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Here’s something I’ve never said on LinkedIn: There was a point when I almost signed up for one of those “Become a Trauma Coach in 3 Weeks” programs. I was burned out. Disillusioned. Searching for purpose after leaving corporate. Helping others sounded noble. It also sounded like a great distraction from my own grief. In hindsight? I was in flight mode. I wanted to escape my pain by holding space for others. Wanted to avoid my own nervous system dysregulation by focusing on fixing someone else’s. That moment taught me a hard truth: The desire to coach isn’t always a calling. Sometimes, it’s a coping mechanism. And in a world full of wellness commodification and shortcut certifications  - That’s dangerous. Because when you hold someone’s trauma without holding your own healing, you don’t create safety. You create harm. This is why my training took 12+ years.  This is why I still have supervision. This is why I will never sell healing as a fast-track path to success. Coaching is sacred work. Let’s stop turning it into a crash escape course.

Western therapists told my client her family dynamics were "codependent." But through a collective cultural lens? She was fulfilling deeply held values of family care and multigenerational responsibility. ⚠️ This is why generic help often fails South Asian women. It ignores the cultural context that shapes our very biology. When you're navigating: 🔄 The immigrant time warp (not "Indian enough" or "American enough") 🔄 Complex family structures with intricate power dynamics 🔄 Partnerships that bridge cultural paradigms 🔄 Career success alongside generational expectations Your nervous system carries these nuances in every cell. ✨ One client described her first session with me: "For once, I didn't have to explain the basics of my family structure or translate my experience. You already got it." "I could finally focus on healing." This is why surface-level approaches like: ❌ Generic breathing techniques ❌ Standard meditation practices ❌ Cookie-cutter "regulation" exercises Often leave you feeling: • Frustrated that "it's not working" • Guilty that you "can't get it right" • Confused about why others seem to benefit 💫 True nervous system work must honor: → How collectivist values shape your sense of safety → The way immigration patterns live in your body → How your ancestors' experiences influence your regulation → The specific cultural contexts of your developmental experiences This isn't just about cultural sensitivity. It's about physiological accuracy. Your nervous system developed within a specific cultural context. Your healing must acknowledge this reality. 💌 If you've tried generic approaches without success and want support that honors your cultural experience, DM me "CULTURE" and I'll share more about my culturally-informed approach to nervous system regulation.

Your resume is impressive. Senior tech leader. Multiple promotions. Industry recognition. But inside, there's a voice that never stops whispering: "You still haven't done enough." ⚡ For many South Asian women who've excelled professionally, this isn't just perfectionism. It's a trauma response. The "fawn" response drives you to: → Over-prepare for every meeting → Say yes to impossible deadlines → Pour yourself into work to prove your worth → Ignore your body's signals for rest I see this pattern repeatedly in my clients. Brilliant women whose professional success masks deep nervous system dysregulation. 🔍 The pattern often begins early: • Being compared to siblings or cousins • Feeling your worth was tied to achievements • Learning that accomplishments brought temporary safety • Experiencing cultural pressure to "represent" your community You learned that academic perfection and career advancement weren't optional. They were survival requirements. This pattern is reinforced when: 💼 Your immigration status ties to your job 💼 Your family sacrificed for your education 💼 Your identity becomes fused with your career Your nervous system gets locked in a state where achievements provide momentary relief rather than lasting joy. ✨ But there's another way. When we rewire these patterns at the nervous system level, you can: • Feel fulfilled by accomplishments rather than temporarily relieved • Set boundaries without catastrophizing • Rest without guilt • Be present with your family without distraction The most courageous high-achievers I know aren't the ones who keep pushing harder. They're the ones who recognize their drive is sometimes a survival mechanism — and choose to heal. 💌 If this resonates, let's talk. https://lnkd.in/gMeikjDq

Are you "trauma-informed ?" You can get a certificate that says "CERTIFICATION in Trauma-Informed Coaching & Counseling" on Udemy for 5 dollars. Yes it's scary. To truly support your teams and clients where they need to be met ? It is  a serious commitment that takes years of specialized training. Life's work. ✨ A real story from last week ✨ A client came to me after working with a coach had a "trauma informed" certificate by a reputed certifier. This coach learned her skills from watching videos online and some online group "mentorship" and zero hours of personal work. She attempted a "body movement sequence" with my client. Except this coach had no idea my client's body was about to collapse. The coach pushed forward anyway. She lacked proper training. The result? My client collapsed into a deep functional freeze state that lasted for MONTHS. She quit the coaching relationship immediately. Her body KNEW it wasn't safe. It took her months of research to understand what happened wasn't her "fault." 🚨 This is why I get frustrated seeing coaches casually add "trauma-informed" to their profiles with zero personal nervous system work. Zero hours doing anything personal. Real trauma work requires: → Multiple  years of training → Thousands of clinical hours + personal work → Ongoing supervision → Constant learning from mentors → Understanding when to NOT use techniques and when to refer on (ethics) There's no shortcut. No magic course. No ChatGPT prompt. Deep thinking, deep feeling bodies with dysregulated nervous systems need practitioners who understand both cultural nuances AND trauma. ⚡ When you work with someone, ask about: • Their specific training • Their supervision • Their mentors Your nervous system deserves that level of care. 💌 If you'd like to know more about finding ethical trauma support, DM me the word "CARE" and I'll share some questions you can ask potential practitioners.

Children don't just inherit our genes.They inherit our nervous system patterns. ✨ A client — senior tech leader, outwardly composed — found herself shouting at her 7-year-old for a small mistake. The intensity of her reaction shocked her. "This isn't me," she said through tears. "I promised I'd never parent this way." But her nervous system had different plans. ⚡ Parenthood often triggers our deepest developmental patterns: → The critical voice of your father emerges when your child struggles academically → Your mother's anxious hovering resurfaces when your child takes risks → The emotional unavailability you experienced shows up when your child needs connection For South Asian women juggling careers and motherhood, these patterns become even more complex when layered with: 📌 Cultural expectations around "good parenting" 📌 Immigrant parent guilt about giving children "both worlds" 📌 Professional perfectionism that spills into family life 📌 Limited models for working parenthood  in previous generations Your intellectual understanding of gentle parenting or conscious discipline can't override your nervous system's hardwired responses. 🔍 When your child's behavior triggers your system, you're not responding to the present moment. You're reacting to your past. This is why: • You can read every parenting book • Attend every workshop • Make elaborate plans • Set firm intentions And still find yourself reacting in ways that don't align with your values. 💫 Real change happens when we address the nervous system patterns driving these reactions. When we create safety in your body, you can: • Respond rather than react • Set boundaries without shame • Connect authentically with your children • Parent from your values, not your wounds Healing your nervous system might be the most powerful gift you give your children. 💌 If you've found yourself reacting to your children in ways that don't align with your values let's talk - https://lnkd.in/gMeikjDq

"We'd love to have you speak about your heritage... for free." 📬 AAPI Heritage Month = inbox flooded with corporate speaking requests 💡 My work: "South Asian Somatics: Four Forces One Body" • Explores how patriarchy, immigration, attachment & feminism impact South Asian women's nervous system • Has helped hundreds break free from survival mode 🤔 I'm genuinely curious: • How do YOU handle "speak for exposure" requests? • When is visibility valuable vs. when should expertise be paid? • Event organizers: What's your compensation policy for heritage month speakers? II'll go first : I weigh each opportunity differently, but wonder: Does accepting unpaid work undermine our collective value? Your thoughts? ⬇️ #AAPIHeritageMonth #southasiansomatics

Had the chance to sit down with the amazing Ashley Blackington OTD, OTR/L and talk. Unscripted, raw. Drops Friday.

I used to be addicted to “the work” Personal growth became my second job. → I had a shelf full of self-help books → Subscribed to every healing podcast → Paid for the course, the coach, the community It wasn’t toxic. It wasn’t harmful. But it was a distraction. Because as long as I was “working on myself,” I didn’t have to be with myself. I didn’t have to feel the grief. The rage. The emptiness I kept outrunning. I thought I was healing. But I was intellectualizing my pain. Eventually, I realized: The most radical thing I could do wasn’t one more course. It was pause. Sit still. Put my hand on my heart. And just say: “I’m here.” If you’ve tried all the things and still feel stuck - your nervous system may be asking for a different kind of support. Get started with a free toolkit here: 👉 sangparth.com/linkedin

We live in extraordinary times. We need unscripted, raw, vulnerable, honest conversations now more than ever. I joined Ashley Blackington OTD, OTR/L recently to talk about immigration, nervous systems and co-regulation. Give it a listen and let us know your thoughts in the comments !

She Said ‘I Don’t Know Who I Am Without the Hustle’ I’ll never forget this client. After 12 years in corporate, she left her job. She thought she’d feel free. But within 3 weeks she was spiraling. Not because she missed the meetings. But because she missed the urgency. Her body had been wired for cortisol. Rest felt meaningless. Stillness felt like death. We had to rebuild her nervous system from scratch. Not to get her back to “normal” but to help her remember who she was before the hustle. Sometimes the hardest part of healing is not the pain. It’s the loss of identity.

I never felt more powerful than the day I gave birth. Not during my time at Accenture. Not during any pitch. Not during any award ceremony. I felt it during my daughter’s homebirth. I had never thought of myself as strong. I wasn’t “athletic.” Definitely not a size zero. But that day, I realized: My body knew something I didn’t. It made me wonder - If I could do this... what else could I do? Returning to corporate after maternity leave was never the same. I no longer looked at titles and org charts the same way. Because I had met the raw, wild, sacred intelligence of my nervous system. And now? I teach others how to meet theirs. 📌 Curious what nervous system regulation actually feels like? Book a call: https://lnkd.in/gMeikjDq

❌ Turning sons into achievement projects ❌ Constantly correcting and directing their behavior ❌ Creating elaborate systems to “fix” their problems Instead of: ✅ Creating safety through your regulated presence ✅ Showing up with authenticity over perfectionism ✅ Prioritizing connection before correction This week saw three dads reach out to me to say “the rage is mine” - and we started work together. Move over old patterns. Who says a well made show cannot create ripples of change ? #familynervoussystem #southasiandads #southasiansomatics #menwhoshowup #nervoussystemcoach #sangparth #adolescence

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Your brain is constantly creating to-do lists while in meetings. You find yourself zoning out when your children speak to you. You've excelled in your career while feeling like an imposter the entire time. ⚠️ These aren't character flaws. They're signs of a chronically dysregulated nervous system. As a South Asian woman with immigrant experience, you've likely been told: ❌ "Just work harder" ❌ "Be grateful for what you have" ❌ "Stop complaining and push through" So you've mastered appearing calm. Meanwhile, your internal alarm system never stops ringing. 🔥 That hypervigilance made you excel at: → Anticipating problems before they happen → Reading subtle cues in meetings → Being "always on" and responsive → Delivering under impossible deadlines It's why you've succeeded professionally. But at what cost? Your system can't differentiate between: • A difficult performance review • A disagreement with your partner • A child spilling milk at dinner All are processed as threats. The constant cortisol surges exhaust your body at a cellular level. ⛔ This isn't something you can solve with: • Another productivity app • More self-discipline • A different job • Yet another mindfulness course True regulation happens when your nervous system learns what safety actually feels like. When you can be present with your children without mentally drafting emails. When authority figures no longer trigger your heart to race. When you can give yourself permission to rest without guilt. ✨ Don't let your dysregulated nervous system continue driving your actions. You deserve to experience true presence and ease. 💌 If you're curious about what a regulated nervous system feels like,book a free call here : https://lnkd.in/gMeikjDq

"Matrimony is not marriage. Nor is it relationship. And there’s no parallel condition that any of us are ushered into called patrimony. On the surface of it, not very inclusive. It is the event that is supposed to make marriage out of love (and out of other things, not all of them noble). Matrimony is supposed to make people married, to give their strengths and longings and dreams a place to appear in the world. It is in every sense of the word a ceremony, a conjuring act, an event of wizardry that must craft something that is not there otherwise. It is there to deepen, animate and humanize the corner of the world it happens in. Matrimony is among us to change the world.” - Stephen Jenkinson.

I didn’t leave corporate because I failed. I left because I broke. From Accenture to Oracle to Adobe - I had the titles. The paychecks. The global teams. I also had migraines, insomnia, and a constant voice saying: “Try harder. Don’t mess this up.” I wasn’t burned out from work. I was burned out from trying to belong. As a South Asian woman in leadership, I never felt safe to just be - I had to perform intelligence. Neutrality. Gratitude. Leaving wasn’t an escape. It was an act of survival. Today, I help other high-achieving women recognize when their nervous system is asking them to stay... And when it's screaming to go.

A woman came to me once and said: “I need to feel safe so I can stop passing my anxiety to my kids.” She wasn’t doing “inner work” for Instagram. She was doing it because she saw the ripple effect of her dysregulation. In how her daughter froze when she raised her voice. In how her son stopped asking questions. In how she couldn’t enjoy bedtime because she was already worrying about tomorrow. This is why I do this work. Not to fix people. But to change the emotional legacy we hand down. Regulation doesn’t just change your life. It changes the room you walk into. The children you raise. The world you build. If you’re ready to break the cycle- not just for you, but for those you love- Let’s start with a conversation: https://lnkd.in/gMeikjDq

"Maybe I should just become a coach..." is an overactive flight response. Another Team Call. You smile, close your laptop, and think: "I should quit .... " "How do I do what you do Sangheetha ?" I get these DMs more times that you'd imagine. That urge to abandon your hard-won leadership position to "help others" instead? It's often NOT a calling. It's your nervous system in FLIGHT mode. 🔍 When the weight of leadership feels overwhelming: → Managing teams through uncertainty → Navigating microaggressions in the boardroom → Balancing work demands with family expectations → Feeling responsible for everyone's well-being Your brain offers an escape fantasy: "If I just had a different career, I'd find peace." ❌ Here's what I won't do: Sell you a quick-path certification program claiming you can "become me" in 6 weeks. (Last I checked, Udemy offers a 5 dollar trauma certification....) What took me 12+ years of: • Deep clinical training • Intensive apprenticeships with world experts • Thousands of client hours • Cultural competency development • My own healing journey Cannot be packaged into a certificate that lets you avoid your own healing work. The desire to "help others" before addressing your own dysregulation isn't a career path – it's an avoidance strategy. You can't sit with others' pain if you can't sit with your own. That's how harm happens in this field. 💫 I understand the impulse to flee. I've been there. But rather than exacerbating your flight response by offering an illusory escape hatch, I'd rather give you tools to: • Regulate your nervous system within your current role • Set boundaries that honor your well-being • Lead from a place of authentic power • Bring somatic awareness to your leadership So you can make decisions from a centered place rather than a reactive one. ✨ The truth? Some may eventually build a career in coaching after years of practice. But most will discover that bringing nervous system regulation to your existing leadership makes you: • More impactful • Less depleted • More authentic • Better equipped to support your team What if instead of fleeing leadership, you transformed how you experience it? 💌 If you're curious about how to regulate your nervous system within your leadership role (rather than escaping it) book a call here :