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Jason Kirby

I took an entire month off traveling 12,822 miles with my wife and 2 kids... here's what I learned about myself...

I miss working 😅

Jokes aside, family and being the best Dad to my girls, and husband to my wife, are my highest priorities.

Building a great company with great people is #2

It's because I'll never forget meeting a billionaire for the first time in college and having a friend ask him what his biggest regret was in life (he was 89 with $2.5B), the man broke down in tears saying he'd give up all the money if he could have the time back with his kids and first wife. His kids had disowned him and only cared about the money and he was divorced 3 times. He was going to die alone, but filthy rich.

That experience shaped my entire life 20+ years later. I'll never be a billionaire, I won't work as hard as it takes to achieve that level of financial wealth. I won't sacrifice my family for an excess of money and power. 

I chose to slow down during these recent holidays to maximize time with my family and truly be present to make sure I didn't lose sight of my priorities and it was the best decision of 2025.

I hardly took any meetings and only made progress on a few urgent client initiatives. I occasionally had work on my mind, but I felt I truly let go for the first time in a long time. 

I'll never get this time back and despite my passion for my work, family is and will always be #1.

Now I'm feeling refreshed and excited for what Thunder.vc will achieve in 2026 after growing nearly 3x growth YoY in 2025. 

PS: if you've been waiting for me to get back to you on LinkedIn or email for a month, now you know why #sorrynotsorry

4x Exits, $100M+ Raised. Helping founders raise/exit with clarity, control, and conviction.

He went from VC intern to raising $76.5M as a first-time founder. Here’s what no one tells you about that jump.

Most people see the headline:
✅ $3.5M pre-seed0
✅  $13M seed
✅  $60M Series A

What they don’t see is the long-term game of relationship building and how, sometimes, that's not enough.

In the latest $100M Exits episode, Nelson Mills, co-founder of Vatn Systems, breaks down what it actually took to raise $76.5M in under 2.5 years, and why the first fast raise almost created dangerous blind spots.

A few hard-earned truths:
🫢 Raising fast can create false confidence
🤯 Being a former VC helps… until it doesn’t
💸 Capital gives you a shot, not success

If you’re fundraising right now, this episode is a reality check, especially if you're aiming to build a real moonshot. Watch the full episode in the article below or on your favorite podcast platform. Just search for $100M Exits.

Watch the full video here Raising capital looks clean on Twitter. It isn’t. In this episode, Nelson Mills walks through what it actually took to raise

Open article: The Playbook Behind a $76M Journey From VC Intern to Founder by Jason Kirby • 2 min read

The Playbook Behind a $76M Journey From VC Intern to Founder

Warm intros didn’t raise Andrew D'Souza's last round.
AI did.

Andrew is the founder of Boardy, and before that, built ClearCo into a $2.5B company.

When it came time to raise again, he didn’t spin up a spreadsheet of VCs or ask friends for intros.

Instead, his AI product created inbound investor demand.

One firm he’d never heard of:
🤔 Discovered the company organically
🤝 Had their entire partnership talking over a weekend
💸 And moved from first contact → conviction in days

No chasing. No “just circling back.” 

Here’s the uncomfortable truth Andrew breaks down on $100M Exits:

Founders don’t lose because there’s no capital.
They lose because attention is misallocated.

Too many investors chasing the same 50 deals.
Too many great founders stuck outside the room.

AI changes who hears about you, and how they hear about you.
That’s the real leverage.

We unpack the full story, the psychology behind it, and what it means for anyone raising in 2026. Check it out in the link below.

Also, be on the lookout for Boardy to be raising a fund... just a rumor 😉

Watch the full video here AI isn’t just a tool for fundraising; it is becoming the third cofounder. In this episode, Andrew D’Souza shares how Bordy.a

Open article: The Playbook Behind an AI-Led $8M Fundraise by Jason Kirby • 2 min read

The Playbook Behind an AI-Led $8M Fundraise

Here are the 7 lessons from Eric Friedman’s exit every founder should know before selling.

Eric Friedman built eSkill for 20 years before selling it, but not before running into every M&A trap founders fall into.

Here’s the tactical playbook he wishes he’d had:

1️⃣  Don’t trust an LOI until they’ve done real homework.
The best LOI he received came from the buyer who actually analyzed the business in detail.

2️⃣  Always expect a retrade.
If macro conditions change, your price changes; expect it.

3️⃣  Don’t get locked into exclusivity without protection.
Negotiate a mid-process “price reaffirmation.”

4️⃣  If you choose an earnout, make sure it’s revenue-based.
EBITDA earnouts are a death sentence.

5️⃣  Assume you will NOT be running the company post-close.
Your ability to hit targets goes to zero.

6️⃣  Understand your buyer's playbook, not just their offer.
Do they actually get your industry?

7️⃣  Multiple bidders = protection.
It’s the only leverage you have.

This episode is a tactical masterclass in avoiding M&A landmines, based on Eric's story. 

Follow me for more exit stories from experienced founders.

Watch the full video here Eric Friedman spent 20 years bootstrapping eSkill into one of the largest skills-testing platforms online. He ran three full

Open article: The Earnout Trap Every Founder Underestimates by Jason Kirby • 2 min read

The Earnout Trap Every Founder Underestimates

For the love of startups, do NOT take that Shopify (QB, PayPal, etc.) loan… I just watched one kill a founder’s shot at real capital.

I get why founders take them.
- They’re fast.
- No board approval.
- No pitch deck.
- Money hits your account in days.

But here’s the part no one explains 👇

These loans don’t just cost you money.
They cost you options.

This founder had a solid business:
 • $6M revenue
 • Clean margins
 • Predictable revenue
 • Strong growth

They needed short-term working capital.

Shopify offers money in a few clicks.
 • No calls.
 • No covenants.
 • No “bank nonsense.”
 • They take it. ~$500k.

Two weeks later, we introduced them to a Tier 1 lender:
 • Much lower cost of capital
 • 12-month interest-only w/3-year term
 • Scales with the business
 • Designed to be refinanceable or exit-friendly

But then the lender doesn't like Merchant Cash Advances (the correct term for these platform loans); it's a hard pass for them, it's a negative signal.
 • Daily revenue sweeps
 • Senior claim on cash flow at the payment processing level
 
Result?
 ❌ Lender walks
 ❌ Term sheet pulled
 ❌ Founder stuck w/ waiting until the MCA is paid off to create new options

The “easy” loan made the company unbankable.

Here’s the part founders miss 👇

These platform loans don’t compete with banks.
They compete with your future self.

They’re fine if:
 • You’ll never raise debt again
 • You don’t care about lender quality
 • You don’t plan to sell or refinance

But if you want:
 • Tier 1 lenders
 • Institutional debt
 • PE or strategic buyers
 • Real leverage in negotiations

These loans quietly shut those doors.

🔥Hot take 🔥
The most expensive capital is the capital that blocks better capital.

Before you click “accept,” ask:
“What will this look like to a serious lender in 6 months?”

If you’re a founder and unsure what capital path actually keeps options open, drop a comment or DM me.

I’d rather you be slower than stuck. 😉

You know you're deeply connected to the startup ecosystem when you start...

Recognizing the names on the testimonials section of a new company pitching you 😅

Not long ago, I would be looking at a new deck or website for a company asking for money that caught my eye, and I'd always think the testimonials were total BS or made up, especially for pre-seed companies.

But recently, I'm coming across so many testimonials from different startups where I actually know the person referenced in the testimonial, and they're legit. 🫡

I've been investing and advising for 5+ years now and have on average 25+ external meetings a week, averaging over 1000+ meetings a year. 

I guess it was inevitable that this would start to happen. 

For 2026, one of my goals is to make 1,000 intros, if there's someone you want to know that I'm connected to, tag them in the comments below or DM me and I'll do my best to make that happen. 

Fair warning, if I don't know you and you ask for the intro, I will require a call at the minimum befote making any intros. 

Also, if you're on the receiving end of my intros, don't worry, I'll only send stuff that's highly likely to be relevant.

Bill Gurley laid out exactly what startups get wrong, and it’s brutal.
VCs can smell these mistakes from a mile away.

Bill Gurley doesn’t waste words.

At the PEF Community ChapterX event last month, he broke down the 3 biggest things startups consistently get wrong.

1️⃣ Outsourcing product to dev shops
“If your plan is to hire a dev shop, you’re dead on arrival with VCs.”

Why? It screams that you can’t attract technical talent. Founders need builders, not vendors.

2️⃣ Filling boards with ‘career’ members who don’t think
Too many boards are stacked with audit/comp committee types.

Gurley: “They don’t bring independent thought… they bring peer review.”

Great boards lead. They challenge you, not just check boxes.

3️⃣ Hiring compensation consultants
His Munger quote says it all:

“I’d rather put a viper down my shirt than hire a compensation consultant.”

If your board can’t figure out how to pay people without a 3rd party deck… It’s the wrong board.

Startups don’t fail because they’re not working hard enough.

They fail because they set up the game wrong from day one.

👉 Attract a real team.
🧠 Build a board that thinks.
💸 Align incentives in-house.

Do that, and you’ve already outperformed most of your competition.

Most founders would kill for this headline:
Bootstrapped to $100M+ in revenue. No VCs.

But that wasn’t the end of the story...

Matthew Whyatt built a software business from age 22 and scaled it to over $100M in sales. From the outside, it looked like the dream. Inside, the foundations were weaker than anyone realized.

In our latest $100M Exits episode, Matt breaks down:

🥸  Why revenue success can mask real risk
😵 How founder instincts quietly destroy value
😨 The moment the business started to unravel

This is not a flex episode. It’s a post-mortem.

If you’re scaling fast and assuming the exit will sort itself out, read this before you repeat the same mistakes.

Watch the full video here Matthew Whyatt built a software business from scratch, bootstrapped it, and scaled it past $100M in total revenue. From the 

Open article: How a Founder Bootstrapped to $100M Without VC and Why It Fell Apart by Jason Kirby • 2 min read

How a Founder Bootstrapped to $100M Without VC and Why It Fell Apart

Build your social capital and influence ◼ Over 10,000 clients served in 17 years ◼ Co-Host and Founder, Art of Charm

🔥 Command Presence. Real Influence. No Fluff.

Already invested in coaching or leadership programs… but still feel like something’s missing?

You’ve got the credentials. The hard skills. Maybe even the title.

But if your career growth is slowing because your communication hasn’t caught up — you’re not alone.

Most professionals hit a ceiling when soft skills become the differentiator.

And that’s where I step in.

❌ The truth about most coaching:

Leadership courses? Too generic.

Corporate training? Too political.

Communication books and TED Talks? Great in theory, useless in high-stakes rooms.

You need targeted, practical coaching built around your professional world — not some academic framework.

✅ What You’ll Get Working With Me

10 hours. One-on-one. Personalized. Intensely practical.

We’ll work together to:

Decode high-stakes conversations and make your communication hit harder.

Amplify your influence in rooms filled with executives, engineers, investors, or stakeholders.

Build your “X-Factor” — a powerful personal presence that earns trust fast.

Unleash your Social Intelligence — command the room, influence anyone, and forge relationships.

You’ll never watch a video or sit through fluff. This is tactical training designed for results.

💥 Plus: Join the X-Factor Accelerator

An exclusive, implementation-based group for high performers. Inside:

Get real-time feedback from other driven professionals.

Practice frameworks in live drills.

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👊 My Credibility
19+ years in influence, leadership, and communication development.

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Coached U.S. Military Special Forces & Intelligence Units.

Host of a podcast with 450M+ downloads featuring world-class scientists and performance experts.

For the Analytic Mind Turned Leader.
For the Founder Now Fundraising.
For the Operator Who Needs Buy-In Fast.

If you’ve already tried “the other stuff” and still aren’t getting the results — let’s fix it.

DM me.

Let's turn communication into your competitive advantage.

AJ Harbinger

Most people think first impressions are about confidence.

They're dead wrong.

People form a judgment about you in 3 seconds.

Before you finish your sentence. Before your credentials matter.

And it's not what you think.

I've trained thousands of leaders on this.

The ones who command rooms don't walk in looking confident.

They walk in, making others feel seen.

Here's what they do:

1. They acknowledge people before they need something from them

2. They remember small details from past conversations

3. They make others feel heard, not impressed

The irony?

Trying to look confident makes you look nervous.

Making others feel important makes you look powerful.

First impressions aren't made by what you project.

They're made by how you make people feel.

What's your first impression strategy?

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A client lost a $2M deal because he was too confident.

He came to me frustrated. Perfect slides. Every answer rehearsed. 

Complete certainty in his solution.

The competitor who won? 

Spent the first 15 minutes just asking questions.

"I had the better product," he told me.

"I knew exactly what they needed."

That was the problem.

He knew what they needed.

He never asked what they wanted.

Influence isn't about having answers. It's about asking questions that make people feel understood.

I coached him for months after that loss. 

Same thing kept happening. 

Executives prepare their pitch. 

Leaders rehearse their points. 

Everyone focuses on projecting confidence.

Nobody prepares to be curious.

We changed one thing.

He started writing down 3 questions about each person before every conversation. 

Not questions that lead to his solution. 

Questions about their actual situation.

What are they really trying to solve?

What have they already tried?

What would success look like from their perspective?

He won the next 4 deals in a row. 

Same product. Same company. 

Different approach.

The most influential people I've coached aren't the most confident.

They're the most curious about other people's worlds.

What's your take on this?

Most people think being smart gets you promoted.

They're dead wrong.

I've coached 400+ executives. The ones who advance?

They're not the smartest in the room.

They're the most visible.

Here's the frustrating truth:

Your coworkers aren't too busy to help you.

They just don't see you as someone worth helping.

Your ideas aren't being stolen.

They're being credited to whoever speaks up first.

Your boss doesn't know your value.

Because you haven't made it visible.

Smart people assume quality speaks for itself.

It doesn't.

Visibility speaks.

The executives who get promoted do 3 things:

1. They speak in the first 5 minutes of every meeting

2. They share credit publicly (which makes people want to give them more)

3. They make their work visible before it's finished

Being smart is the entry fee.

Visibility is what gets you the seat at the table.

Which of these do you need to work on?

Some of the smartest people I know never get promoted—and it has nothing to do with skill.

I started working with a brilliant engineer, Daniel, who kept getting passed over for leadership roles.

He had the technical skills.
He worked insane hours.
Yet consistently watched less qualified people climb the ladder above him.

Sound familiar?

I've found the hidden factor that determines who rises and who stagnates has 𝐍𝐎𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆 to do with your technical abilities or work ethic.

It's emotional intelligence.

And here's the thing most "career experts" won't tell you: 𝐄𝐐 isn't some touchy-feely concept. It's a concrete skill set that can be methodically developed like any other.

I watched Daniel transform his career in just a few months after focusing on this 𝐎𝐍𝐄 area.

We worked on reading the emotional temperature in meetings, growing his influence on the team and across departments, and not letting stress get the best of his communication.

Three months later?

Promoted with a $34K raise.

Why does this work so powerfully?

Because careers aren't built on skills - they're built on 𝐑𝐄𝐋𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏𝐒. And relationships are built on emotional intelligence.

The cold truth:
• Your technical brilliance means nothing if people don't want to work with you
• Your hard work goes unnoticed if you can't effectively communicate its value
• Your leadership potential remains invisible if you can't connect with others

Want to stop watching less qualified people get promoted above you?

Focus on these three 𝐄𝐐 𝐟𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐬:
1. 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 to read the emotional undercurrents in any room
2. 𝐃𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐩 the ability to influence without authority
3. 𝐌𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧 composure under pressure (this alone separates leaders from workers)

The professionals who master these elements don't just succeed - they create opportunities that others never even see.

The fastest way to grow your network isn’t asking—it’s giving.

And it's not just about being generous.

Giving is essential for building strong connections.

It transforms the way you interact with others,
so you can create meaningful relationships.

Studies show the impact of giving:

• It leads to stronger networks.
• It creates loyalty among contacts.
• It boosts your reputation.
• It opens up new opportunities.
• It's essential for building trust.

If you want to expand your network...

Be generous, don't hold back,
and practice giving.

Here's how:

1. Offer help without expecting anything in return.
Small favors can make a big difference.

2. Share your knowledge.
Provide valuable insights to those who need them.

3. Connect people.
Introduce contacts who can benefit from knowing each other.

4. Give your time.
Spend a few minutes assisting someone in need.

5. Follow up.
Show that you care about their progress.

Giving is doing, not just saying.

Network with it.

You'll see your connections grow stronger.

The loneliest people I coach are the most successful.

A private equity partner came to me after closing a $200M deal.

He had 10 direct reports, sat on three boards, and couldn't name a single person he trusted enough to be honest with.

Success had isolated him completely.

Here's what happened.

He spent 15 years optimizing for external validation. 

Promotions. Deals. Recognition. 

Every choice prioritized career advancement over connection.

The moment he hit his goal, he looked around and realized he had no one to celebrate with.

His friends from business school had families now. Different priorities. His team respected him but feared him. His partners were competitors wearing friendly masks.

This is what I see with executives who break through to senior leadership. The skills that got you there are the exact ones that keep you isolated.

Independence. Self-reliance. Working harder than everyone else.

You were rewarded for it. Now it's killing you.

The fix isn't another networking event or executive mastermind. Those add contacts, not connection.

The fix is propinquity. Showing up to the same place with the same people until familiarity builds trust.

One client joined a weekly trail running group. Zero professional angle. Just showed up every Saturday morning at 7am. Six months later, three of those runners became his closest advisors. One introduced him to his next business partner.

Another client started hosting monthly dinners at his home. Same eight people. No agenda. Just conversation. Within a year, that dinner table became his personal board of directors.

The pattern is simple.

Consistency over time creates the safety needed for real relationships. You can't force depth. You build it through repeated exposure in low-pressure environments.

After coaching thousands of executives on social capital, I can tell you this:

The professionals who break through isolation don't add more events to their calendar. They commit to fewer places with higher frequency.

Your third place matters more than your office or your home. Find it. Protect it. Show up.

The influence you're chasing doesn't come from accumulating contacts. It comes from people seeing you as familiar, trustworthy, and consistent over time.

That PE partner? 

He joined a BJJ class. 

Made zero professional connections. 

Gained three real friendships. 

Said it saved his mental health.

Your network isn't built in a weekend.

She walked into the board presentation with perfect posture.

Designer suit. Every answer rehearsed.

Bombed it completely.

The senior director came to me confused.

"I did everything right. I looked confident. I sounded confident. What happened?"

I asked her what the board members cared about most.

She couldn't tell me.

Executive presence isn't about how you show up.

It's about how you make others feel when you're there.

I've coached hundreds of executives over 18 years. The ones with real presence aren't the most polished.

They're the most present with other people.

That director was so focused on appearing confident, she forgot to make anyone feel heard.

We shifted everything.

Instead of rehearsing her answers, she researched each board member. What they cared about. What questions they'd likely ask. What mattered to them specifically.

She was surprised by how much that changed her preparation.

Next presentation, she didn't perform confidence. She demonstrated understanding.

The board stayed 20 minutes past the scheduled end time. They asked follow-up questions. They leaned in.

They invited her to strategy sessions she'd been trying to get into for 2 years.

When you walk into a room worried about your presence, people feel your anxiety.

When you walk in genuinely curious about their perspective, they feel seen.

That's executive presence. Not polish. Connection.

How do you show up in high-stakes moments?

The most important skill to develop in 2026 isn't AI fluency or data analysis.

It's validation.

And I don't mean fake compliments or empty praise.

Here's what I mean.

Your colleague shares a frustration about a project timeline. Most people immediately jump to solutions or worse, minimize the concern.

"That's not that bad."

"You should see what I'm dealing with."

"Have you tried just working harder?"

None of that is validation.

Validation means acknowledging another person's experience as real and legitimate. Not agreeing with it. Not solving it. Just recognizing it exists.

Watch what happens when you master this.

Someone shares a challenge. You respond: "That sounds genuinely difficult. Walk me through what happened."

That's it.

No advice. No comparison. No minimizing.

You just acknowledged their reality.

What's really important is this creates psychological safety. People feel seen. And when people feel seen, they trust you.

Trust opens doors that credentials never will.

I tested this with a client who kept getting passed over for leadership roles despite exceptional technical skills. His feedback was always the same: "Not ready for executive presence."

We focused entirely on validation in meetings.

Instead of immediately proposing solutions, he learned to say: "Help me understand the constraint you're working with."

Instead of defending his ideas when challenged, he'd respond: "That's a fair concern. What would make you more comfortable?"

Three months later, he got the promotion.

Nothing changed about his technical abilities. Everything changed about how people experienced talking to him.

Here's what validation does that most people miss.

It reveals information others won't share. 

When people feel validated, they tell you what they're actually thinking. Not what they think you want to hear.

It builds influence without authority. 

You don't need a title to make people want to work with you.

It creates opportunities. 

The most valuable connections come from people who feel genuinely understood by you.

Let's be honest. 

Most executives are terrible at this because they were rewarded their entire career for having the right answer fast.

But leadership isn't about having answers. 

It's about making people feel safe enough to share the real problem.

Stop trying to prove you're the smartest person in the room.

Start trying to make others feel heard.

Your opportunities will multiply.

People aren’t ignoring you because they’re busy.

They’re ignoring you because you lack influence.

If you're putting in effort — reaching out, inviting people, following up — and getting little back… It's not bad luck.

It's a low Influence Index problem.

I had a client last month. Senior software architect. Smart guy. He'd invite colleagues for drinks after work.

Radio silence.

He'd suggest team lunches.

"Maybe next time."

He'd organize weekend events.

Two people showed up. Out of 15 invited.

His first thought? 

"People are just busy."

Wrong diagnosis.

Here's what was really happening:

People didn't see value in connecting with him. 

Not because he wasn't valuable — he was brilliant. But because he hadn't built influence.

Influence is what makes people want to come to you.

Without it, effort gets wasted.

Think about it:

→ When certain people invite you, you clear your calendar

→ When others invite you, you find excuses

Same invitation. Different response.

The difference? Your Influence Index.

High influence people don't work harder at invitations. 

They work smarter at relationships.

They:

→ Add value before asking for time

→ Connect people to each other first

→ Build reputation through consistent actions

→ Make others feel important, not impressed

My client started applying this. Within two months, he was getting invited to events.

Same person. Same invitations. Different influence.

The invisible skill you're missing isn't more effort. 

It's the influence that makes effort work.

Build influence first. Invitations second.

A VP came to me with 2,000 LinkedIn connections.

Couldn't get a single person to take his call.

He thought he had a network.

He had a contact list.

Networking advice tells you to meet more people. Collect more cards. Grow your connections.

I coached him for a year while he did exactly that. Three events per week. Twenty new connections per event. Generic follow-ups to everyone.

Zero meaningful relationships.

He was frustrated and didn't realize why. "I'm doing everything right. I show up. I connect. I follow up."

You know what changed everything?

We cut his networking in half.

One event per week instead of three. Five real conversations instead of twenty surface-level ones.

And the follow-ups?

Instead of "Great to meet you" to everyone, he sent personalized messages referencing actual conversations he had.

What they discussed. What stood out. What he remembered.

Within 90 days, 3 of those 5 people became clients.

One introduced him to what became his biggest account.

He was relieved by how much simpler it became.

Most people chase breadth. Successful people go deep with the right people.

Quality over quantity sounds obvious until you realize you're collecting contacts instead of building relationships.

Depth beats breadth. Every single time.

What's working for you in networking?

Your network isn't the problem, it's who you're keeping around.

The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.

Invest in your peers and colleagues and watch your career flourish.

Develop high-value relationships and watch your dreams become reality.

Find the right partner and achieve more than you ever imagined.

Never settle for less in relationships.

When you index your relationships on…

❌ Proximity

❌ Length of time you have known each other

❌ Fear of being alone

❌ Or convenience

You sell yourself short.

Instead focus on forging relationships on…

🤝 Shared values

🤝 Emotional support

🤝 Big dreams

🤝 And quality time spent together.

Building relationships is the lifeblood of your success.

The longest study of human happiness, The Harvard Study of Adult Development, linked your well-being to deep relationships.

Build better relationships and watch your health, wealth and success follow.

Which raises the question…

How satisfied are you with your relationships?

You're in your head and everyone knows it.

A client told me he dreaded networking events.

Every conversation felt like work. He'd run out of things to say within minutes.

I asked what he was thinking during those conversations.

"What should I say next? Do I sound interesting? Should I tell that story about the client project or is that too much?"

He rattled off the entire internal monologue.

"Is this going well? They seem bored. Maybe I should ask about their job. But that's generic. What else can I..."

All internal.

Nothing about the other person.

Conversations feel forced when you're worried about your next line instead of noticing what's actually happening.

Great conversation isn't about what you say.

It's about what you notice.

Their energy shift. 

What topics make them lean in. 

Where they actually want to go deeper.

We practiced a simple shift.

Stop planning your next point. 

Focus entirely on them.

What made their eyes light up just now? 

What topic did they gloss over that might be more interesting if you asked about it?

Next event, he was surprised by the difference.

Conversations lasted 20 minutes instead of 5. 

People asked for his contact. 

They actually followed up.

Forced conversation happens when you're performing.

Natural conversation happens when you're participating.

The difference is where you put your attention.

What helps you stay present?

After years of leading change, I’ve learned this the hard way.

Data doesn’t drive buy-in. Stories do.

During a coaching session last week, she confessed to me the 𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐋 reason her digital initiative suddenly took off after months of resistance:

"𝘐𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘢. 𝘐𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘴𝘦. 𝘐𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘴𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘕𝘦𝘵𝘧𝘭𝘪𝘹 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘥𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘤𝘭𝘪𝘤𝘬."

Let me explain what happened...

After countless failed attempts to get buy-in on a major digital transformation project, one team member casually compared their journey to Netflix - you know, the company that started with those red envelopes in the mail?

The room fell silent.

Then something magical happened.

Suddenly, 𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘𝐎𝐍𝐄 could see the vision. 

The same executives who had bored in previous meetings were now enthusiastically on board.

All because of a 30-second story about Netflix's evolution from mail-order DVDs to streaming dominance.

Here's why this works like nothing else:

✅ 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞: Everyone knows Netflix. It's like explaining quantum physics through football. Instant clarity.

✅ 𝐒𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞: Complex ideas need simple vehicles. Netflix's journey from mail to mobile is the perfect metaphor for transformation.

✅ 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥: Stories bypass logical resistance. They stick because they make us FEEL something.

This isn't just nice-to-have fluff. It's the difference between brilliant ideas that die in PowerPoint hell and ones that get implemented.

Look around your organization - I guarantee the most influential leaders aren't just the smartest. 

They're the best storytellers.

The good news? 

Unlike technical skills that take years to master, you can deploy this technique in your very next meeting.

What transformation are 𝐘𝐎𝐔 trying to lead? 

What familiar story could make it click?

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Become Dynamic

Most people think their network is too small.

They're wrong.

It's too shallow.

I watched a VP attend 50+ events last year. Hundreds of connections.

Zero meaningful relationships.

Then I worked with a partner at a top firm. Knows maybe 30 people well.

Never needs to job search. Opportunities find him.

The difference?

He goes deep. Most people go wide.

Here's what deep networking looks like:

1. You remember their problems, not just their job title

2. You solve something for them before asking for anything

3. You check in when you don't need something

Most professionals network like they're collecting LinkedIn connections.

High-influence people network like they're building a board of advisors.

Your network isn't your net worth.

Your depth is.

Who's one person you should go deeper with this week?

The harder you network, the less influential you look.

Coffee invites.
Cold messages.
Event small talk.

You’re doing all the right things — and still chasing momentum.

Here’s the hard truth: 

High-influence people don’t chase.

They generate pull.

And the difference isn’t luck.

It’s 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘵𝘺.

Most professionals make the same mistake.

They try to create relationships through pure effort.

Cold outreach.

Aggressive networking.

Forced conversations.

This approach burns you out and repels the exact people you want to connect with.

Here's what I've learned after coaching thousands of clients:

The most connected people focus on becoming someone others want to know.

They build value first.

They solve problems consistently.

They show up as experts in their field.

This creates social gravity. 

People get pulled into their orbit naturally.

Think about the professionals you seek out.

Do you chase them?

No. 

You find reasons to connect with them.

That's the power of social momentum.

Stop chasing. Start building.

35 of 36 students in our last XFA cohort said the same thing.

"I didn't realize building rapport was this simple."

They weren't doing anything complicated. Just 4 things most people skip:

Match their energy, not yours. If someone's thoughtful and measured, don't bring high energy. If they're animated, don't stay subdued. People trust others who feel familiar.

Use their exact words back to them. They say "frustrated with the process," you reference "the process" later. This isn't manipulation. You're speaking their language instead of making them translate yours.

Ask the second question. Everyone asks "How was your weekend?" Almost nobody asks "What made it great?" The first question is politeness. The second shows you're actually listening.

Remember small details they share. Their daughter's soccer tournament. The project they're stressed about. People remember who remembers them.

Those students reported back within days that conversations felt completely different.

People opened up faster. Meetings went smoother. They got responses to follow-ups they'd been chasing for weeks.

One student was surprised by how quickly it worked. "I thought rapport took time to build."

It does if you're trying to be charming. It doesn't if you're paying attention to someone else's world instead of performing in your own.

Which of these do you already do naturally?

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