Connector of Talent and Success 💼 | Empowering Businesses to Thrive through People | Culture Growth Strategist | Coach | Writer | HR leader | #1 LinkedIn Belgium | Top #150 LinkedIn 🌍

Who I help: Ambitious introverts and people-first companies

Problems: Visibility without burnout, quiet leadership, culture that enables deep work

Outcomes: Promotions, role transitions, retention, high-trust cultures

STRATEGIC HR LEADER AND COACH WITH HANDS-ON APPROACH AIMING FOR THE BEST EMPLOYEE/BUSINESS EXPERIENCE - INTROVERT ADVOCATE

International HR Executive passionate about the link between employee experience and business dynamics. Combining a strong focus on strategic thinking and planning with a structured and factual hands-on approach. A positive well connected team coach with a natural sense of empowering team members in a spirit of challenge, learning and mutual recognition. Sound decision making capabilities based on critical reflections within companies focusing on innovation, change, digital transformation and learning.

A. Group HR Director Alter Pharma (200 FTE - BE/IRL/US) – private equity backed firm defining & implementing HR strategy (from strategy to operations) including definition of mission/vision/strategy & values.
B. Global HR Business Partner BU Kerley international/Tessenderlo Group (+/-300 employees - 11 countries) developing/transforming key HR processes (talent resource planning, talent acquisition, performance management, competency management, learning, reward,..) - HR project lead new factory Rouen, France. 
C. Global HR Executive SWIFT (+/- 3.000 employees in +25 countries) transforming/coaching business and HR into new ways of (digital) working/thinking to improve the employee and business experience 
D. Global Head of Reward Tessenderlo Group (+/- 5.000 employees in +25 countries) - strategic development/transformation reward strategy
E. Development new holistic performance management framework for Tessenderlo Group, including full implementation recognition stream.
F. HR Project Manager : move of the Chiquita EME Headquarters from Belgium to Switzerland (social plan negotiations, c&b setup, recruitment, mobility, new policy/process design,...)

Professional coaching certification Better Minds at Work               2018 - 2019
Centre for Creative Leadership - senior leadership program           Q1-2 2018
Management Development Programme Vlerick (17 days)		  2010 - 2011
Strategic Compensation & Benefits Management, Vlerick 		  2007      
Master degree in Law&Taxation, Katholieke Universiteit Leuven    1997 - 1998

Steven Claes

My boss hired someone smarter than all of us.
Then said 9 words that rewired how I lead.

I watched it unfold 10 years ago.
Sarah brought in someone who outclassed us all.
Even her.

Half the team panicked.
My stomach dropped.
Was she replacing us?

She just smiled:
"Perfect. Now we can finally build something that matters."

That moment rewired everything.

As an introvert, I'd spent years:
• Pretending I had all the answers
• Hiding when I didn't understand
• Competing instead of collaborating

It was exhausting.
And it kept me small.

Ten years ago, I flipped the script.

My first hire: a tech genius I couldn't keep up with.
My second: a strategist who saw what I missed.
My third: an extrovert who connected where I couldn't.

Each hire bruised my ego.
Then made me unstoppable.

What nobody tells you:
Introverts make the best talent magnets.
We listen. We observe. We create space.
We don't need the spotlight.
We need the results.

The paradox is this:
The more brilliant people you bring in,
The more brilliant you become.

Not because you know more.
Because you build more.

Weak leaders want to be the smartest.
Strong leaders build the smartest room.

Your legacy isn't your brilliance.
It's how brilliant others became because of you.

When did you stop competing and start collaborating?

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They said I was too much.
Turns out they were too limited.

A brilliant CHRO told me recently: "Steven, I've spent 15 years toning down my opinions, holding back, pretending shallow conversations were enough when depth is all I've ever craved."

I understood immediately.

I've lived it too.

Softened my directness to seem "diplomatic."
Smoothed my edges to appear "approachable."
Pretended small talk satisfied me when I was hungry for real connection.

And I ended up feeling like an outsider.

Because I WAS an outsider in places where I'd shrunk myself just to belong.

The pond people have labeled me:

→ Too quiet (meaning: you're hard to read, and that unsettles me)
→ Too direct (meaning: you skip the performance, and I can't handle that)
→ Too intense (meaning: you make me think, and I'd rather not)
→ Too ambitious the "wrong way" (meaning: you chase impact, not just visibility)

But two decades as a CHRO taught me this: Every time you shrink yourself, you train people to expect less from you.

When you're constantly making yourself smaller:
→ You attract relationships that require you to stay small
→ You master the art of being less than you are
→ You construct a career that fits everyone but you

I once believed the introvert advantage meant networking like an extrovert. Speaking louder. Being more visible.

I was wrong.

The true advantage? Recognizing that your need for substance IS your value.

When I stopped apologizing for choosing depth over surface, everything shifted.

1️⃣ You stop dimming your light so others feel comfortable in their mediocrity.

2️⃣ You surround yourself with people who see your intensity as integrity.

3️⃣ You discover your tribe. The ones who view thoughtfulness as strength, not a flaw to fix.

The teams needing someone to navigate complexity? They relied on me.
The cultures hungry for authentic leadership? They found me.

But only because I showed up fully. Not the diluted version.

Not everyone can handle you at full strength.
That's not yours to fix.

The people meant for you? They'll swim out to meet you in deep water, even if it scares them.

The rest will stay on shore, insisting the ocean is "too much."

Let them.

If you're an ocean, stop shrinking yourself into a pond.

If you're built for depth, you don't have a career problem.
You have a boundary problem.

The moment you address that, everything transforms.

As 2026 starts: Which boundary will you finally protect in the year ahead?

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Years ago, I watched HR let someone go for being "too quiet."
I was once that quiet person too.

The official reasoning?
"Lacks energy."
"Not aligned with our culture."

But after twenty years leading teams, I've learned what genuine enthusiasm actually looks like:

Arrives prepared.
Delivers excellent work.
Communicates with clarity.
Elevates others.

That's what deserves recognition.

Yet too many organizations still reward:
• Volume over substance
• Reaction over reflection
• Perception over results

I've been in those performance conversations.
I've read the carefully worded feedback.
I've watched exceptional people walk away because they weren't loud enough.

Excellence doesn't require a spotlight.
Impact doesn't demand a stage.
Results outweigh small talk every time.

We get it wrong when we:
• Label quiet as a weakness
• Treat extroversion as the culture standard
• Mistake personality for capability

Genuine enthusiasm shows up as:
✓ Reliability
✓ Craftsmanship
✓ Steady presence
✓ Measurable impact

The strongest teams don't pick between energy and depth.
They embrace both.

They need you. Whether quiet or loud.

Stop penalizing quiet excellence.
Start tracking what actually matters.

As we step into 2026: What will you measure differently this year?

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They told me to fix my introversion.
I redesigned my environment instead.

As one year ends and another begins, this feels worth repeating:

We're introverts. Not broken. Just wired differently.

I spent two decades as a CHRO watching the same cycle repeat.
The loudest voices got attention while the deepest thinkers got overlooked.

Quick reactions earned praise. Thoughtful strategies got buried in the noise.

That's when it clicked.

We don't compete on volume. We compete on depth.

We form fewer bonds but stronger ones.
Not because we struggle to connect widely, but because we choose connection intentionally.

We restore in stillness.
We discover power in pause.

This isn't weakness. It's strategy.

We're not hiding or hesitant.
We're preserving our energy for what truly matters.

The data confirms what we've always sensed:

• Introverted leaders achieve significantly higher team retention because we listen more than we speak
• We excel in complex problem-solving because we reflect before we act
• Our deep work generates far more innovation because we prioritize substance over speed

Depth outperforms width. Always.

What I want you to understand:

➡️ Your need for constant stimulation isn't our burden.
➡️ Your discomfort with silence isn't our crisis.
➡️ And your definition of success isn't our roadmap.

If we let you in, you've earned it.

Not through persistence or pressure,
but through respect.
Through substance.
Through recognizing that our boundaries aren't walls. They're filters.

➡️ We're not antisocial. We're selectively social.
➡️ We're not slow. We're thorough.
➡️ We're not cold. We're intentional.

In a world drowning in noise, that's not a limitation.

That's an edge.

Stop trying to fix us. We were never broken.

As you step into 2026: What boundary will you protect to honor your energy this year?

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She outperformed everyone on her team.
They fired her anyway.

The reason?
"Lacks enthusiasm."

I've been labeled the same.
Quiet. Consistent. Easy to overlook.

After 20 years in leadership, I've decoded what "lacks enthusiasm" really means:

You don't perform your passion.
You just deliver excellence.

Real enthusiasm looks like:
• Showing up consistently
• Delivering work that matters
• Communicating with clarity
• Supporting without fanfare

Companies say they want this.

Then they promote:
• Volume over value
• Speed over strategy
• Visibility over results

I've watched talented introverts pushed out.
Not for missing deadlines. For missing happy hours.
Not for poor performance. For performing quietly.

The coded feedback always sounds reasonable:
"Needs more executive presence."
"Could be more vocal in meetings."
"Should network more actively."

Translation: Be someone else.

Truth is:
Excellence doesn't need to shout.
Impact doesn't chase attention.
Consistency beats charisma.

We lose our best people when we:
• Mislabel quiet as disengaged
• Require extroversion for advancement
• Confuse personality with contribution

Real engagement shows up in:
✓ The bugs you prevent that nobody notices
✓ The systems that run smoothly because of you
✓ The depth of your thinking
✓ The crisis you prevented in silence

Your quiet colleague who ships exceptional work every week?
More engaged than the one dominating every meeting.

The introvert who sends thoughtful follow-ups?
More useful than the one working the room.

Smart companies are catching on.
They measure contribution, not volume.
They value depth over performance.
They recognize different styles of excellence.

Still waiting for yours to catch up?

Your quiet strengths aren't the problem.
The system that can't see them is.

Don't shrink. Don't apologize. Don't fake enthusiasm you don't feel.

Real work doesn't need applause.
It needs respect.

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"Don't fall in love with success. Fall in love with the habits that bring success."

That would've saved me years.

Twenty years ago, I was the ambitious introvert.
Crushing tasks. Exceeding targets. Getting nowhere.

Then my mentor pulled me aside.
"You're winning battles. But you're losing the war."

I was working harder than anyone else in the room.
But I was still invisible.

Success is borrowed. Habits are owned.

The project you deliver? That's success.
The deep work that made it brilliant? That's a habit.

The recognition you earn? Success.
The daily rituals that keep you going? Habit.

Chase success without habits, and you're building a career on sand.
Build the right habits, and success has no choice but to follow.

Quiet leaders who last do not fall in love with the spotlight.
They fall in love with:

⏰ Morning routines that protect their energy
🚫 Calendar blocks that make space for focused work
🤔 Time for reflection that sharpens judgment
📚 Reading habits that widen perspective
🛡️Boundaries that preserve their sanity

Promotions can be delayed.
Bonuses can be cut.
Recognition can be missed.

But habits?
They compound.
They decide who you become.

The introvert's edge isn't volume.
It's systems that keep working when the noise fades.
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Networking like an extrovert nearly cost me everything.

More events.
More coffee chats.
More small talk with people I'd never see again.

I thought more connections meant more opportunities.

I was wrong.

What I actually built was exhaustion.
And a contact list full of people I barely remembered.

When I finally dropped that belief, everything changed.

I stopped chasing quantity.
Started protecting my energy.
Invested in fewer people, went way deeper with each one.

The networking events I skipped?
Cost me nothing.

The shallow connections I let go?
Made room for the ones I actually need.

After 20 years as a CHRO, I've watched too many introverts burn out trying to play the extrovert game.

The ones who thrive?

They stop forcing what drains them.
They build their network around how they actually work best.

This weekend, try this:

→ Text one person who genuinely energises you. No agenda. Just checking in.
→ Say no to one thing you were going to push yourself through.
→ Spend 10 minutes in stillness. Introverts don't recharge in crowds. They recharge in quiet.

Letting go of the wrong approach is not giving up.
It's making space for the right one.

What's one thing you're letting go of this weekend?

💚 Happy Friday, friends.

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The fastest way to lose your best people?
Oversee every decision they make.

You didn't bring in talented minds to monitor them.
You brought them in to lead, solve, and deliver.

But the moment trust disappears:
→ Motivation drops
→ Creativity freezes
→ They quietly start exploring options

🚨 Micromanagement damages more than output.

It corrodes culture from the inside.

What it actually does to your team:

• Drives your strongest performers toward the exit
• Creates resentment simmering under the surface
• Shuts down creativity before it starts
• Produces stress, then exhaustion
• Delays every single decision
• Swaps clarity for anxiety
• Fractures trust
• Kills loyalty
• Breeds fear

Now flip the approach.

When you choose trust over control:

✅ Energy rises
✅ Ideas start flowing
✅ Teams gain momentum
✅ Ownership begins to multiply
✅ Your culture becomes a magnet for talent
✅ Collaboration happens naturally and consistently

Great leadership isn't about oversight.
It's about belief.

Hire well.
Point the direction.
Then get out of the way.

As we head into 2026, a reflection worth carrying into the new year.

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Stop trying to fix introverts.

In 20 years as an HR leader, I’ve seen companies burn millions trying to turn quiet leaders into loud ones.

It doesn’t work. It pushes your best people out the door.

What introverts need is not what most managers think.

⬇️ Swipe through to see the difference.

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What Workplaces Think Introverts Need (vs What We Need)

Burnout isn't about workload.
It's about performance.
And I don't mean your results.

—

A VP I worked with nearly quit.
Not because the job was too much.
But because the performance was.

She wasn't lazy.
She wasn't weak.
She was exhausted from being "on" all day.

That's not personality mismatch.
That's culture misfit.

Cambridge research confirms it:
Introverts who act extroverted to succeed
Pay for it with their well-being.

The painful twist?
It works.
They get promoted faster.
But the cost is massive.

You don't have to choose between success and sanity.

Five ways to protect your energy without sacrificing your career:

1. 𝗦𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱𝘂𝗹𝗲 𝘀𝗼𝗹𝗼 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗮 𝗺𝗲𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴
→ Block a 1h slot daily as "Strategic Work"
→ No one questions strategy time
→ Use it to reset, not just to work

—

2. 𝗗𝗲𝗰𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗺𝗲𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻
You don't win by being everywhere
You win by being essential
→ Choose 3 high-leverage meetings
→ Send notes for the rest
→ Stay visible without being present

—

3. 𝗦𝗲𝘁 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝘆 𝗯𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺
Extroversion has a shelf life
→ Leave events at 80%, not zero
→ Walk for 5 minutes after calls
→ Say "I need to think on this" instead of answering fast

—

4. 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝘂𝗹𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗿𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗹𝘆
If success requires acting
The system (and not you) is broken
→ Propose async updates
→ Document your wins
→ Let results speak louder than airtime

—

5. 𝗙𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗼𝗰𝗸𝗲𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝘂𝗿𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲
People with side projects report 30% higher well-being
→ Start the newsletter
→ Mentor someone who gets it
→ Build where depth beats volume

—

That VP?
She pitched a hybrid analyst role to her boss
Less client meetings, more strategic thinking
Same title, new structure

Six months later, promoted to SVP
Not for pretending
But for being seen doing what she does best

Her biggest energy leak? Weekly stand-ups.
Now she sends a Monday update instead.

You don't need to act to advance
You need systems that help you last

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Kind leaders aren't weak.
They're strategic.

After 20+ years in HR, here's what the data actually shows about leading with kindness. And where most leaders miss the mark.

1. Balanced Care
✅ Caring for yourself to better care for others
❌ Self-sacrificing until you're drained
→ Well-rested leaders build teams with far less burnout.

2. Presence
✅ Creating safety through focused attention
❌ Avoiding hard conversations to stay "nice"
→ When people feel seen, oxytocin rises. Trust rewires.

3. Smart Support
✅ Challenging people to grow
❌ Solving their problems for them
→ Support without stretch weakens resilience on both sides.

4. Real Understanding
✅ Leading through shared experience
❌ Preaching from a pedestal
→ Empathy builds trust at a neurological level.

5. True Giving
✅ Acting from genuine generosity
❌ Helping out of guilt or pressure
→ Authentic kindness creates far deeper engagement than obligation.

6. Energy Boundaries
✅ Saying no to protect your yes
❌ Burning out through constant availability
→ Clear limits amplify leadership effectiveness.

7. Simple Truths
✅ Building trust through small, daily actions
❌ Relying on big gestures to fix gaps
→ Consistency compounds into culture.

8. Brain Chemistry
✅ Driving positive reactions through follow-through
❌ Using "kind" words without action
→ Kindness reshapes stress, performance, and trust.

The bottom line:
Kindness isn't softness.
It's a performance multiplier.

Which one made you rethink how you lead?

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Introverts don't need fixing.
Your workplace culture does.

For 20 years, I watched companies try to "improve" their introverted employees.

They sent them to presentation skills workshops.
They placed them in open office layouts.
They nudged them toward noisy networking events.

But they missed what really needed changing.

Meeting norms that reward the loudest voice.
Brainstorms that drown out deep thinkers.
"Collaboration" that looks more like constant interruption.

When I was 32, a VP pulled me aside.
"You're too quiet. That'll hurt your career."

So I tried to become louder.
More visible.
More like everyone else.

Eventually I realized something important.

I wasn't the problem.
The environment was.

Today I'm a CHRO.
Still quiet.
Still thriving.

Not because I changed who I am,
but because I focused on changing the system.

If you're doing this:
❌ Telling introverts to speak up more
❌ Requiring constant collaboration
❌ Assuming quiet means disengaged
❌ Defining culture through happy hours
❌ Rewarding visibility over value

Try this instead:
✅ Send agendas in advance so they can prepare
✅ Start meetings with quiet time for written input
✅ Offer multiple ways to contribute, not just talking
✅ Create quiet zones for focused work
✅ Recognize the impact, not just who talks the most

The most innovative companies don't try to fix introverts.
They build environments where introverts can shine.

Quiet-friendly cultures boost productivity.
Written brainstorming surfaces better ideas.
And your next big idea might be sitting silently in the corner.

The companies losing top talent right now?
They're still trying to make introverts louder.

The ones winning?
They're creating spaces where every style can thrive.

If someone seems too quiet,
maybe the system is too noisy.

Stop trying to change them.
Start changing what's actually not working.

Because a culture that works for introverts
works better for everyone.

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Introverts aren't broken.
They're built differently.

This isn't opinion.
It's neuroscience.

Swipe through the data:
10 slides. 1 perspective shift. 👇

What resonates most?

Mine is Slide 5.
(The leadership stat changed everything for me.)

What's yours?

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Your Brain On Introvert Mode (the shocking truth)

Burnout isn't about working too hard.
It's about pretending too much.

For introverts, the real crisis is not the workload.
It's performing extroversion 40 hours a week.

7 signs you're burning out from the performance:

1️⃣ Hiding in your car between meetings. 
→ This is not odd. It's survival mode.

2️⃣ "I'm fine!" when you're clearly not. 
→ The mask stays on. Always.

3️⃣ Your best work happens after everyone leaves. 
→ Because finally, you can stop performing.

4️⃣ Sunday night dread about people, not tasks. 
→ Your nervous system already knows what Monday brings.

5️⃣ Social battery dies by Tuesday. 
→ You're not weak. You're drained from acting all day.

6️⃣ Calls drain you more than the actual work. 
→ It's not the content. It's the constant "on" that kills you.

7️⃣ Recovery takes the whole weekend. 
→ Two days to recover from five is not a sustainable equation.

After 20 years in HR, I've watched this pattern destroy talented people.
Not because they weren't strong.
Because they were never given permission to stop pretending.

What helps (for you):
→ Block 10 minutes between meetings. Non-negotiable.
→ Replace one call with async. Protect your voice.
→ Batch high-contact tasks on specific days. Guard one deep-work block.
→ Stop apologizing for needing quiet to think.

What workplaces need to change:
→ Create meeting-free blocks for real work.
→ Default one weekly update to async instead of live.
→ Train managers to lead introverts: advance agendas, written input options.
→ Design offices with actual quiet spaces, not just open-plan buzz.

Your energy is real.
Your limits are legitimate.
Your need for space is not weakness.
It's wiring.

Which sign hit closest to home?

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I'm a CHRO at a public company.
I'm also an introvert - and lots of people think that's impossible.

But after 20 years in the C-suite, I've learned something most leadership books miss:

Introversion isn't one thing.
It's four.

And most of us are a blend of them.

That mix? It gives you advantages most leadership advice never talks about.

Swipe to find your type.⏩
And the edge that comes with it.

Here's what the best leaders figured out:
They don't try to become extroverts.

They protect their energy like CEOs protect capital.

This framework changed how I lead.
Not just my introverted team members, but the extroverted ones too.

Why?

Because once you understand someone's type, you understand what fuels them.
And when you respect that fuel, you get their best work.

Simple as that.

Which type gave you a new lens on someone you lead?

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You're Not Just 'An Introvert' (Most Advice Is Wrong)

The loudest person in your meeting just killed your best idea.
Not on purpose. They simply spoke first.

For 20 years as CHRO, I watched brilliant introverts stay silent because the conversation moved too fast. 

By the time they processed the question, three extroverts had already answered it. We were only getting 20% of the room's intelligence.

The solution is counterintuitive.
Start every meeting in silence.

I call it the Write-First Rule.

Here is what happens:

You pose a question, then everyone writes their answer before anyone speaks.

No groupthink.
No anchoring to the first idea.
No performance pressure.

The result? 42% more original ideas in rooms where we tested this.

I break down the exact 4-step protocol and why it works in the carousel below. 👇

Swipe to see the method

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The Loudest Person In Your Meeting Killed Your Best Idea

My manager and I were both right. That was the problem.

For two years, it felt like constant friction.

I thought he was shutting me down.
He thought I was being difficult.

Same situation. Different sides of it.

As an introvert, I'd come to every meeting overprepared.
Arguments rehearsed in my head.
Draining myself trying to be heard.

I didn't need louder words.
I needed a different question.

Help me see what you're seeing.

Those seven words changed my career.

I was protecting the project.
He was protecting the people.

Same end. Different direction.

That conflict wasn't toxic.
It was just incomplete.

I stopped needing to win.
I started wanting to understand.

Twenty years in HR, I learned something.
You don't need to be right to move forward.
You need to be willing to see the other side.

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Stop forcing yourself to be "on" all day.

Your boss sees quiet.
Your close team sees hilarious.

Your network sees reserved.
Your best friend? Sees you acting like an extrovert.

And here's the thing.
Everyone holds a different version of you.
That is not broken. That is strategic.

➡️ When you are around people who give you energy, you show up fully. 
➡️ When you are around strangers or high-stakes rooms, your battery drains faster than you'd like.

This is not two people.
This is one person with limited energy making intentional choices about where to spend it.

Most introverts sabotage themselves trying to be the same everywhere.

So they either:
➡️ Exhaust themselves performing for everyone
➡️ Hide completely and wonder why nobody knows what they can do

Here is the breakthrough:

➡️ Stop trying to be consistent.
➡️ Start being intentional.

You are not broken because you go quiet at a conference.
➠ You are smart because you know the return on your energy investment.

You are not unfriendly because you skip happy hour.
➠ You are protecting your ability to show up fully in the meetings that actually matter.

You do not need to be the same version in every room.
You need to decide which rooms deserve your full energy.

What is one event or meeting you are going to skip this week, guilt-free?

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Quiet leaders rarely get the spotlight.
But research from Harvard shows they lift team performance by 28% when their people take initiative.

As an introverted CHRO, I've witnessed what calm, focused leadership can achieve.

🔴 When introverts feel forced to act loud:
❌ Chasing visibility over substance
❌ Rushing decisions to appear confident
❌ Talking more, absorbing less
❌ Building wide networks without real connection
❌ Reacting quickly and missing the deeper point
❌ Filling silence because it feels uncomfortable
❌ Offering fast answers to seem sharp
❌ Prioritizing attention over understanding
❌ Overlooking signals from the team
❌ Burning out from playing a character

The cost adds up.
Leaders lose their sharpness.
Innovation stalls.
Morale fades.

That's not leadership. That's performance.

🟢 When introverts lead on their own terms:
✅ Staying grounded and leading with presence
✅ Deciding with clarity, not speed
✅ Listening before responding
✅ Cultivating deep trust
✅ Thinking first, acting second
✅ Leveraging silence strategically
✅ Making room for others to contribute
✅ Catching what others miss
✅ Remaining steady when pressure rises

This approach works.
Teams flourish.
Voices emerge.
Outcomes improve.

Extroverts bring momentum.
Introverts bring depth.
Both are essential.
But quiet leadership still gets undervalued.

I've led this way for two decades.
It works because it's real.

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We promote the loudest voice.
Then wonder why teams burn out.

I've spent 20 years in leadership.
And I've watched brilliant introverts get overlooked again and again.

They didn't fall short.
They quietly pulled ahead.

Harvard and Wharton research tells us something most companies ignore. Introverted leaders drive:
➜ 28% higher productivity
➜ 84% more engagement
➜ 50% lower turnover

So why do we still mistake quiet for weak?

Because we've built systems that reward volume over value.
Visibility over results.
Performance over substance.

This carousel breaks down:
➜ What the data really says
➜ Why introverts make elite leaders
➜ How to lead with quiet confidence

The quiet ones in your meeting today?

They're not disengaged.
They're processing at a level most leaders never reach.

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Your Team Thinks Quiet Means Weak (The Data Disagrees)

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Your people are the X-factor. We develop leaders at all levels.
- Consulting
- Leadership Development (The Leadership Academy)
- Executive Coaching
- Strategic and Consultative Selling Training
- International Speaker - conferences & kick-off meetings


The Leadership Academy is one of the services we offer to organizations to help develop leaders. Our unique approach to developing your employee's leadership capabilities tap your people's infinite potential and align their talents to achieve results for your clients in a collaborative manner. 

RESULTS:
+ Improve morale
+ Increase productivity 
+ Eliminate "quiet quitting"
+ Win and keep clients/customers for life
+ Allow Human Resources to be coaches not referees

email joe@josephbmurphy.com 
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CEO/Managing Director

Maximus

Maximus is a 40,000+ person, $5B company (NYSE: MMS) providing solutions and services  to governments around the world. 
- LEADERSHIP ACADEMY - helping develop the next generation of leaders at Maximus
- Situational Leadership II certified, Franklin-Covey leadership training programs facilitator

Vice President - Human Services

CDI Corporation

$1B IT Services and Workforce Staffing firm for IT, management, and consulting  staff.
- Managed Southeast Region Business Development team to drive IT related business outcomes.

Director - Southeast Regional Offices

Government Services firm providing BPO Solutions, Software, and Consulting Services.
- Led US-based sales organization

Vice President of US Sales Organization

CTG - Computer Task Group

$400M IT Services firm; reported to the CEO; served as a Corporate Officer.
- Led US IT Solutions Business Unit 
- Provided IT alignment to business consulting, application development and QA services

Senior Vice President & General Manager; Corporate Officer

Sapient

- Led Application Outsourcing 2X revenues in a multi-shore model. 
- Provided IT strategy consulting services, IT governance, app dev and app management.

Vice President - Global Outsourcing

NTT Ltd. / Keane  Inc.

Keane Inc., a $1B firm, was purchased by NTT. 
- P&L Management, Sales, and Delivery to Gov't & Fortune 1000 clients
- App Dev, Outsourcing, SEI CMM, IT strategy & consulting

Managing Director

Unisys

$5B IT Services  Corporation: IT Services, Systems Integration, and Consulting. 
- P&L Management; Sales Leadership -
- Multiple President's Clubs

Director of Sales and Marketing - State & Local Government

We eliminate quiet quitting and improve productivity, driving organizational performance. 

People are your X-Factor. In multiple 90-minute facilitated sessions we inspire and show employees how to tap their infinite potential. 

By facilitating leadership development sessions we help organizations create "Leaders at All Levels."

Today, like never before, employees want to be inspired by leaders. No one comes to work to be mediocre. Yet, according to Gallup, employee engagement is at an all-time low.

✔Gallup reports only 30% of employees are engaged in their work and workplace

✔Through our leadership sessions our clients have a 78% - 83% engagement rate, up from 60%. 

✔ “Everyone in my HR team attends these meetings and it's changing our entire culture,” stated an HR Manager/client.

✔Our expertise lies in changing the mindset of employees and giving people an opportunity to grow and develop their potential. The result of which is:

* a collaborative workforce aligned to strategic initiatives,
* reinforcement of organizational values,
* streamlined communications,
* greater levels of accountability,
* higher levels of trust,
* people committed to results and the success of each other

Our results-oriented, consultative approach allows us to customize our workshops and leadership sessions to the needs of each client through the lens of “Leaders at All Levels.” This approach builds a synergistic partnership that drives performance and aligns with your organization’s unique goals and culture.

For more information:
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Joe Murphy

Unplugging for Christmas in Miami—recharging for 2026 leadership sprints.

Back Jan 6 with frontline results that drive revenue.

Your partner in success,  
Joe Murphy

#Leadership #MerryChristmas

CEO crossXcurrent | Creating Leaders At All Levels | The Leadership Academy | 6x Author 👉 The X-Factor - Become a Force Multiplier

Managers read yesterday's reports. 

Leaders shape tomorrow's results on the frontline. 

Know the difference. 

Your partner in success, Joe Murphy

#FrontlineLeadership #CEOInsights #LeadersAtAllLevels

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𝐃𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐂𝐄𝐎: Is your AI strategy truly aligned with your strategic business imperatives?

If your answer is “𝘐’𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦” or “𝘯𝘰,” stop the projects. Stop wasting valuable resources—your time, your energy, and your attention.

This may sound obvious. Yet you’d be surprised how many organizations I’ve talked to have completely broken this rule.

I created the 3-minute video below for CEOs and C-Level Executives because of what I’m seeing happen across multiple organizations right now in AI strategy and implementation.

More often than not, there are pockets within the organization where people are hesitant to commit—straddling the fence by “piloting” AI projects or, worse, launching small, interesting initiatives that neither drive revenue nor reduce costs. These efforts might feel innovative but they aren’t strategic.

Here’s what’s also being missed: organizations are not developing their people in leadership skills and capabilities. That’s a huge mistake.

When it comes to people and AI, the most critical investment you can make is continuing to build leadership capability at all levels.

And yes—this is an area I’m deeply passionate about. M𝐲 90-𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐭𝐞 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐒𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐂𝐄𝐎𝐬. It’s fast, focused, and delivers measurable results.

If you’d like to learn more, DM me.

Your partner in success,

Joe Murphy

#LeadersAtAllLevels #AILeadership #MeasurableBusinessResults #MBR's

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈𝐬 𝐄𝐱𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞, 𝐄𝐱𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐥𝐲?

Everyone talks about executive presence, but very few people can explain what it actually looks like on a Tuesday afternoon in a real meeting.

𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐈𝐓 𝐈𝐒𝐍’𝐓
Executive presence is not about title, years of experience, or having the loudest voice in the room.

It is not about acting like someone else or playing a part that doesn’t fit who you are.

𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐈𝐓 𝐈𝐒
Executive presence is the ability to stay calm under pressure, make clear decisions, and communicate your experience and expertise in a way that gives people confidence to follow you.

In essence, it is how you come across to others—your ability to express yourself authentically, as who you are.

𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐍𝐃𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐖𝐀𝐘?
The mistake many organizations make is treating executive presence as something “some people just naturally have.”

When that happens, it becomes a vague, biased label instead of a concrete, coachable skill set.

𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐀𝐍𝐘𝐎𝐍𝐄 𝐃𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐋𝐎𝐏 𝐈𝐓?
Yes. I have trained many up‑and‑coming executives on how to develop their executive presence by working on three areas—and I can do the same for your organization.

It boils down to:

1. How you think

2. How you show up

3. How you communicate your expertise and experience

When leaders at every level build these muscles, meetings are focused to drive results, decisions improve, and teams feel inspired and more grounded.

As you watch this short video, think about one situation this week where you want to show up with stronger executive presence.

What is one small behavior you can change today that would help people experience you as a steadier, clearer, more intentional leader who has the wherewithal to accomplish the objective?

Your partner in success—Joe Murphy

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CHROs and CEOs: Use this practical checklist to spot exceptional leaders who deliver under pressure—not just shine on paper. But they also must create leaders at all levels. It starts with identifying raw talent and nurturing it.

Click the image to read further and get the leadership pipeline checklist.

CHROs and CEOs already know the promotion pipeline problem: too many "potential leaders" who look good on paper but fizzle under real pressure. Here’s

Open article: WHO ARE THE EXCEPTIONAL LEADERS IN YOUR ORGANIZATION?  by Joe Murphy • 2 min read

WHO ARE THE EXCEPTIONAL LEADERS IN YOUR ORGANIZATION?

𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐅𝐮𝐞𝐥𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐍𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐄𝐱𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞

CHROs and CEOs: Confidence without competence is just arrogance wearing a suit. Watch this to see why real executive presence starts with knowing your craft cold.

There are two problems:
1️⃣  Many executives think they can fake confidence and they come across as an empty vessel—a fraud. 
2️⃣ Most executives don't know how to 𝐒𝐇𝐎𝐖 their competence without seeming arrogant

𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐄𝐗𝐄𝐂𝐔𝐓𝐈𝐕𝐄 𝐏𝐑𝐄𝐒𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐄 𝐈𝐒𝐍'𝐓:
↳ Arrogance disguised as leadership—dominating rooms without delivering results.
↳ Dismissive of others' ideas because ego trumps evidence.
↳ Overpromising while underdelivering, leaving teams skeptical.

𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐄𝐗𝐄𝐂𝐔𝐓𝐈𝐕𝐄 𝐏𝐑𝐄𝐒𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐄 𝐈𝐒:
↳ Competence that commands respect naturally.
↳ Clarity under pressure because you've done the work.
↳ Confidence rooted in results, not bravado.

𝐖𝐇𝐘 𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐏𝐄𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐄 𝐂𝐎𝐔𝐍𝐓𝐒:
↳ Without skill foundation, "confidence" repels talent and erodes trust.
↳ Competent leaders attract high-caliber teams who say, "I'd follow them anywhere."
↳ Arrogance creates fear; competence creates loyalty.

The 90-minute sprint fix: We build both competence AND presence simultaneously for leaders at all levels. CHROs: DM me to see how Fortune 1000 teams scale this fast.

Your partner in success—Joe Murphy

#ExecutivePresence #LeadershipDevelopment #LeadersAtAllLevels

Bringing this to the top of your executive inbox.

Dear CHROs and CEOs,

Are your leaders — at every level — demonstrating true executive presence?

I work with Fortune 1000 companies to develop the next layer of leadership that not only supports your strategy and vision but drives real results.

Bringing this message to CEO's back up to the top of the pile. 

It is my sincere hope that this message is something you can use today in your AI strategyand execution

Your partner in success, Joe Murphy

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