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Hi, I'm Ben Meer.

Tired of non-actionable life advice, I started writing online in February 2022.

Here are the results:

→ Built social audience from 0 to 2M+ (across IG, LinkedIn, and X) 
→ Grew 0 to 690K+ followers on LinkedIn in 21 months
→ Scaled newsletter—System Sunday—from 0 to 270K+ subscribers

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How to live life like it’s your second time around.

5 rules to experience more joy and less regret:

1. Remember the Spotlight Effect.

We think people are paying far more attention to us than they are. 

Harsh truth: 

Your freedom begins the day you realize nobody is thinking about you.

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2. Consider the things you won’t care about in 5 years. 

• Other people’s opinions
• Petty disagreements
• Sensationalized news 

Allow yourself to stop caring now.

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3. Shift your mindset from ‘I don’t know how’ to ‘I don’t know how yet.’

In the words of Adam Grant:

• Impostor syndrome: ‘I don't know what I'm doing. It's only a matter of time until everyone finds out.’

• Growth mindset: ‘I don't know what I'm doing yet. It's only a matter of time until I figure it out.’

The highest form of self-confidence is believing in your ability to learn.

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4. Make 'No' your default. 

Whether it's a new work project or social gatherings, saying 'Yes' to non-priorities ruins your priorities. 

As Derek Sivers says, if it's not a 'Hell yeah,' it's a no.

Then pour that time into what actually excites you.


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5. Normalize being weird.

“Weirdness is what sets us apart, gets us hired. Be your unapologetically weird self. In fact, being weird may even find you the ultimate happiness.” —Chris Sacca

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We only get one do-over in this beautiful life. 

Make sure to live it intentionally. 🙌

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This quote hit home for me.

12 small life edits that have outsized returns:

Morning Routines

1. Make your bed first thing. You build momentum and set the tone for the day. 

2. Step outside. A healthy tide of cortisol is released when you step outside at daybreak, allowing you to become more alert. You'll reset your circadian rhythm.

3. Send a good morning text. Gm texts >>>. Make someone's day.

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Evening Routines

4. Write down your 3:3:3 plan for tomorrow: 3 hours on your most important project, 3 shorter tasks, 3 maintenance activities (h/t Oliver Burkeman).

5. End your workday with a shutdown ritual (h/t Cal Newport). Close your laptop, plug in the charger, and spend 2 minutes tidying your desk. Then say "shutdown". Separating your work and life is key.

6. Journal 1 beautiful life moment. Delicious tacos, presentation you crushed, a moment of inner peace. Write it down. Gratitude programs a mindset of abundance.

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Meals

7. Prioritize unprocessed, whole foods: eggs, blueberries, dark leafy greens, and walnuts. You'll feel on (finally).

8. Hydrate before you caffeinate. Drink a full glass of water right away. 60% of your body is water. Replenish it.

9. Follow Japan's 80% Rule: Only eat until you are 80% full. Overeating makes the body divert blood & energy to digestion (causing drowsiness). Nobody has time for a food coma.

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Home

10. Establish a home for every item. My advice: List your most misplaced items (keys, wallet, etc.) and standardize a home for these things today.

11. Choose practical materialism. Buy things that make you healthier, wealthier, or provide you free time. Products that make a material difference in the quality of your life.

12. Follow the 1 In, 1 Out Rule. If you purchase one item, then donate, toss, or sell another. Manage both inbound and outbound possessions to enjoy equilibrium.

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One last thing:

It's not just your environment worth editing. Your inner dialogue shapes your life, too.

Audit your thoughts to make sure they align with who you want to become.

Your future self will thank you. 

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Social intelligence quietly determines who gets promoted.

Here are 20 sentences to master it:

These may be called soft skills, but there is nothing soft about their impact. 

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The ultimate career superpower?

Learning faster than everyone else.

These 4 science-backed frameworks make it possible:

1. Pareto Principle (80/20 Rule)
↳ Identify the 20% of material driving 80% of learning.

2. Spaced Repetition 
↳ Revisit concepts at growing intervals. Memory compounds with time.

3. Feynman Technique
↳ Break an idea down into its simplest parts to deeply understand it.

4. Memory Palace
↳ Attach facts to memorable mental images. Visuals are hard to forget.

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Accelerate your learning with AI:

Here’s 3 prompts to use:

1. “Explain [topic] to me as if I’m 12.”

2. “Quiz me on [topic] with 5 questions, then give hints only if I’m stuck.” 

3. “Generate a spaced-repetition schedule for mastering [skill] in 30 days.”

Paste these into your favorite AI to take action. 

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The best investment you’ll ever make is in your own mind.

Information is abundant. It’s the willingness to learn that’s rare.

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The most underrated life skill:
doing hard things even when you don’t feel like it.

3 mental models that make it easier:

1. For practicing discipline, follow the 2-Day Rule (H/T James Clear): 

"Never miss two days in a row." 

Your life will never be perfect, but it can be extraordinary. 

You might miss a day building a positive habit. That is OK. 

What's not OK? Letting that day turn into 3 weeks.

As Jim Kwik once said, "On the days you have only 40%, and you give 40%. You gave 100%."

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2. For practicing courage, try going first.

Most people don't go first because it's scary.

The awkward silence. The risk of rejection. The fear of judgment.

But here's the thing: everyone feels it.

Whether you're in a meeting, on a call, or waiting in line, the person next to you is just as hesitant.

Going first isn't the absence of fear. It's choosing to act despite it.

A simple "Hi, I'm Ben", an unprompted idea, or raising your hand before you feel ready are all small acts that compound into a courageous identity over time.

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3. For practicing gratitude, use the 3+3 Framework.

Write down 3 things you're grateful for and 3 recent small wins.

• 3 things you're grateful for: Focus on anything, big or small (a sunny day, a friend's support, a warm cup of coffee).

• 3 small wins: Write down things that have gone well recently (finishing a task, learning something new, a compliment you received).

It only takes 5 minutes and goes a long way.

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The choice of what to practice is yours.
What you practice becomes who you are.

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A career skill I wish I learned earlier:

Analytical thinking.

20 sentences to make better decisions:

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6 simple secrets to become quietly confident:

1. Allocate time every day for learning

Confidence starts with competence.

• Block out 30 minutes for reading
• Listen to an audiobook or podcast during your commute to work
• Treat everyone like they were sent to teach you something

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2. Hone in your body language

Nonverbal communication is underrated. 

People will like or dislike your communication based on:

7% words, 38% face and tone, and 55% body language. 

Stand up straight. Keep your shoulders back. Make eye contact. Smile. Give a firm handshake.

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3. Be more interested than interesting 

Make people feel important using the SHR Method:

Seen
• Give eye contact
• Offer a specific compliment

Heard
• Ask good questions
• Be interested, not interesting

Remembered
• Follow up
• Remember name(s)
• Recall something you discussed

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4. Build your own momentum

• Write down your wins (compliments, successful presentation, solo trip, etc.)
• Consistently review these wins

You’ll build an undeniable stack of evidence showing how far you’ve come and how seriously capable you are.

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5. Pause before speaking

When speaking, we allow ourselves only 30% of the time a listener would give us to fill a pause.

You have more time to reply than you think.

Wait for 2s first.

Pause in Speaking + Eye Contact = Confidence

(h/t Charlie Newport)

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6. Embrace your flaws (Pratful Effect)

Think of your favorite character from the movies or TV.

They always had at least one major weakness (you wouldn’t like them as much otherwise).

Owning your flaws is humanizing; you’ll be magnetic.

You don’t need to hide parts of yourself to be accepted by others. 🙌

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It doesn’t matter whether you’re introverted, extroverted, or ambiverted.

Confidence isn’t the loudest voice in the room.

It’s the calm belief that you'll figure things out.

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"Culture eats strategy for breakfast." —Peter Drucker

20 simple phrases to build a healthy team culture:

If you want to install a growth mindset:

1. "What did we learn?"
2. "How might we…?"
3. "I need your help…"
4. "What are your thoughts on…?"
5. "Thanks for taking that risk."

If you want to build trust:

6. "I made a mistake."
7. "You've got my full support."
8. "I appreciate when you…"
9. Help me understand…"
10. "I trust your judgement."

If you want to cut out toxic language (avoid these):

11. "That's not my job."
12. "We've always done it this way."
13. "Who's to blame?"
14. "That'll never work."
15. "Just do what I say."

If you want to prevent eroding your culture (avoid these):

16. "They should have…"
17. "You're wrong because…"
18. "That's a stupid idea."
19. "Why didn't you…"
20. "I told you so."

The words you speak become the culture you work in.

The best ones don't just happen overnight.

They're built one word, phrase, and conversation at a time.

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