:

A room full of the most wonderful, kind, and HIGH-achieving sellers I had ever met
Incredible results (7 people in the room had had W2'd $1M)
Lifelong friendships and bonds
An incredible team is running the entire event

And then there was Ian.

I love picking apart high achievers to figure out what they do differently, and I LOVE learning about how different people build businesses.

So I kept a close eye on Ian to see what he does differently, and here's what I've seen (now that I'm embedded as one of his Gold Member Coaches):

Ian holds INCREDIBLE belief for every one of the people in his community

He doesn't give up on people. He will fight for you until you get what you came for. To me, this is the number one reason why people in his program have such incredible transformations.

His sales tactics and tools are solid, but the mindset and habits part of his program is the part that will change your life.

It's so wild to hear all the stories of people who've had incredible sales results, yes. But even more impressive is the life transformation and happiness they get out of the program. If you're struggling in sales and in life, you aren't alone. And there is absolutely no help.

The only thing that drives Ian is service. 

He is genuinely an incredibly generous and service-minded human. He's motivated by changing lives. I thought for sure there would be a piece in there about building the biggest business, or making the most money, and there is, but it's all in the name of serving his clients and supporting his team. He is DRIVEN to serve and change lives, and it shows in the results that people are getting from the program.

I feel so lucky to have joined his team. The universe definitely set this up for us.

If you're wondering if Ian Koniak is the real deal, I'm telling you, he is.

Sales Performance Speaker and Coach for Enterprise Sellers | Mindset & Productivity | Creator of the Work Like You Workout™ Framework for pain-free productivity 💪

I gotta tell you a funny story about when I met Simon Sinek.

My team and I were at his book tour (and signing) for Together Is Better (THE CUTEST BEST BOOK!)

Somehow I got in line before the rest of my group, so I got up to Simon first.

He looked EXHAUSTED.

I could tell that all this small talk wasn't his jam.

It was a bunch of people in a huge line taking from him (photos, autographs), and getting nothing in return. 

So I just asked him about it.

Me: Do you feel more energized when you're on stage, or when you're here talking with each person?

Simon: I could be on stage all day, but this part is so draining for me.

Me: I get that.

Anyway, we had this little conversation, and he said, "Do you want a picture?"

I didn't want to contribute to sucking out this poor man's energy! 

Plus I knew that someone on my team was mildly obsessed with him, and would definitely want a picture of all of us with him.

So I said, "No, I'm good. I'll wait for ______ to get here before we take a picture so you don't have to do multiple. She's SO excited to meet you. She's going to lose her mind."

And I just stood back until everyone caught up.

And then as soon as they got there, he said, "Okay, _____ is here, now we can take a picture." And he made sure to take a picture with just me. 🤣

Every time I see the picture I crack up. 

What a kind, selfless thing. Thanks a bunch, Simon.

Utah, we've got to do better. 

I recently went to an event here where there were TWO women in attendance out of 100 people.

It reminded me of being early in my career.

I worked for a very conservative Utah company, and all the Senior Leadership was white males.

I tried so hard to get promoted into management at that company. They said I was critical to their strategy, but somehow I wasn't good enough to get into management. 

My own interpretation was that they figured I would drop out of my career and be a stay-at-home mom once I had kids, so I wasn't worth investing in.

Once I moved to San Francisco, I was SO DELIGHTED to see MANY examples of women in every level of leadership. 

(Even MOMS! ...and they were happy and satisfied being working moms, something I had never seen in Utah. 

It has been a decade since I last lived in Utah, and a lot has changed. But seeing the demographic at that event showed me that not enough has changed.

As a woman who knew I wasn't cut out to be a SAHM (MAD respect for those who are! IMHO, you have the harder job), I wish I could have had more examples of women and moms thriving in the workplace.

Thanks to all the professionals out there moving women (AND minorities!!) forward in the workplace.

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My inner rebel took one look at my time-blocked calendar and said, “Nope.”

So I built a system we could both live with.

If you keep abandoning productivity systems, it’s not because you lack discipline. 

It’s because the system wasn’t built for your brain.

I tried time blocking religiously for a month and failed miserably.

I decided when I should do any given task and I was very thoughtful about the right timing for doing them.

I scheduled them all on my calendar like a good little time boxer.

And then every time without fail, as soon as a calendar appointment would pop up on my calendar to do the task that I, myself, decided I should do at that time... 

My inner rebel was like, “Absolutely not. I'd rather do ANYTHING ELSE RIGHT NOW.”

My brain doesn’t want rigid rules. It wants freedom within structure.

So I created something I call TimeBoxing 2.0, where I:
↳ Set aside a daily "clear the list" block (because my brain also hates "admin" or "buffer" time)
↳ I decide in advance how long I will spend on a task 
↳ I set a VISUAL timer, so that my perfectionism and ADHD time blindness don't take over

It’s the perfect middle ground for my brain.

I don't let tasks take forever because I decide in advance how long I will spend on them.

And I have just enough structure to keep myself moving forward.

(but also enough freedom to keep that very particular brain willing to proceed)

If rigid systems make you feel trapped, there is nothing wrong with you.

You just need a method that works with your wiring, not against it.

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Do you know what your mission in life is? 

I always thought that my crowning achievement in life would be to build a gigantic business that impacts millions of lives and I helped heal THE WORLD. 

(classic achiever dream 😅)

But then I did an exercise where I wrote out my eulogy.

I realized that my purpose in life is to heal myself and break the chains of generational trauma for my kids, and everyone that comes after me.

Once I aligned to that, everything came into focus. 

I no longer felt like I was chasing a goal (that was impossible and unachievable, let's be honest. Healing the world definitely doesn't meet SMART goal requirements.. lol). 

Instead, when I read my eulogy every morning I can see what actions I need to take every single day to move me towards my purpose. 

It cuts out all the fluff and nonsense, and makes my daily actions SO CLEAR.

It has been pretty groundbreaking for me to get aligned with what I actually want to achieve in my lifetime.

How about you? Do you know what your mission in life is?

Harsh reality: Drop your insecurities to crush your quota.

 We’ve all been there:

► You’re worried you’ll make a fool of yourself in a big meeting
► You aren’t sure if you’ve got buy-in from the exec sponsor
► You’re worried that people can see right through you and know that you don’t know what you’re doing

 What sucks about insecurity (besides the fact that it feels terrible) is that it SIGNIFICANTLY decreases your performance.

 You’re thinking about yourself instead of your prospect.

 I remember feeling SO insecure when I was in my early 20s.

 I’d be talking to someone and worry, 

 - “Can she see that blemish on my face?” 
 - “I just said that so awkwardly. What is wrong with you, Amber?”
 - “Is my breath bad right now? They definitely won’t want to be your friend.”

 Here’s the trick I learned.

➜ You can’t feel insecure if you’re thinking about the other person.

 Insecurity only comes up when you’re thinking about yourself.

 So you can instantly remove your insecurity by putting yourself in the other person’s shoes.

 Imagine what they might be thinking, and help them.

► Maybe they are too nervous to ask a dumb question
► Maybe they feel just as insecure as you, and you can help break the ice
► Maybe they need to know how they can sell the idea of your product to their boss

 You can solve your insecurity in an instant by thinking about your client more than you think about yourself.

 Try this and let me know how it goes!

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The highest performers often have the loudest inner critics.

You're never going to be able to create what you want.

You've never been good enough.

I'll just say it... my brain loves to spiral into this dark hole sometimes.

And if this resonates with you, I promise you're not alone.

Here's what fascinates me as a performance coach: I hear these exact thoughts from my highest-achieving clients. People who have built successful businesses, hit major sales goals, transformed their lives... they STILL battle these beliefs.

So, if you have these thoughts? You're actually in phenomenal company.

I learned something game-changing from Kelly Banks (she writes The Dopamine Dispatch newsletter for people with ADHD - highly recommend). She helped me understand that our brains are literally wired to look for problems and threats. It's not a character flaw. It's biology.

Your inner critic isn't evidence that you're not cut out for success.

It's evidence that you're human.

The difference between people who create what they want and people who don't isn't the absence of these thoughts - it's learning to have them without letting them drive the car.

You can have a loud inner critic and still show up and do the work anyway.

Your thoughts about your capabilities are just thoughts. They're not prophecies.

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Leg Day is legs.
Arm Day is arms.

Tuesday is outbound.
Friday is follow-ups.

When the decision is made before the day starts, everything moves faster.

If you strength train, you already understand structure better than most productivity systems. 

Lifters thrive on rhythm. You know what each day is for, and you don’t waste time negotiating with yourself.

Leg Day means legs. Arm Day means arms. You walk in and get to work because the decision was made long before you touched a barbell.

Your brain wants that same kind of clarity during the week.

Try giving each workday a theme. Something simple like:
↳  Monday for admin and planning.
↳  Tuesday for outbound.
↳  Wednesday for follow-ups.
↳  Thursday back to outbound.
↳  Friday for networking or relationship-building.

Or whatever matches the rhythm of your sales cycle.

When your days have a clear purpose, your brain stops burning energy deciding where to start. You move faster because you’re no longer reinventing the plan every morning. The structure does half the work for you.

If you’re someone who thrives on repetition and pattern, this lands quickly. It works with your wiring instead of fighting it.

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The Weightlifter Productivity Trick That 5x’s Your Focus

I just had the weirdest experience... and it completely blew my mind.

I had a massive deadline looming yesterday. 

Normally, this would trigger my old pattern of stress-induced productivity - you know, the "panic until it's perfect" approach that leaves you exhausted and questioning your life choices.

But something totally different happened.

I had taken really good care of myself leading up to it. Proper sleep, boundaries with my energy, and actual meals instead of stress-snacking. When it came time to work, I just... worked. No drama. No internal battle. No fear-based motivation pushing me forward.

I literally sat there afterward thinking, "Did that really just happen?"

It felt so foreign. So weird. So unusual.

For someone who spent years believing that stress and pressure were necessary ingredients for getting things done, this felt like discovering I could breathe underwater.

Here's what I want you to know:

Your nervous system doesn't need to be activated to be productive. You don't need fear, pressure, or that familiar anxiety knot in your stomach to create good work.

Compassion toward yourself isn't soft or indulgent - it's actually the most sustainable fuel for performance.

If you're in those uncomfortable, awkward parts of learning to treat yourself better, keep going. Let yourself feel weird about being kind to yourself. Let it feel foreign that you're not running on stress and caffeine.

Because on the other side of that awkwardness is a version of you that gets things done from a place of calm capability instead of controlled chaos.

And trust me, once you experience that... it becomes your new normal.

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I am learning that one of the most anxiety-reducing techniques is changing the timeline. 

Last month, I felt like I was failing at everything.

↳ Missed a workout
↳ Failed in an interaction with my kid
↳ Didn't get my tasks done that I committed to

I felt like I couldn't get my act together.

And then I walked outside, and I had this inspiration just hit me:

"You have the rest of your life to figure this out, Amber."

I realized that I set arbitrary timelines for myself.

Like, I have to be the perfect parent by the end of the school year. (why?)

Or I have to get that new project out the door by the end of the month. (do you?)

Or, I missed my workout today, so that means I'm a failure who can't be consistent and I will never be able to live up to my own expectations.... (or you could just try again tomorrow...)

Try looking at where you set arbitrary timelines for yourself, and how you can stop beating yourself up with them.

I've found that when I release the pressure a bit, I'm much more apt to actually behave the way I want.

What if you extend the timeline a bit? Maybe you don't have to have a massive quarter; maybe you just start setting yourself up for a massive year.

Don't give up if you fail. We're gonna just keep working on this.

The moment you downplay yourself, your brain believes you.

I had instant regret the second I heard the words come out of my mouth:

 “I’m a fraud.”

 I’m supposed to be the one convincing other people that they aren’t frauds
 And this is what comes out of my mouth??

I was at the craft store yesterday, buying shrink dinks for my 5-year-old and 6 skeins of yarn for myself.

When the kind woman at the register saw how much yarn I was buying, she said,

“Oh, we have these cute yarn bags, since you seem to be a yarn lover.”

To which I responded,

“Oh, I’m a fraud.”

I was thinking, “She probably thinks this is a legitimate yarn haul, like for knitting or crocheting.”

But I was buying the yarn for a lesser-known needlecraft, Plastic Canvas.

(Even the name is inspiring 😂)

I did it once when I was a kid. 

It’s basically fool-proof. It takes almost zero skill. 

So to think that I was someone who was legitimate enough to buy a yarn bag didn’t match my internal view of myself.

Okay, this might be the most profound story you read on LinkedIn today.

But we all do this to ourselves!

For reasons as dumb as mine! 🤣

Who’s to say that my needlecraft isn’t as legitimate as knitters' or crocheters?

(Watch as an army of knitters come at me for that comment 😆)

I EARNED THE RIGHT TO A YARN BAG AS MUCH AS THE NEXT PERSON.

Lol, I hope you take this ridiculous story and apply it to situations where you also downplay yourself.

I’m sure that the reasons you are downplaying yourself are just as ridiculous.

What would happen if you just own your awesomeness?

How much easier would your life and career be if you accepted what you rightfully earned and deserve?

Upgrade that internal view of yourself, and own your worth.

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The moment you downplay yourself, your brain believes you.

Not gonna lie - I didn't think my childhood was "that bad" until I took the ACES quiz.

The ACES quiz (Adverse Childhood Experiences) has 10 questions that help you identify potential trauma from your past. When someone suggested I take it, I almost rolled my eyes.

Sure, we didn't have money. Yeah, there was chaos in our house of 6 kids. But trauma? That felt dramatic.

Then I scored 5 out of 10.

Sitting there staring at my screen, something shifted. For the first time, I had language for why certain things felt so hard. Why I struggled with patterns that seemed to come naturally to others. Why my nervous system reacted the way it did.

Here's what I discovered: Sometimes we minimize our experiences because we survived them. But surviving isn't the same as thriving. And acknowledging that something was hard doesn't make you weak - it makes you aware.

If you've ever felt like you're "overreacting" to things or wondered why certain situations trigger you more than others, there might be a reason. The ACES quiz takes 2 minutes and can give you incredible insight into patterns you've been carrying.

Most importantly? Whatever you discover - it's not your fault you're struggling. But it is your power to heal.

You can find the ACES quiz with a quick Google search. Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is simply understand ourselves better.

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We all have different definitions of what generous means, or what productive means, or what a good partner means. 

But we tend to not go deep enough to define that for ourselves. 

I love to take my clients through the exercise of really defining what that particular value means for you. 

How do you know when you can "check the box" on developing deep relationships? 

So here's what I want you to try:

Think about what you want to be remembered for. Write it down. Then go one layer deeper and define what that actually means to YOU.

What does integrity look like in your world? What does being a good parent mean to you specifically? What's your version of making a difference?

Because when you get clear on your definitions, you stop trying to live up to everyone else's version of success and start building a life that actually feels like yours.

The people who feel most fulfilled aren't following someone else's blueprint for their values; they're living by their own.

What's one value you'd like to define more clearly for yourself?

I share insights like this every week in my newsletter for tech sellers who want to work with more intention and less overwhelm. 

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Stop forcing your ADHD brain in boxes it doesn't fit in.

I have ADHD...

And let me tell you what typically happens when I try to be "consistent."

I'll get this new idea, and I'm PUMPED. I build out the trackers, create sticker charts, and map out the perfect plan. I'm like, "That's it. We're being consistent. We're doing this."

I feel so ready. So determined.

"This time it's going to be different."

Raise your hand if you've said that to yourself before 🫣

Because I believe it EVERY time. I'm like, "Yes, this time I know it's going to work."

Five days later? I've fallen off the bandwagon. Again.

And then my brain goes: "Dang it, Amber. What's wrong with you? You must be lazy. You must be incompetent. You're not cut out for this. You're never going to create what you want..."

It always goes down that shame spiral.

Here's what I've learned: My ADHD brain isn't broken - it just operates differently.

Those productivity systems that work for neurotypical brains? They're not designed for how I think and process.

The real problem isn't my lack of willpower. It's trying to force my brain into systems that don't match how it naturally functions.

If you've been beating yourself up for "failing" at consistency, maybe it's not a you problem. Maybe it's a system problem.

Your brain isn't wrong. You just need strategies that actually work with your wiring, not against it.

If this resonates, I promise you're not alone. 

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If you think procrastination means you lack discipline, you’ve been lied to.

If you’ve spent years believing your procrastination means you’re lazy or undisciplined…same.
(No thanks to my swim coach, who once told me I’d never amount to anything)

The thing is, I was using the wrong productivity style.

Everything changed when I discovered I could match my work patterns to the way I naturally exercise.

When I did that, my tasks stopped feeling overwhelming.
My brain stopped fighting me.
And I started getting twice as much done in half the time.

Here’s what worked for me:
↳ Notice how you like to exercise
↳ Replicate that rhythm in your workflow
↳ Stop forcing yourself into systems that your brain rejects

If traditional productivity hacks aren’t working for you, it’s not a character flaw.
It’s a mismatch.

You have a unique productivity style, you just haven’t identified it yet.

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Your Procrastination Isn’t Laziness. It’s Misalignment

I feel so lucky to get to work with THE BEST PEOPLE!! 🥰

One of the best investments I made in 2025: 

Working with a sales coach. 

Actually, I've been working with two.

Nobody asked me to get coaching. 

This was 100% self-funded and self-initiated. 

I just love getting better.

I've been working with Andy Paul for just under 1 year. 1:1 sessions focused on transformational, enterprise, complex sales. For those who don't know, Andy is a sales legend. Check out the The Win Rate Podcast or "Sell Without Selling Out". Working with Andy has been a growth accelerator. I can see myself getting sharper, more precise, more strategic with my sales cycles & outbound motions. Andy has alot of wisdom to offer and it's helped me grow tremendously as a seller.

For the last 3 months, I've also been working with Amber Deibert. Our time has been focused on dialing in my personal working rhythms, refining my 'why', and overall mental mastery. I reached out to Amber because I have a very full plate, and I knew I could be optimizing my efficiency to get more done in less time. Highly highly recommend working with Amber if you are an enterprise or strategic seller. She is great at connecting dots between disciplines (sales, psychology, neuroscience, productivity). I feel far more effective and purposeful in my daily and weekly rhythms as a result of our work together. 

Also worth mentioning that I discovered Andy and Amber from a Brandon Fluharty newsletter. Yet another reminder that LinkedIn connections make the world go round. 

Highly recommend getting yourself a good sales coach in 2026.

If you suck at consistency, nothing is wrong with you.

You’re not broken, you’re human. Especially if you’re an enterprise seller living in back-to-back calls and rollercoaster quarters.

Here’s the shift I want you to try:

Instead of worshiping perfect consistency, focus on quick recovery.

Old Way vs New Way 

Old Way

↳ “I missed a day at the gym / in my prospecting block… what’s wrong with me?”

↳ Spiral of self-beatup → avoid the thing → lose momentum for days

↳ Rigid routines that look great on paper but collapse in real life

New Way

↳ “I’m allowed to be human. I just don’t miss two days.”

↳ Bad morning? Reset at lunch. Bad day? Reset tomorrow.

↳ Measure success by how fast you come back, not how perfectly you never fall off

This is Strategy #1 of 4 from this week’s episode on creating structure when you secretly hate structure.

In the full breakdown, I walk through:

↳ How to check your “energy tank” each morning and set a winnable day

↳ How to build a toolbox of supports you can pull from (instead of one rigid routine)

↳ The silly little rename trick (“planning” → “list making”) that actually gets you moving

You can watch the full episode on YouTube (@amberdeibertcoaching) or listen on The Achievers Podcast wherever you get your podcasts.

What’s one place you’re willing to try the “I don’t miss two days” rule this week?

You’re not a procrastinator. You just don't have the right systems.

Here are 3 dead-simple techniques you can use to drastically improve your productivity:

 1. Break down your tasks SUPER small
 2. Write your top 3-5 priorities on a post-it note each day
 3. (Most controversial) Start with your easiest task

 You will be astounded at how much of a difference these techniques will make.

 They can take you from zero to hero (in no time flat). 😎 

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I was just talking with a client about how what we're all looking for is:
↳  peace
↳  ease 
↳  calm 
↳  and a regulated nervous system 

We tend to think that the way we will get there is through achievements.

"Once I get the house... Once I get the car... Once I have the promotion... Once I hit $1M... Once I have the relationship... Once I have the free time... Once I have the freedom... Once I get a new job... Once I start my business..."

...are the things that we think will get us there.

But the reality is that we can access peace, calm, ease, and a regulated nervous system at any moment.

It comes when you change your thinking.

When I go from: "Ugh, I'm so far from my goals. I've been working so hard for so long and it's not happening. Maybe it's never going to happen... What is wrong with me?? How come I can't make this work??"

To: "I have an amazing life. Wow, look at what I've created. If Kid Amber could see what my life looks like now she wouldn't believe it. I have everything I could have ever wanted."

Or another personal favorite mantra (thanks to my amazing client for this one!):

"Nowhere to go, Nothing to be, It's already here."

Aaaahhhh.... Doesn't that just feel like a delicious exhale? I feel my body softening already.

What if you decide that right now, today, is the best day of your life? 

What if you let yourself enjoy the moment and reap the rewards of everything that we've built so far? 

I was watching the Eddie Murphy documentary last night and Eddie Murphy said the same thing he said something like, "Pray for peace of mind. Don't pray for money, don't pray for fame, don't pray for success. Peace of mind is what everyone wants." 

And the sooner you change your mindset to enjoy RIGHT NOW, the sooner you'll be living your actual dream life. 

If you're ready to rewire your relationship with success and find that inner calm, I'd love to help. You can schedule a call with me!

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The most exhausting thing I ever did was constantly try to fix myself.
 
Not my job. Not my life.

Me.

For a long stretch, I treated personal growth like a performance review. 

Fix myself. Upgrade whatever felt even slightly off. I was always mid-project.

What I didn’t notice was how quickly that kind of effort can turn into a quiet form of self-rejection. 

I wasn’t growing. 

I was hunting for evidence that something was wrong with me.

I caught it one afternoon when I heard the way I was talking to myself. It sounded like a mean girl who hadn’t eaten. 😳 

I remember thinking, where did I learn to speak to myself like this?

The answer surprised me. 

Those voices weren’t mine. They were old expectations I’d absorbed and never questioned. Hand-me-down rules from my upbringing, society, and culture.

So I tried a different approach. I paused the relentless fixing and practiced ACTUAL acceptance. 

Not the Pinterest version - the real kind that feels awkward at first because you’re used to bracing for your own criticism.

And that’s when things softened.

↳  I stopped treating every emotion as a problem.
↳  I let myself land exactly where I was instead of sprinting to the next “better” version.
↳  I realized growth isn’t a punishment. It’s easier when you’re not fighting yourself.

You don’t have to earn your worth by constantly upgrading. You get to grow from a place of respect. It works better anyway.

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I’m passionate about empowering women and helping to close the gender gap in senior leadership. 

I spent 18 years in tech and biotech sales, holding positions as a VP and EVP, Sales. Along the way I introduced many brand new technologies to market, built a commercial organization from scratch, and scaled a hyper-growth team to achieve 9 digit revenue growth in 2 years.

Despite this success, I struggled for years with my transition from Manager to Director to VP, and even asked myself if I was cut out to be a senior executive.  

Finally, I ‘figured it out’ and had the confidence, knowledge and skills that I needed to be an impactful leader. 

My mission at Insights to Action is to help others get there by sharing what I’ve learned.

I want to use my passion to help more women transition to senior leadership and help leaders make that leap from unsure and unfocused to strategic, decisive and outcome driven - all without burning out. My goal is to help women thrive as executives, instead of merely surviving. 

I would love to work with you on your journey and look forward to connecting!

Read about what some of my clients are saying: https://www.insightstoactioncc.com/testimonials

Katy McFee

Insights to Action Coaching & Consulting

We help women who are aspiring executives break through to senior leadership and thrive as senior leaders, all without burning out. 

Services include:
- Group programs for women looking to break through to executive leadership
- Executive coaching for women executives
- Corporate workshops
- Keynote speaking

Founder & CEO

Invest Ottawa

Sales Advisor - Accelerator Program

Evidence Partners

Evidence Partners is the world leader in software for conducting systematic literature reviews for Clinical Evaluation Reports, HTA, and Evidence-Based Medicine. Evidence Partners software is used by academic, government and industry groups around the world to dramatically improve the quality, speed and transparency of systematic reviews and MEDDEV compliant Clinical Evaluation Reports.

EVP, Sales

Fullscript

Fullscript is a free online supplement dispensary & patient adherence tool - we support practitioners & the wellness of patients at the point of care and beyond.

Grew and scaled sales organization during hyper-growth period, achieving 9 digit growth over 2 years. 

Fullscript raised $240M USD in Series C funding in November 2021.

VP, Sales

Women Powering Technology Ottawa

Women Powering Technology (WPT) is an organization created to inspire, support, elevate and empower women in technology personally, professionally and together as a community.

Board Member / Chair

Spartan Bioscience

Global commercialization of Spartan's CYP2C19 and APOE systems and tests.

Spartan Bioscience is the leader in on-demand DNA testing. The Spartan RX CYP2C19 System identifies carriers of CYP2C19 mutations that affect the metabolism of common drugs. It goes from sample to result in less than 60 minutes from a cheek swab. The Mayo Clinic is currently using the device in a landmark 6,000-patient clinical trial. The Spartan system has received European and FDA regulatory approvals.

Head, Medical Division/ Director, Sales

Roche Diagnostics

Roche Diagnostics is part of the Roche Group including Diagnostics and Pharmaceuticals.  Annual revenues for the Roche Group are over $45 Billion Swiss francs.

Canadian National Representative for the Genome Sequencer FLX,  Managed and grew the next-generation sequencing business in Canada.  Also managed the NimbleGen (Microarray) product line in Central West Canada (Toronto to BC).

Business Development Manager, Gene Sequencing

Sigma Aldrich

Sigma-Aldrich is a leading Life Science and High Technology company, with customers in life science companies, university and government institutions, hospitals and in industry. Sigma-Aldrich operates in 40 countries and has over 7,600 employees providing excellent service worldwide.

Managed key accounts (total revenue $8M+) in Southwestern Ontario and Manitoba, growing the territory through strategic product sales.

Key Account Manager

DNA Genotek Inc

DNA Genotek specializes in DNA collection products from saliva. Oragene is now used by thousands of customers around the world, including Quest Diagnostics and 23andMe. In 2011, DNA Genotek was acquired by OraSure Technologies for $53M.

One of the first sales reps- introduced the Oragene product to market, making some of the first Oragene sales globally. Played an integral role in the early growth of the company by establishing large commercial customers, research and government accounts.  Led a team of 6 reps.

Account Manager/ Sales Manager

I help women become execs and thrive in leadership - Former Exec | Certified Coach | Forbes.com contributor

At Insights to Action I help female execs and aspiring female leaders become the leaders they want to be and thrive as executives all without burning out. 

I offer group coaching programs for women looking to break through to executive leadership and 1:1 immersive executive coaching for current execs who want to level up and show up as the amazing, effective leaders they know they can be, while still living a life they love.

My work rules:

- NO meetings on Fridays
- Block off lunch every day
- No client sessions on Mondays
- No meetings before 9am or after 4:30pm
- No evening or weekend work (unless I choose to)
- No working with clients who aren't aligned with my mission or vision. 
(Even if they want to pay me lots of money)

When I post this, some people actually get pretty upset.
Others are just confused...

"But... how can you build a successful business this way??"
"There's no way your business can be doing that well..."

But the truth is, my business has grown crazy fast,
And continues to grow

Here's how:
- I'm fully present with every client/meeting and NEVER multi-task
- I only focus on what matters, instead of doing too much
- I'm highly efficient during my work day (my phone is on 'focus')
- I'm cognitively sharp because I'm not overworked
- I time block, allowing me to get a lot done

Meaning, my work rules are HELPING me build a successful business!
Not holding me back. 

If we've learned one thing from all the crazy happenings of the last 5 years, it's this:

Put yourself first.
If you don't, who will?
✌️💜

PS. If this post makes you feel activated, ask yourself why. Is it because you don't feel as though you have permission to create firm boundaries?

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Jacqueline (Jackie) Menzel

As a new manager, I noticed giving feedback to men on my team was no problem,

But to the young women? They fell apart...

Not gonna lie - this really surprised me

It had never even occurred to me that there would be a gender difference in this area

And in thinking about it, I believe it comes down to conditioning.

As women, we often did not grow up receiving a lot of constructive feedback

Generally speaking, we were taught to be 'good girls', to put our hands up, to sit nicely in class... and we gladly complied.

Meanwhile, our male counterparts (generally speaking) were subject to more correction...

So while we grew up getting good girl pats on the head - and internalizing the concept that this is what made us good as people 

They grew up getting used to 'feedback'

Fast forward 10-15 years, and we all enter the professional workforce

Man gets told his report needs some editing. His response, "I'll get on it"

His internal narrative - 'The rest of my report must be amazing.' 

Woman gets told the same thing. Her response, "Absolutely, I'll make this change"

Her internal narrative - 'How did I make such a dumb mistake? I suck at my job.' 

So what can we do about this?

1. As parents, we can raise our girls to accept feedback for what it is and stop expecting them to be perfectly behaved little girls.

2. As women, we can acknowledge our prior conditioning and start working on receiving constructive feedback, without assuming that it's anything more than that. 

Positive self-talk is a key component of this.

3. For men who may be giving feedback, being aware of how someone may perceive direct feedback can help. 

Ensure that your employees feel valued through the process and create a culture of open, supportive feedback in an environment of trust.

The last thing I'll say is that an open, supportive feedback culture is good for everyone, men and women alike. 

Regardless of gender, feedback should always be paired with kindness. 

And ladies, you're amazing. You've got this. Remember that! ✌️💜

I've made a powerful change to how I speak:

Instead of saying "Sorry"
I say "Thank you"

If someone points out an error, instead of saying "OMG, I'm sorry about that!!"

I say, "Thanks for catching that. I'll make that change right away."

Instead of saying "I'm sorry I can't come to the event"

I say, "Thanks for thinking of me, I can't attend but maybe next time"

Instead of saying, "I'm sorry we're starting 5 minutes late"

I say, "Thanks so much for your patience. Let's dive in."

It may seem like a small thing, but it speaks volumes.

Why make this change?

Here are 3 data-backed reasons:

1. Apologizing too frequently reduces self-esteem.
2. When you over-apologize, people lose respect for you (key = over).
3. When you apologize too often, it makes real apologies seem less sincere.

This doesn't mean you should NEVER apologize.
But save it for a situation that actually warrants an apology.

For many people, apologizing is a verbal habit.
It's not even intentional, and you may not realize you're doing it. 

Lesson: Be intentional about when you apologize 
You'll come across as more confident and it will mean so much more when you do apologize. 

Plus, thanking someone feels great for both of you!

Do you have any verbal habits that you've changed? 
Let me know in the comments ✌️💜

Ever been judged by other women at work? 

Here’s the truth that most don't consider:

We've all heard the narrative that women don't support each other
Because we're threatened or competitive

I've ever heard people say that's how women are designed! 
(ummmm... no)

Here's another perspective:

Women may be judging you 
Because they haven't given themselves permission
To live the way you're living.

YOU represent what they feel they can't have.

I had this epiphany recently,
Talking to a woman who had a long corporate career

She was sharing stories about the judgement she received:

- When taking a break at lunch
- Coming in late or leaving early
- Doing a walking meeting with a colleague

And that this judgement always came from other women!

Reflecting, this made perfect sense to me.
Many women never give themselves a break!

As women, we feel as though we need to do it all.
And if we struggle to take these liberties,
It's easy to judge others who do

Whereas our male counterparts often have no issue doing what's right for them
So they don't care when we do it too!

Basically, it's rooted in jealousy,
Not malice.

So, ladies, this is your reminder:
It starts with us.

Giving ourselves some empathy
Giving ourselves a break.

Allowing ourselves to create the boundaries we need to thrive,
Not just survive in our jobs.

Because once we do that, 
It's really easy to support other women doing the same thing.

In fact, women who do this often become one another's biggest cheerleaders ✌️💜

I remember having no clue why I wasn't being promoted

I was running the sales and marketing function
I was part of the senior leadership team
I was working my a$$ off
Reporting to the CEO
My team loved me

And I was still being told I wasn't 'ready'

I did all of this for 5 years and never got that VP title

And I see so many of you in the exact same situation

The good news is, I finally figured it out 
And went on to become a successful VP and EVP

Here are the 3 lessons I learned:

1. If you're feeling stuck like I was, it doesn't mean you aren't ready
It may just mean you don't know how to show people you are

And this is 100% learnable. 

2. If you're running around like crazy in back-to-back meetings,
It's really hard to show up as an effective executive

Slow down to speed up.

3. A proven system and the right support make it 10x easier and faster
My sponsor was a key reason I became a VP

And I've since helped hundreds of women start to show up as VP-ready with my proven system

Just last week, two MORE women shared promotion announcements with me!! 

If you've been following me and looking for a sign to join my VP coaching program, this is it

Until Nov 30th, I'm offering a $900 discount off the price of the program 
This is your opportunity to make 2026 the year you get promoted. 

We start in January. 
DM me if you want in!
✌️💜

Women: Ever been called 'too assertive'?

This happens all the time - to women... 
But have you ever heard a man described this way?

Of course not! 

This "feedback" is rooted in bias and gender stereotypes
And it happens every day.

Assertiveness is seen as a key leadership trait,
And it's considered a good thing,
In men.

But in women, not so much.

Why??

Well (here come the gender stereotypes),
We're conditioned to see women as warm and nurturing,

So when we act assertively, people's brains get confused, resulting in something called the likeability backlash.

And this backlash can actually have a negative impact on women's careers!

So, to summarize:
When women display a leadership trait,
It can negatively impact their careers.

Believe it or not, I'm not trying to depress you here...

As women, we can learn to communicate in ways that allow us to be assertive,
And also combat the likeability backlash

And I teach this to women every day,

But truthfully, I'm waiting for a time when we don't have to do this

Let's stop asking women to jump through hoops
And just broaden our perspective on what a leader looks like ✌️💜

*Repost if you agree because more people need to hear this message!!

I’m a woman and mother...
And I'm also ambitious and career-driven

I'm a professional...
And I also have tattoos, wear ripped jeans and drop the occasional F-bomb

I’m a vegan...
And I’m also strong and healthy (and yes, get enough protein)

I’m in my mid 40s...
And I'm also in the best shape of my life, and full of energy

Ladies, let’s stop worrying so much about:
- Aging
- Haters
- Stereotypes
- And what we 'shouldn't' be able to do

And let’s start deciding which stereotypes we're going to smash

Because guess what?
People WILL have opinions about what you can and can’t do...

But only you get to decide whether you want to listen 
Or prove them wrong. ✌️💜

PS. Tell me, what are you doing that you didn’t think you could?

Milestones are fake

I felt behind because I was single at 26
And it seemed like everyone else was getting engaged.

I felt behind because I took 6 years to finish university,
While my friends were starting real jobs 

I felt behind because I wasn't a VP at 35
While my male peers seemed to be getting promoted ahead of me.

Here's the thing:
I ended up finding true love at 39
I've built the career of my dreams
I became a VP and EVP in the end

It all happens in good time.

Instead of stressing out because you're not there today

Try to find the good in where you are.

Yes, take action to achieve your dreams.

But remember that life is all about the journey.

And you're on your own path ✌️💜

PS. I look at my life now, and I wouldn't change a darn thing.

We’ve just helped 2 more women land first-time Sr. Director & VP roles! 🎉

These clients make on average $50K more than their last role. 👏

Here's what most people don't realize:
The key to getting to that next level is 100% learnable

All you need is the right system and guidance.

Want to be next?

If you’re looking to become a VP and you’re:

- A woman working in corporate
- At the Sr. Manager, Director or Sr. Director level
- Ready to be part of the best club around

Apply to learn how we can help you land a VP role and crush it!

(Without burning out...)

Apply using the link in the comments or go to insightstoactioncc(dot)com/apply and I'll send you the info! ✌️💜

3 myths I need to bust about the gender pay gap:

1. Women make less because we negotiate less

I thought this was true for a long time!  But in a study from a couple of years ago, women negotiated MORE than men...

And we were still paid less. 

2. The gender pay gap is the result of choosing different professions. 

Not true. Unless you consider 'woman doctor' or 'women lawyer' a different job

3. Becoming a parent impacts salaries for all parents

Ha! Not at all. 

Men's pay goes up by 6% for each child born and women's decreases by 4%.

I'm sharing this because for many women, this time of year represents the weeks/months that we work for free compared to our male counterparts

Because of the pay gap.

Unless we get serious about making real change, 
This gap is expected to persist for another CENTURY

This is what bias looks like.

And this is why I want more women at the table,
Making these changes from the top.

But for today, I just want to help women make more money!

If you struggle to negotiate and want some help,
Grab my free negotiation guide for women here: https://lnkd.in/dxU_arsP

Repost to spread the word and help more women get that next raise. ✌️💜 

And follow me Katy McFee for more posts on women in leadership.

I've only had 1 woman boss - for 5 months of my 18-year corporate career, 

I worked at 6 different companies during that time...

Yall, this is crazy! 

The one woman boss I did have was awesome
She was super smart and inspiring.

And... her boss (the Director) was also a badass woman leader...
This short time had a major impact on what I believed I could achieve.

It allowed me to see myself as a powerful woman leader. 
Because I saw other women doing it. 

It planted the seed...

Just a few months later, the company changed the reporting structure, 
I had to report back into the Canadian team,
Where my manager and his boss were both men.

Maybe you're thinking... does the gender of who you report to even matter?

Absolutely, it does!

By the time I was a director, trying to become a VP for the first time, 
I had NO female mentors or role models to look up to...
Or to reach out to for advice and guidance.

I had one amazing mentor who was a man,
And I'm truly grateful for him,

But advice from a 6'3" alpha male with a stay-at-home wife isn't always applicable!
I was the only woman at the table and a single mom...
I was in a different boat.

When I realized this number - 5 months - it really hit me...

This is why I'm so passionate about having more women executives,

And why I'm so passionate about helping other women break through to executive leadership.

I want to be the role model I never had for others,
I want to take you by the hand and show you the ropes,
And then I want you to do it for other women. 

That's my 'why' ✌️💜 

PS. If you're looking for a woman to help you get there, DM me and let's chat.

Women executives are at a disadvantage.

Simply by being the only one at the table

Don't believe me?
Let me paint the picture.

First, meet Adam:
He works as a VP at a tech start-up, where he's made a bunch of buddies on the exec team
They often grab lunch or drinks after work, and golf once a week

During which, they talk about:
- Problems in the business
- Growth strategies 
- Challenges with their team etc....

*Adam's wife is home with the kids, so he can be late a few nights a week

Then there's Sarah:
She also works as a VP at a tech start-up, where she's the only woman exec
She's trying to build relationships, but the friendships among her male colleagues run deep

Not only that, although she's the breadwinner, she's still the default parent at home:
- She has to pick the kids up at daycare for 5pm
- Once she's home, she's getting dinner on the table and lunches packed
- She feels as though it doesn't stop until she collapses into bed

*She has no one to talk to about her job - her friends are all teachers and stay-at-home moms, and her husband doesn't want to talk about work all the time. 

Do we see the disadvantage here?

The networks that men organically build, 
Just by being surrounded by others like them

And believe me, I'm not blaming anyone here,
But I think this needs to change

Which is why I'm launching the Women's Executive Mastermind

It will be a small, curated group of women at the VP level and up
And it will be a space to solve challenges, talk shop, level up and talk about the things you can't talk about anywhere else

In a safe and confidential environment

If this sounds like what you've been craving, DM me "EXEC MASTERMIND" and I'll get in touch to share more.

Let's level the playing field ✌️💜

Women work harder than men to become executives

Like it or not, that's just the truth.

I've seen this anecdotally, and the data supports it

Let me explain:

The leadership gap starts at the very first promotion to manager
And at every level, women will have a harder time earning that promotion.

As a result, the women who actually do become senior leaders
Tend to be hyper-achieving, highly accomplished and very talented

We've set the bar so high for women
That the ones who clear it can often run circles around their male counterparts

And yet... one of biggest challenges senior women share with me is a lack of confidence!
An unrelenting feeling of imposter syndrome

So the goal of this post is to talk to those women:

If you're a women in (senior) leadership,
And you aren't sure you belong,
Let me be the one to tell you:

Girl, you freaking belong.

Believe me. 

You probably belong more than some of your male counterparts,

And it's time to start owning the seat at the table you worked so hard to get.

Ladies, remember this:

They've set the bar crazy high for you
You cleared that bar and got a seat at the table
You belong there just as much as anyone else ✌️💜

PS. If you want a seat at the table and haven't found the right mentor to help you get there, send me a DM. Let's make 2026 your year. 

Follow me Katy McFee for more posts on women in leadership

I barely lasted 2 years at my ‘dream’ job

I wanted this job REALLY badly

It was a big goal to work at this company and in the space

And then bailed 2 years in. Why?

1. My Manager
2. The resulting culture

I was making great money, selling a groundbreaking technology that I was hugely passionate about to the coolest customers ever...

One of my customers was the scientific advisor for Jurassic freaking Park!!

My technical counterpart was amazing - we became great friends.

The only problem? My Manager...

He played toxic mind games
I felt unsupported and unappreciated
I didn't feel as though he cared about my success

The politics on the team were distracting and stressful.

I was miserable.

So, after trying to 'stick it out' for a while, I jumped ship

This is your friendly reminder that people really do quit bad managers, even when everything else is great. ✌️💜

Give this a repost to share this reminder!

Making money used to be my #1 goal

And I do not apologize for this! 
(Or regret it)

Growing up, I saw the same trend over and over:

Women relying on their husbands financially, 
And either a) having no power in the relationship 
Or b) getting screwed if things didn’t work out.

I remember saying:
"I will never rely on a man for money. 
I will always be self-sufficient"

And in the years that followed, I made sure I was.

I worked my a$$ off for many years to make it happen.

And I received my fair share of judgement when my kids were little 
Because I worked a lot and traveled for business

Are there things that I regret missing?
Yeah, of course.

But on the flip side:
- When I got divorced I was able to buy my ex out of the house so the kids didn't have to move
- When I had to leave an abusive relationship, I had the power to walk out because I was not financially dependent
- When my eldest needed additional resources, I could send them to a Montessori, where they are truly thriving

These things all require money.

With all of this behind me, making money is no longer my top priority, 
And for that I'm grateful

But my ambition served its purpose, and I wouldn't change it.

It gave me choice and security, for myself and my kids.

So here’s your gentle reminder:

1. Ladies, it’s ok to care about money.

We often feel guilty about wanting to make money.
But this gives us choice and freedom, and we're allowed to want this. 

2. Think twice before judging someone's priorities.
We all have our own stories and situations that shape our motivations ✌️💜

Corporate hustle culture is dead.

Or quickly dying... And I'm here for it!

It's easy to see what's killing it:

- Burnout following a global pandemic while homeschooling kids
- 10s of thousands of people... or is it now hundreds of thousands... laid off from companies they loved and believed in
- The realization that we're no longer willing to put up with long commutes or 10hr days at the office for no reason

There has been a shift, and things are not going back.

More people than ever are
- insisting on flexibility at work
- building their personal brands online
- unapologetically creating a side hustle
- turning their side hustle into their full-time gig
- prioritizing time with their kids over spending 12hr days in the office

And I think it's amazing!

If you want to build a career you love, you still need to work hard

But there's more space for boundaries and creating your own path than ever before

I see more women leaders than ever, who are showing up in the boardroom and also unapologetically blocking off their calendars at 3:30pm to do bus pick-up

We've seen the light, and we can't unsee it

Who's with me? ✌️💜

We tell girls they can do anything they want

The truth is, this just isn't enough...

If we aren't giving boys this message
We'll never see real change

The reality in today's society is this:

Men hold the power. So...

THEY need to believe women are equal
THEY need to be ready to promote more women
THEY need to take on more domestic work at home

If we want to see real change, we need both men and women on board.

My partner does most of the meal prep/ dinners during the week,

He does more than half of bedtimes with our 5-year-old,
He gets him dressed and makes his lunch every day,
He does school drop-off and pick-up. 

He gets breakfast ready while I'm working out.

We are modelling non-traditional gender roles in our home
And it's 100% intentional.

I want my boys to be those men.

We need to model the behaviours and have the conversations with our boys
In addition to inspiring our girls to take on whatever they want in life

Relying on telling girls they can do anything they want 
Is making them solely responsible for fixing the gender gap

And frankly, it's not enough to make real change. 

This is the time to shape the next generation
Who's with me? ✌️💜

Follow me Katy McFee for more posts on women in leadership

I *thought* I was super healthy!!

But recently, I discovered there was more to my story under the surface...

For context: 

I'm 46, vegan and have been invested in health my entire life
I exercise regularly, eat (mostly) whole foods and meditate daily

I wear a Whoop
I almost never drink alcohol

Y'all.. I do all the things!

I thought that I was about as healthy as they come

Not long ago, I was offered the opportunity to try out NiaHealth

This is a proactive health platform that tests 150+ biomarkers and provides an assessment to help you live a longer, healthier life.

Of course, I jumped at the chance - I love this stuff!

They came to my house, drew some blood and got a urine sample

And just a few days later, I got the results that shocked this overachiever:

Suboptimal (ie. elevated) LDL and non-HDL cholesterol levels!

WTF?!?!

Now, the great thing about their test is that they also test for the specific subfactors 
That we know matter most for cardiovascular risk:  LP(a) and ApoB 

In my case, both of these are optimal, which is great

So I know there's no emergency,
But it's still something I should focus on lowering to decrease my risk.

(*And luckily they provide next steps for how to do that)

The other thing I discovered is that my blood pressure is reeeeaaally low
Low enough that I should also keep an eye on that...

Here's the lesson: Just because you're healthier than "most", 
Just because you look healthy on the outside,

Doesn't mean you're 100% healthy

These tests are available to the general public and honestly, if you can swing it, you should invest in this

Yes, you have to pay for them
But the information they give you can have a huge impact

It certainly has for me....✌️💜

Most women are afraid to share their wins

And it holds them back. Here's why:

First, I'll say that the reasons women don't advocate for themselves are 100% valid:

1. You've been conditioned your whole lives to be good, polite, and work hard with your head down

Those beliefs and behaviours are deeply ingrained.

2. You face real bias in the workplace, and speaking up can get you labelled as 'difficult' or 'b!tchy'

We know this, so we avoid it. 

3. No one has ever taught you how to do this in a way that feels good

Without a guide or a process, you're left to handle these awkward conversations on your own... 

These things are all true
And they can be great excuses

But I promise you, they aren't serving you
And they definitely aren't helping you land that promotion

If you aren't creating regular visibility into the great things you're doing

You will never get the recognition you deserve

Working hard with your head down simply does not work

This is a topic I feel passionately about

Because there's nothing I hate more than seeing a smart, ambitious woman 

Whose career is stalled because she isn't sharing her wins and goals.

I've discovered that with the right process and frameworks

It's actually really easy to create visibility into the great things you're doing,

And your career goals.

I've put all of this together into my workshop:
From Invisible to Influential: My 4 Step Recognition Framework

Spend 90 minutes with me
And leave with actual tools you can start using right away to get the recognition you deserve and need. 

We'll workshop 5 exercises so you know:

- What the right things to focus on are
- How to create weekly visibility in a way that's effective
- How to ensure you're talking about career goals every month
- Who you need to focus on outside of your manager
- How to ensure these stakeholders see your value

I ran this workshop 2 weeks ago, and the feedback was so strong that I've decided to do it one more time this year and it's happening tomorrow!

Register here: https://lnkd.in/ds8A54zT

Let's get you seen, and promoted ✌️💜

Can we stop calling it bragging?

Your boss NEEDS to know your wins!

I know so many women who are amazing at advocating for their teams,

But terrible at advocating for themselves.

And that includes sharing their wins with their manager.

They don't want to feel like they're "bragging"
They hope that just working hard and creating results is enough

But ladies, it's not enough.

Your boss is thinking of a million other things
And keeping them up to date on key updates and wins is actually a gift!

So let me reframe this for you.

Sharing your wins is not bragging, it's:

- Providing your manager with updates they can report up the chain
- Giving them key information they can use to make decisions
- Helping them see your impact, so they can further develop you

When you share your wins in the right way, 
It will feel good for both you and your manager.

And to help you do that, I've created a workshop that I'm hosting on Thursday at 7pm ET:

From Invisible to Influential: The 4-Step Recognition Framework

You won't just learn what you need to do,
You'll actually workshop 5 exercises and leave with next steps you can take this week!

Sign up here: insightstoactioncc(dot)com/workshop 

✌️💜

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