The Dating App Founder | 8M members | Bootstrapped startup with a team of 50+ | Co-founder & COO of Inner Circle | Follow for insights on business, leadership and relationships

Co-founder of dating app Inner Circle — a global community where people with similar lifestyles meet. No games. No endless swiping. Just real people, genuinely worth dating.

Built from the ground up without external funding, Inner Circle now connects over 8 million people across the world, through shared lifestyles, intentional design and a belief that opposites don’t attract.

Currently every 4 seconds 2 people meet through Inner Circle.

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try the app with code MK2024 for a month of premium access.

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Looking for stars to join the team, check out the careers page: www.about.theinnercircle.co/careers. 

About me: 
I believe no strategy is better than its execution. 
My scope includes:
🏆 Hiring and developing winning teams 
✅ Alignment and execution driven by OKRs
🚀 Marketing that drives growth with ROI
🥾 Data to accelerate experiments that move the needle
🍸 Advisor and angel

In 2025, I stepped back into marketing as COO CMO. Content is the most powerful lever for any brand, so I started posting here to understand what makes it tick, share my learnings and lead my team better.

Michael Krayenhoff

Reminder for managers:

Your new hire’s failure is your failure.

One of the biggest mistakes companies make...
is not setting new hires up for success.

You can’t expect people to “hit the ground running”...
if you never put them in the race.

If they fail in their first 3 months,
it’s not their fault.
It’s yours.

Because great onboarding isn’t just a process.


It’s training.
It’s preparation.
It’s sharing knowledge.
It’s building relationships.
It’s learning what good looks like.

Managers don’t just hire talent...
they shape it.

Set people up to win,
and they’ll make your whole team stronger.

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People won’t remember what you said,

But they will remember how you treated them.

The best leaders don’t just manage tasks,

They connect with people.

And empathy is their most powerful tool.

✅ It’s how you earn trust.
✅ Diffuse conflict.
✅ Build loyalty.

And lead with heart, not ego.

Here are 15 Ways to Lead With Empathy:
(That Your Team Won’t Forget)

1/ Flex when life gets messy
↳ Be adaptable and offer options when life takes over.

2/ Listen to what isn’t being said
↳ Watch body language, mood shifts, and what’s left out.

3/ Make it safe to say “I don’t know”
↳ Reward curiosity and remove fear from learning.

4/ Stay steady when emotions run high
↳ Help to stabilize uncertainty and guide people back to the goal..

5/ Give people grace when they make mistakes
↳ Use errors as coaching moments, not moments for judgment.

6/ Ask “How can I support you?” and mean it
↳ Let them define what support looks like. Then step up.

7/ Lead with transparency in hard moments
↳ Share context honestly. Don’t leave people in the dark.

8/ Give feedback that grows, not shames
↳ Be direct, but kind. Critique behaviors, not people.

9/ Ask them how they’re really feeling
↳ Go beyond work and show you’re invested enough to listen.

10/ Listen without fixing or finishing
↳ Don’t rush to solve, but give people room to learn and grow.

11/ Support the person, not just the performer
↳ Check in when they struggle not just when they shine.

12/ Model positive boundaries and respect theirs
↳ Don’t glorify burnout, but lead with respect and boundaries..

13/ Make space for quieter voices
↳ Invite input early rather than letting the loudest dominate. 

14/ Act before they have to ask
↳ Anticipate needs and pay attention to signals.

15/ Praise progress, not just perfection
↳ Recognize the progress people make - not just the end result.

16/ Defend people when they’re not in the room
↳ Speak up when it counts. Loyalty is leadership.

17/ Speak to their potential, not just performance
↳ Reflect back the future you see in them regularly.

Let me know below 👇 

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Power moves get tasks done.
Care moves people forward.
That’s the real scoreboard of leadership.

But it’s also the part most leaders overlook.

They chase performance.
Defend their image.
Micromanage the process.

But legacy doesn’t live in your CV.
It lives in the people who have worked beside you.

Want to build the kind of leadership people remember?
Start with these 10: 

1/ Protect people’s energy
↳ Respect workload. Notice burnout. Make space to breathe.

2/ Listen with intent
↳ Not to fix. Not to reply. Just to truly understand.

3/ Notice quiet effort
↳ The loudest voice isn’t always the one carrying the weight.

4/ Remove the ego
↳ The team wins when credit is shared and blame is absorbed.

5/ Be the same person every day
↳ Stability builds trust. Emotional swings erode it.

6/ Give trust early
↳ Ownership starts when people feel believed in.

7/ Ask better questions
↳ Good leadership isn’t about answers, it’s about curiosity.

8/ Celebrate progress, not perfection
↳ Consistency matters more than flawless performance.

9/ Step in before things break
↳ Don’t wait for a mess to show leadership. Prevent it.

10/ Grow people quietly
↳ No micromanaging. No spotlight. Just steady belief and stretch.

Because in the end,

No one talks about your job title.
They talk about how they felt under your leadership.

Seen.
Safe.
Trusted.
Stretched.

That’s the legacy people carry.

Which one of these do you wish more leaders practiced?
Drop your thoughts below 👇

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Sun Screen IT Group - Ethical IT Asset Disposal & Registered Charity

www.SunScreenITFoundation.org - UK registered Charity 1182025 -  Deploying charitable donations of Ultra Thin Client solutions (hyper-efficient desktop computers) to Schools in areas of economic need and underprivileged communities. Inspired by a Ghanaian Headmaster and founded by an IT industry professional to combat toxic E-Waste, Sun Screen IT is revolutionising IT access, cost, and Education for underprivileged children in need; Improving their lives and inspiring micro-economies to build themselves out of poverty, permanently.  **Honoured to serve business and the Environment via our IT Asset Disposal Services with Centerprise International.

CEO & Founder

BMC Software

Area Director - Europe, Middle East, Africa - Enterprise Automation, AI, ML, & Optimisation for IBMz

EMEA Mainframe Solutions Sales Director

Head of Enterprise Data Management - UK & Benelux

Compuware

Cable & Wireless (Vodafone) & BT Group PLC

Global Account Director

Oracle

Interface, SDG, SCC, Esteem, Hamilton Rentals, Hire IT.

EMEA Distribution Account Director

Sun Microsystems

Partner Account Director

Partner Account Manager

University of Surrey

Vice-President Students' Union

Sound Marketing (SW) Ltd

Sales Executive & Recording Studio Producer

CEO & Founder of Sun Screen IT Group - funding charity donations of life-changing hyper efficient IT Labs to schools in areas of Economic need globally via Ethical ESG driven IT Asset Disposal services. www.SunScreenIT.com


Over 2 decades identifying & resolving complex customer need by delivering Business Outcomes. Roles in Sun Microsystems, Oracle, Compuware, & BMC - spanning EMEA & Global Accounts. 

As an EMEA Manager, and coaching the Global Team in BMC, the personal drivers, needs, and aspirations of my team are my number one priority - and we exceeded quota in every year by aligning those drivers to our actions in providing world class Business Outcomes for our customers.

I believe in having Heart; I believe that Adversity can be one of the greatest gifts, and that self-awareness, a high Emotional IQ, and having a genuine "cause" to work toward are the some of the finest attributes any person can aspire to; It is these that unite us, regardless of culture, background, gender, religion, or orientation.

My Team repeatedly exceed their Targets based on this philosophy combined with constant improvement & coaching on the fundamentals of MEDDIC, and a realistic Operating Rhythm for PG.

We don't stop learning - because Life doesn't stop teaching.... Going back to Basics regularly is essential.

For my 9 years at BMC, I’ve been an advocate of IBM Mainframe; and over 20 years I’ve specialised in Unix, zOS, Solaris, Databases, Mainframe, & Security, #AgileMainframe #MainframeDevOps Recovery, Performance, Capacity, & Cost Optimisation. 

Expertise in assisting my clients navigate & negotiate IBM Multl-year, Multi $ Million Contracts, MLC, OTC/VUE, TFP, Container, CBA, & ESSO/Topaz/Emerald Commercials.

Expertise in Outsourcing & Service Integrators - particularly IBM Mainframe Managed Service Provider best practices, & SIAM Core Competence modelling.

Delivering IT solutions which drive down Compliance Risk, improving Enterprises’ Ratings, and enabling competitive advantages.


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