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Hi, I'm Ben Meer.

Tired of non-actionable life advice, I started writing online in February 2022.

Here are the results:

→ Built social audience from 0 to 2M+ (across IG, LinkedIn, and X) 
→ Grew 0 to 690K+ followers on LinkedIn in 21 months
→ Scaled newsletter—System Sunday—from 0 to 270K+ subscribers

There are 2 primary ways I can help you:

1) System Sunday Newsletter

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How to live life like it’s your second time around.

5 rules to experience more joy and less regret:

1. Remember the Spotlight Effect.

We think people are paying far more attention to us than they are. 

Harsh truth: 

Your freedom begins the day you realize nobody is thinking about you.

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2. Consider the things you won’t care about in 5 years. 

• Other people’s opinions
• Petty disagreements
• Sensationalized news 

Allow yourself to stop caring now.

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3. Shift your mindset from ‘I don’t know how’ to ‘I don’t know how yet.’

In the words of Adam Grant:

• Impostor syndrome: ‘I don't know what I'm doing. It's only a matter of time until everyone finds out.’

• Growth mindset: ‘I don't know what I'm doing yet. It's only a matter of time until I figure it out.’

The highest form of self-confidence is believing in your ability to learn.

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4. Make 'No' your default. 

Whether it's a new work project or social gatherings, saying 'Yes' to non-priorities ruins your priorities. 

As Derek Sivers says, if it's not a 'Hell yeah,' it's a no.

Then pour that time into what actually excites you.


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5. Normalize being weird.

“Weirdness is what sets us apart, gets us hired. Be your unapologetically weird self. In fact, being weird may even find you the ultimate happiness.” —Chris Sacca

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We only get one do-over in this beautiful life. 

Make sure to live it intentionally. 🙌

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If I had to restart my career tomorrow, these are the 9 soft skills I’d learn first:

1. Be the person who gets things done
↳ Organizations reward initiative.
↳ Solve problems proactively (promotions follow naturally).

2. Leverage the 7-38-55 Rule
↳ Other’s impression of you comes primarily from nonverbal cues.
↳ Focus on your tone and body language to elevate your communication.

3. Use the 4-Bullet Update
↳ Remind leaders of the task, your actions, blockers/risks, and follow-ups.
↳ You respect their time and show ownership.

4. Practice the Gratitude Loop regularly
↳ Spot good work, call it out specifically, and reciprocate.
↳ You will build loyalty and strong alliances fast.

5. Treat your speaking like game film
↳ Record calls/meetings and review them often. 
↳ It’ll help eliminate filler words and sharpen your delivery.

6. Send weekly Friday Highlights 
↳ Recap your wins and things you’re looking out for next week. 
↳ You both build trust in the moment and create a stack of evidence for review season. 

7. Apply the Plus One Rule everywhere
↳ Find ways to leave every process 1% better. 
↳ Consistent small upgrades make you indispensable.

8. Give yourself a Personal MBA
↳ 30 minutes of daily business reading sharpens your mind over time. 
↳ You’ll be thinking (and acting) like an executive before you know it. 

9. Eliminate complaining and gossip
↳ Your words about others reflect directly on your integrity.
↳ Replace negative speak with direct, respectful communication.

The AI era is here, and hard skills can be outsourced faster than ever.

What can’t be outsourced?

Your reputation.
Your initiative.
The trust you build with the people around you.

People skills are the real opportunity in 2026 and beyond.

And the best part is, anyone can learn them.

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How to subtly upgrade your life in 2026.

Dial in these 5 everyday inputs:

1. Social Inputs

You become the 5 people you spend the most time with.

Choose wisely:

• Find intellectual sparring partners (where you help one another).
• Resist false kindness: Create an inner circle that will give you honest feedback.
• Avoid energy vampires: Spend more time with people who give you energy and less time with those who steal it.

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2. Information Inputs

Elevate your sources. 

If you want to level up your information diet, here are some immediate upgrades:

TED Talks, documentaries, insightful podcasts, books that challenge and inspire, and unbiased news sources.

See the comments below for a curated list of my favorite resources.

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3. Mental Inputs

Small shifts in language create big mindset shifts.

Among my favorites:

• Failure → Learning
• Stuck → Exploring new angles
• Nervous → Energized
• Hate → I prefer
• Have to → Get to

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4. Health Inputs

Your brain influences every thought, feeling, and action you take.
So prioritize your brain health:

• Take long walks.
• Sleep 7+ hrs nightly.
• Have a strong rest ethic to avoid burnout.
• Rebalance your dopamine with less screen time.

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5. Environmental Inputs

Pare down to essential items.

Then, manage both inbound & outbound possessions.

Inbound:
• Choose quality > quantity
• Purchase less; love every single item more

Outbound:
• Follow the 1 In, 1 Out Rule: If you buy one item, then donate, sell, or toss another

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Your future results are a lagging measure of your current inputs.

Choose wisely. Everything else is downstream.

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Social intelligence quietly determines who gets promoted.

Here are 20 sentences to master it:

These may be called soft skills, but there is nothing soft about their impact. 

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This quote hit home for me.

12 small life edits that have outsized returns:

Morning Routines

1. Make your bed first thing. You build momentum and set the tone for the day. 

2. Step outside. A healthy tide of cortisol is released when you step outside at daybreak, allowing you to become more alert. You'll reset your circadian rhythm.

3. Send a good morning text. Gm texts >>>. Make someone's day.

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Evening Routines

4. Write down your 3:3:3 plan for tomorrow: 3 hours on your most important project, 3 shorter tasks, 3 maintenance activities (h/t Oliver Burkeman).

5. End your workday with a shutdown ritual (h/t Cal Newport). Close your laptop, plug in the charger, and spend 2 minutes tidying your desk. Then say "shutdown". Separating your work and life is key.

6. Journal 1 beautiful life moment. Delicious tacos, presentation you crushed, a moment of inner peace. Write it down. Gratitude programs a mindset of abundance.

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Meals

7. Prioritize unprocessed, whole foods: eggs, blueberries, dark leafy greens, and walnuts. You'll feel on (finally).

8. Hydrate before you caffeinate. Drink a full glass of water right away. 60% of your body is water. Replenish it.

9. Follow Japan's 80% Rule: Only eat until you are 80% full. Overeating makes the body divert blood & energy to digestion (causing drowsiness). Nobody has time for a food coma.

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Home

10. Establish a home for every item. My advice: List your most misplaced items (keys, wallet, etc.) and standardize a home for these things today.

11. Choose practical materialism. Buy things that make you healthier, wealthier, or provide you free time. Products that make a material difference in the quality of your life.

12. Follow the 1 In, 1 Out Rule. If you purchase one item, then donate, toss, or sell another. Manage both inbound and outbound possessions to enjoy equilibrium.

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One last thing:

It's not just your environment worth editing. Your inner dialogue shapes your life, too.

Audit your thoughts to make sure they align with who you want to become.

Your future self will thank you. 

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The ultimate career superpower?

Learning faster than everyone else.

These 4 science-backed frameworks make it possible:

1. Pareto Principle (80/20 Rule)
↳ Identify the 20% of material driving 80% of learning.

2. Spaced Repetition 
↳ Revisit concepts at growing intervals. Memory compounds with time.

3. Feynman Technique
↳ Break an idea down into its simplest parts to deeply understand it.

4. Memory Palace
↳ Attach facts to memorable mental images. Visuals are hard to forget.

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Accelerate your learning with AI:

Here’s 3 prompts to use:

1. “Explain [topic] to me as if I’m 12.”

2. “Quiz me on [topic] with 5 questions, then give hints only if I’m stuck.” 

3. “Generate a spaced-repetition schedule for mastering [skill] in 30 days.”

Paste these into your favorite AI to take action. 

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The best investment you’ll ever make is in your own mind.

Information is abundant. It’s the willingness to learn that’s rare.

💾 Save this to find it later.
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"Culture eats strategy for breakfast." —Peter Drucker

20 simple phrases to build a healthy team culture:

If you want to install a growth mindset:

1. "What did we learn?"
2. "How might we…?"
3. "I need your help…"
4. "What are your thoughts on…?"
5. "Thanks for taking that risk."

If you want to build trust:

6. "I made a mistake."
7. "You've got my full support."
8. "I appreciate when you…"
9. Help me understand…"
10. "I trust your judgement."

If you want to cut out toxic language (avoid these):

11. "That's not my job."
12. "We've always done it this way."
13. "Who's to blame?"
14. "That'll never work."
15. "Just do what I say."

If you want to prevent eroding your culture (avoid these):

16. "They should have…"
17. "You're wrong because…"
18. "That's a stupid idea."
19. "Why didn't you…"
20. "I told you so."

The words you speak become the culture you work in.

The best ones don't just happen overnight.

They're built one word, phrase, and conversation at a time.

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Lousin Mehrabi

Selected as one of the Most Influential Negotiation Professionals Globally, Lousin Mehrabi is an Inspirational Speaker, Trainer, and Board Advisor. 

She works with CEOs and decision-makers worldwide to help them get the best out of themselves and their teams. 
 
For over 23 years she has been leading high-stakes 
negotiations in business and life. 

Trained and mentored by some of world's best (hostage) negotiators, Lousin has been qualified as a Certified Professional Negotiator, CPN© by the International Scientific Experts Committee of Negotiators. 

Today she is an internationally sought-after Keynote Speaker and the Global Head of Negotiation Training for ADN Group. 

She is also a Special Advisor to C-levels for negotiation strategy and personal growth. 

Lousin is a mother of 2, a graduate of 3 International Business Schools, holds 4 nationalities and speaks 5 languages. 

As a mother of a son with special needs (Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy), Lousin is also an advocate for awareness & inclusion. 

She regularly shares insights on the power of Peace Negotiations with Yourself.  

Lousin is currently based in Dubai and works with corporations worldwide 🌎

With over 200 recommendations here on LinkedIn, her clients tell it best. Have a look below. 

With a full calendar of several months, please contact us in advance: team@lousinmehrabi.com

Professional Negotiator | Board Advisor | Keynote Speaker

This 1 thing makes you powerful:


👇👇👇

Self-control 

It is an underrated skill. And it starts with self-awareness. 
Deeply getting to know yourself is one of the most powerful things you can do. 

Highly self-aware people understand their triggers, stress responses, and past wounds. That awareness is a strong advantage.

Because once you see your triggers, you can heal them, neutralize them, and prevent them from running the show. So you stay in control. 

High-stakes negotiations are emotional. Egos show up. Pressure rises. 

Without self-control, you can sabotage success without realizing it.

The best negotiators, the best leaders, the best athletes are highly self-aware.

That is why why when I coach my clients, I don’t work on the negotiation; I work on the negotiator. 

Diving into yourself is the most rewarding work you can do. 

The benefits go beyond the deal. 

Next, I'll share a video about this. 

Follow for more. 

Love & Motivation
Lousin Mehrabi

#Negotiation #Leadership #EmotionalIntelligence

Lousin Mehrabi 

Professional Negotiator | Inspirational Speaker | Board Advisor & Trainer on Negotiations, Emotional Intelligence and Leadership (NEIL) 🤝 Top 50 Most Impactful People on LinkedIn 🏆

I had 2 minutes to find a solution when insurance refused to cover my son. 

As a negotiator, you might think that my first reflex is to negotiate. It is not. 

My reflex is always to focus on the need. 

I didn’t have time to negotiate with insurance at that moment because I was literally entering an online training (about negotiation). And the MRI had been booked months ago. I didn’t want to postpone it. 

So I focused on the need: getting the best care for my son’s health.

I called his father and said that this MRI had to be done. And asked him to contact the insurance company and explain it, or pay for it now and claim it later. 

I also asked him to speak to Alex’s cardiologist, who could provide the additional information the insurance needed. 

It was a 2-minute call. 

He did it. I entered my training. 
Insurance approved it. 
My son got the MRI. 

Lessons & reminders:
1.⁠ ⁠We negotiate to get our needs met 
2.⁠ ⁠A need is never a number (NNN) 
3.⁠ ⁠A need is not negotiable (NNN)
4.⁠ ⁠To succeed, focus on your need 

When you focus on your need, the next steps will appear. 

Love & Motivation
Lousin Mehrabi

#Negotiation #Success #Win

The toughest negotiation you’ll ever have is the one with yourself.

When life hits hard, you’re the only one who can influence yourself to keep going.

Hearing that my son would have a short life took me to rock bottom.

How could I negotiate my way out of that? 
I couldn’t. 

Not with doctors. Not even with God.

This quote from Viktor Frankl saved me:
« When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. »

That’s when I decided to use my skills as a negotiator to negotiate with myself.

Those inner negotiations are what allowed me to find inner agreements. 

To keep going. To keep living. And to make the most of the limited time I have with my son, despite the unfair hand we are dealt.

It’s through inner negotiations that we can find meaning in our suffering and the strength to move forward.

It helps us find acceptance, resilience, and even… inner peace.

I train and coach people to become better negotiators. We go deep. It’s not only about getting better deals with others.

The ones who truly succeed are those who also find inner agreements.

Master yourself, and you can master your life.

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Love & Motivation,
Lousin Mehrabi 

#Negotiation #EmotionalIntelligence #Success

The toughest negotiation you’ll ever have is the one with yourself.

When you win internally, you win in every aspect of life and business.

This realization changed my life, and it can change yours too.

I shared about it in my keynote at the Gladiator Summit.

And in my previous post, link below.

Love & Motivation,
Lousin Mehrabi

Do you manage your emotions, or do they manage you? 

Self-awareness is step 1. 
Healing your triggers is the path to self-control. 

That’s when you step into your power and become untouchable.

In my previous post, I shared more about this. 

Let’s win together. 

Love & Motivation, 
Lousin Mehrabi

You don’t win by forcing the outcome.

You win by knowing how to speak, when to listen, and where to draw the line.

In this new episode of Luca's Insight Track, Luca Allam asks really thoughtful questions about how we can become better negotiators and win in life.

Everything begins with how you negotiate with yourself:

How do you negotiate inner peace?
How do you handle tough conversations?
How do you “win softly”?

I also share personal stories and insights I’ve never shared before.

Find out by watching the podcast now live on YouTube.

Click the link in the comments. 

Love & Motivation 
Lousin Mehrabi

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